NOW, i understand, but this is where my pride comes in. My heart physically hurts for him because I want to make him happy, but I know that I can never compare to what he has left back home. And by him stating he is never really happy during his stay here, that applies to the time that he spends with me as well. This makes me feel very inferior, and it wounds my pride. Simply put, although I want to help him and show him a good time, I don't like feeling inferior in a relationship. I feel like hes the right guy, but wrong place wrong time. Break up?I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
It's normal to feel homesick for everyone who goes away from his home for a long time. And it's not just the place he misses. It's his relatives and friends.
It takes a while to get used to a new place and to new relationships. And most people eventually adjust reasonably well.
You just need to give him some time. And eventually he will stop complaining about being away from his home.
His behavior is normal in these circumstances. Most people feel homesick when they go away from home. Most people behave for a while like your boyfriend does in these circumstances. And it has nothing to do with you being in second place.I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
Well, you could just plain ask him, are going to continue to pine away for your homeland, or are you going to try to make this work with me? Tell him its very frustrating hearing him say things like that, and that it hurts your feelings. Make sure he knows how you are feeling. It could possibly be that he isn't aware of what harm his words are causing you. But I would find out for sure before breaking up.
sometimes honey, for the greater good.. you have to let go of a lot of thing.. like ego and pride... but have a limit too, dont just become a door mat and take what may come. thats wrong too... I so much hate it when guys are such big babies and keep complaining about their home lands..
from my personal experiance.... .i'd tell you should start playing safe, and shake him a bit. Tell him to go away if he misses his mommy and daddy and his swings beside his little tree house... and then when he wakes up and realizes that you are his 'present.. and maybe future'... he'll know when to shut up, grow up and how to control his home sickness...
good luck.
break up! seriously....you don't need that!! life is to short to worry about stuff like that. you need to try a physcadelic trip
I'd say if you're questioning breaking up, it's probably the best idea. There are plenty more fish in the sea. And I understand how you feel, it's got to be hard with him saying that and basically implying he's not happy with you - that nothing compares to his homeland.
It's okay to move on.
I know what you mean.... at one point I was not happy with how my life was going and had little if any control over situations at the time. I complained to my bf that I hated how my life was and he took it to mean I also hated our relationship and was not happy in it. He is likely not lumping you into what makes him unhappy at all. But for your own sanity, if you do not intend to move with him to his country some day, you should find someone else. He will probably go back and then what happens to you?
personally i wud be offended by his constant complaints
its like hes jsut using u as a small distraction while he is away
i think next time he brings it up you shud definately say something like 'oh so theres nothing good in your life here??' or 'why dont u jsut leave then if there is nothing worth staying for' or 'well thanks that makes me feel great'
idk something to show him ur not gona take that **** anymore
he seems kind of like a drama queen i mean he musnt hav it that bad if he has such a careing gf like u right?
idk u can give him a chance to make it up but if he keeps treating u like an inferior i think its time to break it off
good luck hon!
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yea that s h i t wud drive me mad, tell him if he misses it so much to go back home... you'll find someone else, who isn't so ethnocentric...
that was really rude (sry but it was) of him to say that to you. you've offered him your love and all he says is that, basically, everyone sucks. i'd dump him nownownow.
obviously you should dump him
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