I ate a really big meal at dinner time tonight with my on again/off again g/f Simone (pronounced Sea-mahn) and after dinner, one of her friends came over, May (pronounced M-eye) and we were just sitting around talking. Then May and Simone start giggling and acting all weird. Then they say they are going to put on nun's costumes. So---I say ';go ahead'; all smiling. They come back into the kitchen and I'm getting all aroused and then Simone asks if I'd like a ';special sandwich';? Now, normally, I'd be delighted, but I just ate and quite frankly I was more interested in sex so I said ';I wasn't hungry'; and they both got angry and left. Well...I wasn't hungry. I wanted to make out! Why would they get all adorned in such provocative outfits to have a snack?? I'm so confused. Any advice would be appreciated.Please help----more relationship advice!?
You know what they wanted and they knew it. You wanted them to spell it out to you, right?Please help----more relationship advice!?
I think they wanted you to play 'Hide the Carrot in the Bunny Hole.'
For rules about this game, check this out:
www.HideCarrotGame.com
i think maybe they wanted you 2 eat the sandwhich just maybe..
i think they meant 3some
I'd like a sandwich... I'm hungry now, perhaps they could come to my house and make me some food :)
They wanted to have a threesome.
they were referring to being hungry in a sexual manner.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
So here's the deal... this girl I've been seeing for almost a month... by seeing I mean hanging out and kissing and stuff, tells me she doesn't know what she wants. She says she doesn't want to go back out with her ex bf but I saw them talking at school and heard they talked at a party the other day. She tells me that she doesn't want a relationship yet (cause her last one was like 2 1/2 years) and that she doesn't know what she wants. I'm thinking about telling her that I'll wait for her if she just isn't ready for anything serious but that i won't wait if she is going to keep talking to him...(btw he is very persuasive and has gotten her to go back out with him before even though he treats her bad). Is this appropriate to say or should I just give it a little time?PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
I think instead of giving her an ultimatum, you should be specific and tell her what you think about him and how your only doing it in her best interest, tell her how you feel about her also, so that she knows that you want to be more than friends. She may think you are just trying to force her to choose if you give her a choice like that.
-Katie
P.S. i think its sweet that you care about her like that.PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
tell her that you want to be with her for sure so she knows and then if she says she doesn't know then tell her that you will wait for her answer no matter what it is ( and actually be patient girls are supper complicated if you haven't noticed)
say what you want.
she obviously thinks highly enough to kiss you and hang out with you so perhaps your feelings will be received in a caring manner. If not then screw her and move on pal...
She's lying that is what us females do to sometimes get rid of a guy we are really not into like that and if she wasn't ready for a relationship is she kissing on you?!? don't tell her you'll wait then she would just string you along and you'll end up getting hurt in the end.
make sure she knows you like her. and be try to understand but make sure she isn't just trying to telll you she isnt interestead, gurls try to do that alot! ;]
let her tihnk and keep things how they are. But i say if she's still ';going out'; with you and confused or unsure you need to talk to her about what her plan is as far as making up her mind and where ou fit in and where he fits in.nail polish
I think instead of giving her an ultimatum, you should be specific and tell her what you think about him and how your only doing it in her best interest, tell her how you feel about her also, so that she knows that you want to be more than friends. She may think you are just trying to force her to choose if you give her a choice like that.
-Katie
P.S. i think its sweet that you care about her like that.PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
tell her that you want to be with her for sure so she knows and then if she says she doesn't know then tell her that you will wait for her answer no matter what it is ( and actually be patient girls are supper complicated if you haven't noticed)
say what you want.
she obviously thinks highly enough to kiss you and hang out with you so perhaps your feelings will be received in a caring manner. If not then screw her and move on pal...
She's lying that is what us females do to sometimes get rid of a guy we are really not into like that and if she wasn't ready for a relationship is she kissing on you?!? don't tell her you'll wait then she would just string you along and you'll end up getting hurt in the end.
make sure she knows you like her. and be try to understand but make sure she isn't just trying to telll you she isnt interestead, gurls try to do that alot! ;]
let her tihnk and keep things how they are. But i say if she's still ';going out'; with you and confused or unsure you need to talk to her about what her plan is as far as making up her mind and where ou fit in and where he fits in.
SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
My friend needed me to post this:
She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.
Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...
His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)
Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!
Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.
Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Let it run it's course and there is nothing you can do but be there when she needs you, but up to a point because if all the time she is alone with you is all about complaining it can get old. Don't get involved if they argue in front of you though because that would be too much drama for me.SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Well, it sounds like they both are very insecure with one another. Until they can be secure with themselves, they wont be able to have a functional relationship. I know how it can be with being jealous. When my husband and I first got together, i was very jealous of any other girl who might talk to him or look at him. Now that we've been married for two years, and Im comfortable with who I am and where I am at in my life, Im not jealous. When we cold be OK with who we were, then we were OK with each other. We have a great relationship now.
They choose to be in that relationship. They're not married and don't have kids together. There is nothing in that relationship that is keeping them together but themselves. If in 2009 you can choose to leave your husband after a year of ';marriage'; and divorce him because he cheated or didn't cheat., but two people that are in a ridiculous ';relationship';, where they are both so obviously unhappy with each other, can't break up and move on to live a much happier life with someone else. Move on you two! You don't owe each other anything. Break up with each other nicely, and forget about all the drama and go enjoy the adventure.
She needs to LOOSEN UP!!!! Or they are going to get into a HUGE fight and someone is going to get hurt because of bottled up anger or they are going to hate eachother. They need to give eachother more freedom the relationship iss sooo not healthy.
move on
Wow I wish that my marital problems were like these instead of the crap I put up with, get into marriage counseling and get a good one. Oh and make sure that you both agree to stay with the counselor till the counselor gets you to the point he wants. Also get the hubby to get on anti-depressants he might have anxiety.. It shouldn't be hard to not look at girls when she's there but harder not to look at them when she's gone..
First I must ask have you shown this request for advise to your friend's wife or husband? I am curious. If you are a friend whose friend are you? If you say a friend of the family..........wrong answer. If you say I was his or her friend first we are getting some where! Now sport tell me which is it.
Here is why I asked. Some one has confidence in you. I do not want to assume anything. But let us consider this. If you are male writing on her behalf or a female writing his behalf you have a potential for adding fuel to the fire. If however you are female writing on her behalf and male writing on his behalf you are on track but skating on thin ice. You are the next subject of contention.
Okay all of that made clear as muddy water we must now announce ';Huston to control crew we have a problem'; Diagnosis of the Problem is both individuals suffer from identification crisis phenomenon manic impulsive control tendencies with personality behavioral deficiencies. These individuals feed their neurosis by superimposing their individual preferences on the other. while denying the other the right to think and act independently.
Treatment. Because these two personalities have developed under similar situations, circumstances and conditions independently over 21 and 24 years their psyche is rigid and unyielding. Both individuals have to be thought to respect that each individual has the right to think and act for him or her selves without interference. As their friend give this response to both of them sealed in envelopes. Include the names of three local psychologists, Three sociologists three clinical therapists along with instructions of how to contact each of the professionals to set up individual and group appointments. Have them have an initial screening by each professional to see which professional they can work with best.
Prognosis. Since years of neglect missed opportunities have culminated in the behavioral deficiencies and development of these two young adults a significant allotment of time into roll reversal therapy is highly recommended. Hopefully with time and therapy these individuals can become normal functioning individuals who may be able to curb their toxic control of each other.
Failing to recognize the above I see no long term hope for these two people living and peacefully co existing in a respectful way. if they continue to spy and pry, lie and deny their uncontrollable desire to live the others life without consideration for how the impact each other negatively.
Other then the above they are normal. Honestly most people would like to control their spouses that way but one re-bells the other reacts and abuse quickly follows. The domestic scene becomes chronic arguments with the potential for injury and death crime and punishment.
I have elected to discuss the symptoms not the incidents. My recommendation is to attack the cause not the symptoms thereby eliminating the root cause.
This all calls for a professional help. Hope they can afford it.Look it does not matter they love each other love has nothing to do with manipulation and control. They will continue to do the same things to new partners until they individually check them selves for therapeutics help. I either of your friends need a quick encouragement let them drop me an email. I'll respond
Good luck sport.
Hope this helps
Next time
Any advice for her?
Half the world's population is female, and her flipping out every time he might see another female is flaming ridiculous! She needs serious help. She either has major league control issues or major league insecurity issues 9or both), which will end this relationship sooner or later UNLESS she gets help to get a handle on HER problems.
Any advice about him?
He is just as bad. He was allowed to go out alone, partying and drinking, until she came of age, NOW they can't go out at all? ';...He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship...when once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him.'; Talk about the double standard thing. That gets the thumbs down too.
They are not only not good for each other, neither seems mature enough to be in any sort of relationship at all.
This is not a relationship It is co-dependency to the extreme They made each other their prison and prison guard.
This has nothing to do with love, but everything with control and lack of self esteem. If she is scared of loosing him she is doing a great job of driving him away. If he is trying to keep her in line he is doing a great job to becoming an abuser.
The are as bad as each other and will succeed in making each other totally miserable They do not need YA! The need professional help and even then I think it may be a waste of time.
She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.
Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...
His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)
Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!
Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.
Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Let it run it's course and there is nothing you can do but be there when she needs you, but up to a point because if all the time she is alone with you is all about complaining it can get old. Don't get involved if they argue in front of you though because that would be too much drama for me.SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Well, it sounds like they both are very insecure with one another. Until they can be secure with themselves, they wont be able to have a functional relationship. I know how it can be with being jealous. When my husband and I first got together, i was very jealous of any other girl who might talk to him or look at him. Now that we've been married for two years, and Im comfortable with who I am and where I am at in my life, Im not jealous. When we cold be OK with who we were, then we were OK with each other. We have a great relationship now.
They choose to be in that relationship. They're not married and don't have kids together. There is nothing in that relationship that is keeping them together but themselves. If in 2009 you can choose to leave your husband after a year of ';marriage'; and divorce him because he cheated or didn't cheat., but two people that are in a ridiculous ';relationship';, where they are both so obviously unhappy with each other, can't break up and move on to live a much happier life with someone else. Move on you two! You don't owe each other anything. Break up with each other nicely, and forget about all the drama and go enjoy the adventure.
She needs to LOOSEN UP!!!! Or they are going to get into a HUGE fight and someone is going to get hurt because of bottled up anger or they are going to hate eachother. They need to give eachother more freedom the relationship iss sooo not healthy.
move on
Wow I wish that my marital problems were like these instead of the crap I put up with, get into marriage counseling and get a good one. Oh and make sure that you both agree to stay with the counselor till the counselor gets you to the point he wants. Also get the hubby to get on anti-depressants he might have anxiety.. It shouldn't be hard to not look at girls when she's there but harder not to look at them when she's gone..
First I must ask have you shown this request for advise to your friend's wife or husband? I am curious. If you are a friend whose friend are you? If you say a friend of the family..........wrong answer. If you say I was his or her friend first we are getting some where! Now sport tell me which is it.
Here is why I asked. Some one has confidence in you. I do not want to assume anything. But let us consider this. If you are male writing on her behalf or a female writing his behalf you have a potential for adding fuel to the fire. If however you are female writing on her behalf and male writing on his behalf you are on track but skating on thin ice. You are the next subject of contention.
Okay all of that made clear as muddy water we must now announce ';Huston to control crew we have a problem'; Diagnosis of the Problem is both individuals suffer from identification crisis phenomenon manic impulsive control tendencies with personality behavioral deficiencies. These individuals feed their neurosis by superimposing their individual preferences on the other. while denying the other the right to think and act independently.
Treatment. Because these two personalities have developed under similar situations, circumstances and conditions independently over 21 and 24 years their psyche is rigid and unyielding. Both individuals have to be thought to respect that each individual has the right to think and act for him or her selves without interference. As their friend give this response to both of them sealed in envelopes. Include the names of three local psychologists, Three sociologists three clinical therapists along with instructions of how to contact each of the professionals to set up individual and group appointments. Have them have an initial screening by each professional to see which professional they can work with best.
Prognosis. Since years of neglect missed opportunities have culminated in the behavioral deficiencies and development of these two young adults a significant allotment of time into roll reversal therapy is highly recommended. Hopefully with time and therapy these individuals can become normal functioning individuals who may be able to curb their toxic control of each other.
Failing to recognize the above I see no long term hope for these two people living and peacefully co existing in a respectful way. if they continue to spy and pry, lie and deny their uncontrollable desire to live the others life without consideration for how the impact each other negatively.
Other then the above they are normal. Honestly most people would like to control their spouses that way but one re-bells the other reacts and abuse quickly follows. The domestic scene becomes chronic arguments with the potential for injury and death crime and punishment.
I have elected to discuss the symptoms not the incidents. My recommendation is to attack the cause not the symptoms thereby eliminating the root cause.
This all calls for a professional help. Hope they can afford it.Look it does not matter they love each other love has nothing to do with manipulation and control. They will continue to do the same things to new partners until they individually check them selves for therapeutics help. I either of your friends need a quick encouragement let them drop me an email. I'll respond
Good luck sport.
Hope this helps
Next time
Any advice for her?
Half the world's population is female, and her flipping out every time he might see another female is flaming ridiculous! She needs serious help. She either has major league control issues or major league insecurity issues 9or both), which will end this relationship sooner or later UNLESS she gets help to get a handle on HER problems.
Any advice about him?
He is just as bad. He was allowed to go out alone, partying and drinking, until she came of age, NOW they can't go out at all? ';...He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship...when once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him.'; Talk about the double standard thing. That gets the thumbs down too.
They are not only not good for each other, neither seems mature enough to be in any sort of relationship at all.
This is not a relationship It is co-dependency to the extreme They made each other their prison and prison guard.
This has nothing to do with love, but everything with control and lack of self esteem. If she is scared of loosing him she is doing a great job of driving him away. If he is trying to keep her in line he is doing a great job to becoming an abuser.
The are as bad as each other and will succeed in making each other totally miserable They do not need YA! The need professional help and even then I think it may be a waste of time.
In need of relationship advice about this guy?
This guy at my job is giving me mixed signals:first, he keeps asking about me through different co-workers, he has called up to my job asking for me more than once, and he told one of my co workers he was going to come up to my job, but he never showed up, so I called him to calm him down because he was scaring me, we talked for over two hours,and he told me that I have his number that I can call him anytime and during the conversation we talked about work,and he tells me that hes had a sexual harrassment case,he explained the story to me,and he tells me to call him..so a few days later I call him, and we talk and he tells me hes scared to call or anything because he has sexual harrassment cases, and he doesnt know if I'm taping our concersation,or if I'm setting him up,and I start laughing,and he says';see you laughing and stuff,see I dont know about you';and he goes on to say He wants to see me in person';but hes not sure if I'm intrested in him,even though I invited him for coffee, but tells me ';well i know you';re intrested now'; so I'll call you,but he hasn't called and its been a week..but I keep hearing that hes asking about me..In need of relationship advice about this guy?
It's amazing how women can't see that big neon sign over a guys head that says ';NUTS';!In need of relationship advice about this guy?
if some chick is doing that crap to him he may be worried that you are working for the chick trying to get evidence... That must be so hard for him. try to be friends get to know eachother and try to build some trust. invite him to go do stuff and remind him that if you are taping the conversation over the phone you have to tell him you are taping it or it is not legal.
sadly it is very easy to say someone has sexully harassed you... it takes a lot of b*%26amp;^s for him to have shared that with you.
1st - never date guys you work with - Business school day 1
2nd - stalker - asking co-workers about you? - Red Flag
3rd - scaring you - apparently not - you called him
4th - he has a harassment case - Red Flag
5th - worried you are taping his call - Red Flag
6th - thinks you are setting him up- Red Flag
This is not a relationship, you actual have to date to be in a relationship, you are business colleagues and if you don't pay attention to the flags he may be your stalker.
Be very careful about him as theres a reason why he has these sexual harassment cases and you dont need to be one of them. Sure he tells you his version, wether its the truth or not doesnt really matter as these cases still exist for a reason. The question is are they only work place related or doe he have criminal charges pending, so he has nothing to lose? Something tells me the latter is true because hes still at work and able to contact whomever he wants. He may be interesting but you dont need someone like him in your life as life is complicated enough without looking for more trouble, especially at work, and since there are many more available fish out here. Choice is yours but pleas be extra careful. Good luck
It's amazing how women can't see that big neon sign over a guys head that says ';NUTS';!In need of relationship advice about this guy?
if some chick is doing that crap to him he may be worried that you are working for the chick trying to get evidence... That must be so hard for him. try to be friends get to know eachother and try to build some trust. invite him to go do stuff and remind him that if you are taping the conversation over the phone you have to tell him you are taping it or it is not legal.
sadly it is very easy to say someone has sexully harassed you... it takes a lot of b*%26amp;^s for him to have shared that with you.
1st - never date guys you work with - Business school day 1
2nd - stalker - asking co-workers about you? - Red Flag
3rd - scaring you - apparently not - you called him
4th - he has a harassment case - Red Flag
5th - worried you are taping his call - Red Flag
6th - thinks you are setting him up- Red Flag
This is not a relationship, you actual have to date to be in a relationship, you are business colleagues and if you don't pay attention to the flags he may be your stalker.
Be very careful about him as theres a reason why he has these sexual harassment cases and you dont need to be one of them. Sure he tells you his version, wether its the truth or not doesnt really matter as these cases still exist for a reason. The question is are they only work place related or doe he have criminal charges pending, so he has nothing to lose? Something tells me the latter is true because hes still at work and able to contact whomever he wants. He may be interesting but you dont need someone like him in your life as life is complicated enough without looking for more trouble, especially at work, and since there are many more available fish out here. Choice is yours but pleas be extra careful. Good luck
I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
I have been dating this awesome guy for a year and a half. I really do care for him, he means so much to me. He was the first person I ever really kissed. I am 20 and he is 24. We spend almost every day together it seems. We dont fight , no joke we have never had a fight. About two months ago I found a letter that he wrote to his ex. saying that he still loves her, that no matter what he will always love her more..( not to make him sound like the bad guy here , I am a very hard person to get involved with. I dont let my gard down ever. I dont show emotions, and i never tell him how i feel about some things becasue thats just the way i am , im not that kind of person. I dont even tell my best friends anything im a private person and always have been) anyway, when i found that letter, it was like i was hit with a ton of bricks. I did not tell him i read it for like a month. I think i tried to convince myself that i did not love him as much as i do, and I really do , so much. I dont really think he knows how much i do. .. He told me that he will not talk to her again, because he wants to move on, he wants us to work things out. I want to believe it so bad, but i cant help thinking every day that im his second pick girl , that he is with me because he cant have her. I dont know , what to do , its killing me not knowing why he is with me or what he really wants. He is thinking about joining the air force, he says its to actually make something of his life but i think its to get away from me and all of his other problems and I am so damn lost. He is the first boyfriend I have ever had and I am not too good on relationship things i guess. What would be some signs that he really does love me for me and not becasue i resemble that girl, or becasue he can have her. I have tried so hard , i have changed so manythings about my self to prove how I feel and I dont think he understands what I am going through. I dont want to loose him , i dont think i could take that. I just dont know ......I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
Well girl Cheer Up... I sailed in the same boat some times Back!
Dont worry.
Well u have so many problems and not just one. So my answer is gonna be too long. :-D... so here we goooooooooo......
First, How does it matter to u if u are a second girl he picked or third?If u love him so much, this shouldn't be any of ur concerns First Thing.So lets chuck off this issue completely from its root here otself Ok?
Now second, he wrote her a letter, and which he just mentioned he still loves her. well it must be coz he is still not over her ... not because u are incapable of something but just that he really loved her and some how things didnt work out tht way. I have the similar problem. My boyfriend was not able to forget his ex. I took it otherwise and had made issues so many time, but everytime it happened, we both were hurt. He needed me to give him support and take him out of his past relationship. Slowly and slowly I started being patient and tried to understand his feelings.
If u really love this guy, better be patient and a real true lover with whom he can share anything and everything. Later my boyfriend started sharing the times he spent with her and slowly and slowly my patience, Love %26amp; care took him out of his past. U to need to be patient coz he needs someone who could back him up. I know u are a nice girl and thts the reason u are so much troubled. But if u really cant make up with it u always have an option to move on and get someone new guy, but Mind you, no relation on this earth is 100% fair. every relationship has complications. u found problems in this relationship, u would find something else and different in other. So, one needs to be patient, know how to comprmise in some situation. then only things work out fine and lasts long.
Well, your next issue that u aren't good enough may be??? Well i dont agree, If you weren't tht good enough, then why did u had no fights or this relationship didnt end in some mnths, why is it from last 1-1 1/2 years old. Believe in urself. He does love you and wants you to be around else he wouldnt have been with you this long. give him sometime to get over his ex. talk to him nicely and very openly abt this. tell him he shoudl feel free to shae his feeling with you whenever he wishes. and dont think that he is with you just coz he cant have her..... then he could have stayed with soem else as well ... why only you? he loves youa nd he really wants a future with u. Its just a matter of time ... everything will be fine soon in your life. Just dont panic. He wants to go in Airforce, buck him up, support him. It may be (which is quite possible i guess so) just your mind's thinking that he wants to go away from u and other stuffs. wht if u are wrong and he really wants to do something about it?
U dont have to to do like his ex used to, coz if he really wanted you to be tht way, he would have complaint on the way u actually are. He never did so right? clearly means he loves you the way you are honey.
Just dont be paranoid, just stay calm, leave it on time. You keep loving him the way you have always, be supportive, give him some time and space to get over his ex. He is definitely urs and will be urs only.
I hope you get peace of your mind soon.
Just keep smiling and be cheerful dear, dont panic or be sad abt something which u r just doubting on. Let things come up on its own, if he really has to be with you he will, if he doesnt have to, he would have gone away long back. he wouldn't have stayed this long.
Take Care!
Cheers!
Pearl!I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
just be honest
talk to him
or u could show him what u just wrote...let him read it and then he might understand
Make him choose, either her or you he can't have both and you are not the back up plan in case they get back together. Make it clear be hard you might not like it but its the best way
you problem is that the guy is all wrong for you. If he doesnt love you more, that's his problem and he shouldn't ruin your life by making you feel upset all the time. and if you don't show enough emotion around him, that might be because he's not the right guy for you. you need some one that makes you feel safe and makes you fell happy all the time. this guy is a jerk and your too blind to see it. P.S. This is advice a teenager... lol.... i know more than you! jk
I think, u should understand the reality of life. There is nothing to loose.. He is playing games with both of u.. u r such a small in age %26amp; u have to concentrate on your future.. what is your future plan for life ? what is his educational qualification ? will he be able to give u all happiness ? will your parents allow you for this relation ? This relation will also disappoint him.. Ask him about his letter u read %26amp; if u feel that answer is not satisfactory, just forget him.. may be u get better person as a life partner in future.. So, just throw him away from your life %26amp; concentrate on your future %26amp; make sure that this relation doesn't spoil relation with your parents.. So, forget him %26amp; enjoy..
dear...
you;re so hung up on him only cuz he's the first guy u've been with....
otherwise by the things u just said all guys sound like that only when they talk about their ex's that they wish tomove on ,they'l never talk to em,,,,blah ..blah,...
n once they are over em they never talk to them...
so seems ur guy aint yet over his ex...
n he dosnt seems to feel what all u have for himm....
n its better to let go of someone who cant b compatible on the terms of feeling....
n since he's into someone else he can never have all that for you...
so better let go of him ......it's going to be really hard ..but its the right thing to do...
and the only way to make him realise what a cruel thing he did to you.....
he's so ot worth ur feelings...
take care dear,....
Well girl Cheer Up... I sailed in the same boat some times Back!
Dont worry.
Well u have so many problems and not just one. So my answer is gonna be too long. :-D... so here we goooooooooo......
First, How does it matter to u if u are a second girl he picked or third?If u love him so much, this shouldn't be any of ur concerns First Thing.So lets chuck off this issue completely from its root here otself Ok?
Now second, he wrote her a letter, and which he just mentioned he still loves her. well it must be coz he is still not over her ... not because u are incapable of something but just that he really loved her and some how things didnt work out tht way. I have the similar problem. My boyfriend was not able to forget his ex. I took it otherwise and had made issues so many time, but everytime it happened, we both were hurt. He needed me to give him support and take him out of his past relationship. Slowly and slowly I started being patient and tried to understand his feelings.
If u really love this guy, better be patient and a real true lover with whom he can share anything and everything. Later my boyfriend started sharing the times he spent with her and slowly and slowly my patience, Love %26amp; care took him out of his past. U to need to be patient coz he needs someone who could back him up. I know u are a nice girl and thts the reason u are so much troubled. But if u really cant make up with it u always have an option to move on and get someone new guy, but Mind you, no relation on this earth is 100% fair. every relationship has complications. u found problems in this relationship, u would find something else and different in other. So, one needs to be patient, know how to comprmise in some situation. then only things work out fine and lasts long.
Well, your next issue that u aren't good enough may be??? Well i dont agree, If you weren't tht good enough, then why did u had no fights or this relationship didnt end in some mnths, why is it from last 1-1 1/2 years old. Believe in urself. He does love you and wants you to be around else he wouldnt have been with you this long. give him sometime to get over his ex. talk to him nicely and very openly abt this. tell him he shoudl feel free to shae his feeling with you whenever he wishes. and dont think that he is with you just coz he cant have her..... then he could have stayed with soem else as well ... why only you? he loves youa nd he really wants a future with u. Its just a matter of time ... everything will be fine soon in your life. Just dont panic. He wants to go in Airforce, buck him up, support him. It may be (which is quite possible i guess so) just your mind's thinking that he wants to go away from u and other stuffs. wht if u are wrong and he really wants to do something about it?
U dont have to to do like his ex used to, coz if he really wanted you to be tht way, he would have complaint on the way u actually are. He never did so right? clearly means he loves you the way you are honey.
Just dont be paranoid, just stay calm, leave it on time. You keep loving him the way you have always, be supportive, give him some time and space to get over his ex. He is definitely urs and will be urs only.
I hope you get peace of your mind soon.
Just keep smiling and be cheerful dear, dont panic or be sad abt something which u r just doubting on. Let things come up on its own, if he really has to be with you he will, if he doesnt have to, he would have gone away long back. he wouldn't have stayed this long.
Take Care!
Cheers!
Pearl!I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
just be honest
talk to him
or u could show him what u just wrote...let him read it and then he might understand
Make him choose, either her or you he can't have both and you are not the back up plan in case they get back together. Make it clear be hard you might not like it but its the best way
you problem is that the guy is all wrong for you. If he doesnt love you more, that's his problem and he shouldn't ruin your life by making you feel upset all the time. and if you don't show enough emotion around him, that might be because he's not the right guy for you. you need some one that makes you feel safe and makes you fell happy all the time. this guy is a jerk and your too blind to see it. P.S. This is advice a teenager... lol.... i know more than you! jk
I think, u should understand the reality of life. There is nothing to loose.. He is playing games with both of u.. u r such a small in age %26amp; u have to concentrate on your future.. what is your future plan for life ? what is his educational qualification ? will he be able to give u all happiness ? will your parents allow you for this relation ? This relation will also disappoint him.. Ask him about his letter u read %26amp; if u feel that answer is not satisfactory, just forget him.. may be u get better person as a life partner in future.. So, just throw him away from your life %26amp; concentrate on your future %26amp; make sure that this relation doesn't spoil relation with your parents.. So, forget him %26amp; enjoy..
dear...
you;re so hung up on him only cuz he's the first guy u've been with....
otherwise by the things u just said all guys sound like that only when they talk about their ex's that they wish tomove on ,they'l never talk to em,,,,blah ..blah,...
n once they are over em they never talk to them...
so seems ur guy aint yet over his ex...
n he dosnt seems to feel what all u have for himm....
n its better to let go of someone who cant b compatible on the terms of feeling....
n since he's into someone else he can never have all that for you...
so better let go of him ......it's going to be really hard ..but its the right thing to do...
and the only way to make him realise what a cruel thing he did to you.....
he's so ot worth ur feelings...
take care dear,....
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Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
ok so i went out with this guy for about a month and it was soo perfect , like i know alot of people say this but hes really not like ANY other guy i even met. i dont care what anyone says like this guy is perfect.
but anyways..
so i moved about an hour away from where i used to live soo i knew i wasnt gonna be able to see him as muchh..
but i stayed w/ him instead to see how things were gonna turn out and it was horrible because it kinda kicked in that i might not ever see him again but we talk every day on the phone and on myspace and he just makes me feel so different from all the other girls..
so we broke up and stopped talkin for about a month but we just started talking again like 2 days ago and he was just telling me how he thought about me everyday since we broke up and thatt he feels like the distance doesnt matter. and its not that easy for me to see him because im only 16 and i dont drive yet..like i just feel like i just havnt fully let him go because i believe that one day , we'll have our second chance
but i was just wondering like should i
go for what my heart says and set myself up for heartbreak again
or go for what my mind says and risk losing my 1st love..Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
don't risk losing it! it sounds like both of you really like each other, so why would you want to let that go? you didn't necessarily have your heart broken because he said that he still likes you and wants to be with you regardless of the distance. once either one of you gets your license, it'll be a lot easier to visit each other. or if you both start to drive, have a meeting place! of course you haven't fully let go of him yet because there hasn't been any sort of closure or fight to drive you both apart. you both still like each other and the only thing that's stopping you both is the distance between you guys. if you really think he's worth it -- and it sounds like you do -- you should know that distance won't change the strength of your relationship. do anything in your power to make sure you guys remain in contact, if you want to see each other for the time being, get a webcam! :) it makes it a lot better than only talking on the phone or myspace -- at least you can see eachother in some way, right? don't let this one go, you guys really care about each other! hope i helped :)Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
Follow your heart.
There is never a guarantee with anything. See how it turns out. You don't know that there will be hearbreak again. Long distance relationships are hard but they are very possible. You have to be willing to put a lot of work and effort into it. Even more than couples who are not in a long distance relationship. Good luck.
Follow your heart sweetie.. wat hav u got 2 lose
x
Mm a conundrum, you didn't say how old he is, cant he come and visit you at the weekend may be your folks would let him stay over if you are that serious about each other. We all get our hearts broken at some time or other but if its worth the possibility that at some time down the line it might happen but you could be having a ball just know then maybe its worth a try. I lived in Scotland and my husband lived in Egypt for about a year before i moved over to be with him with just a few short visits in between it was hard but worth it in the end. Good Luck.
ok so i went out with this guy for about a month and it was soo perfect , like i know alot of people say this but hes really not like ANY other guy i even met. i dont care what anyone says like this guy is perfect.
but anyways..
so i moved about an hour away from where i used to live soo i knew i wasnt gonna be able to see him as muchh..
but i stayed w/ him instead to see how things were gonna turn out and it was horrible because it kinda kicked in that i might not ever see him again but we talk every day on the phone and on myspace and he just makes me feel so different from all the other girls..
so we broke up and stopped talkin for about a month but we just started talking again like 2 days ago and he was just telling me how he thought about me everyday since we broke up and thatt he feels like the distance doesnt matter. and its not that easy for me to see him because im only 16 and i dont drive yet..like i just feel like i just havnt fully let him go because i believe that one day , we'll have our second chance
but i was just wondering like should i
go for what my heart says and set myself up for heartbreak again
or go for what my mind says and risk losing my 1st love..Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
don't risk losing it! it sounds like both of you really like each other, so why would you want to let that go? you didn't necessarily have your heart broken because he said that he still likes you and wants to be with you regardless of the distance. once either one of you gets your license, it'll be a lot easier to visit each other. or if you both start to drive, have a meeting place! of course you haven't fully let go of him yet because there hasn't been any sort of closure or fight to drive you both apart. you both still like each other and the only thing that's stopping you both is the distance between you guys. if you really think he's worth it -- and it sounds like you do -- you should know that distance won't change the strength of your relationship. do anything in your power to make sure you guys remain in contact, if you want to see each other for the time being, get a webcam! :) it makes it a lot better than only talking on the phone or myspace -- at least you can see eachother in some way, right? don't let this one go, you guys really care about each other! hope i helped :)Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
Follow your heart.
There is never a guarantee with anything. See how it turns out. You don't know that there will be hearbreak again. Long distance relationships are hard but they are very possible. You have to be willing to put a lot of work and effort into it. Even more than couples who are not in a long distance relationship. Good luck.
Follow your heart sweetie.. wat hav u got 2 lose
x
Mm a conundrum, you didn't say how old he is, cant he come and visit you at the weekend may be your folks would let him stay over if you are that serious about each other. We all get our hearts broken at some time or other but if its worth the possibility that at some time down the line it might happen but you could be having a ball just know then maybe its worth a try. I lived in Scotland and my husband lived in Egypt for about a year before i moved over to be with him with just a few short visits in between it was hard but worth it in the end. Good Luck.
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