ME AND MY FIANCE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4YEARS BUT EVERY TIME I THINK OF MARRIAGE I GET ANXIETY . SO HERE IS a LITTLE BIT ABOUT ME I HAVE AANXIETYTDISORDEROR I AM ON MED BUT EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE FOR ABOUT 6 TO 8 MONTHS THEN I HAVE ANOTHER EPISODE . I am VERY HARD ON MYSELF I KNOW I NOT PERFECT AND I HAVE mANY FAULTS I am SO HARD ON MY SELF I ALWAYS THINK OF THE WORST IN EVERYTHING . I GUESS ITS BECAUSE I PREPARE MYSELF SO If something bad happens it will beasy erer i guess . WHICEVERY TIMEME IT IS TURNS OUT FINE . BUT ALL WAYAY QUESTION MY RELATIONSHIP IS HE THE RIGHT PERSON WILL IT LAST WHAT IF I DON'T LOVE HIM ANY MORE WHAT IF HDOESN'T'T LOVE ME ANY MORE what if me leave me what if he is with the wrong person and he find the right person WHAT IF WHAT IF WHAT IF WHY CANT I LIVE MY LIFE WITHOUT THE WHAT IFS WHEN I GO THREW THIS I TOTALLRUININ MY DAYS WHEN I SHOULD BE ENJOYING MY LIFE THEAL WAYAY THINKING THE WORST IN EVERYTHING MY FIANCE IS THE MOST WONDERFUL GUY SURE HE HAS IS FAULTS BUT WHO DOESN'T TO WOMEN GENERALLY GO THREW THIS IS IT MAnxietykY HOW CAN I STOP THIS AGAIN IT ONLY HAPPEN EVERY SO OFTEN BUEVERY TIMEME IT DOES I GET BETTER AND BETTEHANDLINGNG IT . BUT I TAKE ALOT OUT OF ME . WHAT SHOULD I DO .I need relationship advice ?
Meds without counseling is not doing you much good.
Find a qualified counselor and go get some serious help.
Until you have this under control you have no business getting married.
Your bf must be something special to stay with you like this.
Good luck.I need relationship advice ?
I really wish you the best of luck. But sometimes we need to take that chance, if he is the guy for you it could be a good thing for you to have someone stable and caring in your life. you know just like bad things can happen, so can good. Think about the good things and good things will happen.
Honey, if you are having this hard of a time communicating to us, can you imagine how it is for him. You cannot convey nor expect to get any kind of decent answer from anyone in this manner.
Take a deep breath, calm down, re-type your quesion and try again. AND by all means, use the spell checker.
Good luck to you!
I would recommend that you get some counseling to address the issues that you mentioned. You don't want to take these unresolved issues into a marriage.
Inspiring Love,
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What the hell is wrong with your CAPS lock button. Learn how to use a keyboard and re-type your question please. By the way thanks for the 2 points.
Please find a counselor to talk to about this.
Maybe your doctor should adjust your meds for split personality disorder as well. What's going on with the CAPS????
How old are you?! You wrote aanxietydisorderor as one word and med....
No one will answer this WHEN YOU ARE SCREAMING AT ALL OF US
OBVIOUSLY YOU KNOW THAT YOUR RUINING YOUR LIFE WITH WHAT IF'S , SO THE THING IS TO PUT ALL YOUR ANXIETY AND WORRIES INTO GOD AND ASK HIM TO TAKE THIS FROM YOU. BUT HONESTLY WHAT IS LIFE IF YOU DONT LIVE IT. THINGS ARE GOING TO HAPPEN THEY MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE, NOT ONLY THAT BUT YOUR PUTTING YOURSELF THROUGH THE WORST AND NOT EVEN GIVING THE GOOD A CHANCE. ITS NOT FAIR TO YOUR FIANCE EITHER. YES HE MAY LOVE YOU BUT YOU CAN ONLY PUSH A PERSON SO FAR
Saturday, July 31, 2010
I Need Relationship Advice?
I have been dating this guy for a little over a year now, he is the PERFECT boyfriend he literally treats me like I am a princess and he loves me so much and I love him, well atleast I think I do? I mean I know I should but the terrible thing is I often find myself thinking about my ex, missing him, etc. My ex and I dated off and on for about 4 years (it was very complicated) I broke his heart we got back together he broke mine and things never got better I guess...but I still get that butterfly feeling if I see him and I smile if he ever texts me...so I know it sounds like omg girl get back with your ex like common sense hello!? But it's never that easy...he wanted to be with me after we broke up but I was against it because he did alot of mean things to me..so now awhile later, I am thinking of how I feel about him and I kinda wanna get back with him but he doesn't want to. He is embarassed basically to stay with the same girl for such a long period of time, i duno DRAMA please helpI Need Relationship Advice?
Emily, let me start by saying you should never start a relationship when you're still not over your last one. Now, about this whole issue. I really don't think you should get back together with your ex. You even said it yourself: ';He is embarrassed basically to stay with the same girl for such a long period of time'; What does that tell you about him? Unless you want to climb back on that emotional roller coaster, it is not a good idea.
And here you have a guy who loves you and cherishes you right in front of your eyes. If its up to deciding between them, stay with your boyfriend. But I feel like you made him a rebound boyfriend. (I could be wrong)
And it sounded like you weren't in love with him.
Emily, What will make YOU happy? Don't put too much thought into this question, whatever your heart tells you. Following your heart is the best thing. Life is short, do what you have to!
Good luck with everything!I Need Relationship Advice?
an ex is an ex for a reason. i dont know what that reason is because i dont know you.
my advice: move on and stay with your current. resisting your ex may be difficult at times, but if you havent worked out (twice) then the likely hood is, being with him will only bring heart break.
No it will be the same bull sh*t. Just try to move on.
I know exactly what you mean. me and my bf broke up a few months ago i see him all the time as we have the same friend group and when i see him im like omg i reali love you i know i should be over him but i can't!it sounds so pathetic when i tell my mates but you can't help how you feel can you?! i have been with lads since we broke up but i can't help thinking about him when im with them. the only advice i can give you is follow your heart. life is to short. go for it! x
That sounds like a red flag relationship to me. You don't want to go back to a relationship that was off and on, constantly hurting each other. Especially if he can't see himself with the same girl for a long time. I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years and I still think about my exes. When you date someone you develop a very strong friendship, especially after 4 years. I think you will always have feeling for him, but you have to ask yourself if you want to go back to a destructive relationship. Do you want to go back to being hurt and unsure of how long it will last time?
Emily, let me start by saying you should never start a relationship when you're still not over your last one. Now, about this whole issue. I really don't think you should get back together with your ex. You even said it yourself: ';He is embarrassed basically to stay with the same girl for such a long period of time'; What does that tell you about him? Unless you want to climb back on that emotional roller coaster, it is not a good idea.
And here you have a guy who loves you and cherishes you right in front of your eyes. If its up to deciding between them, stay with your boyfriend. But I feel like you made him a rebound boyfriend. (I could be wrong)
And it sounded like you weren't in love with him.
Emily, What will make YOU happy? Don't put too much thought into this question, whatever your heart tells you. Following your heart is the best thing. Life is short, do what you have to!
Good luck with everything!I Need Relationship Advice?
an ex is an ex for a reason. i dont know what that reason is because i dont know you.
my advice: move on and stay with your current. resisting your ex may be difficult at times, but if you havent worked out (twice) then the likely hood is, being with him will only bring heart break.
No it will be the same bull sh*t. Just try to move on.
I know exactly what you mean. me and my bf broke up a few months ago i see him all the time as we have the same friend group and when i see him im like omg i reali love you i know i should be over him but i can't!it sounds so pathetic when i tell my mates but you can't help how you feel can you?! i have been with lads since we broke up but i can't help thinking about him when im with them. the only advice i can give you is follow your heart. life is to short. go for it! x
That sounds like a red flag relationship to me. You don't want to go back to a relationship that was off and on, constantly hurting each other. Especially if he can't see himself with the same girl for a long time. I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years and I still think about my exes. When you date someone you develop a very strong friendship, especially after 4 years. I think you will always have feeling for him, but you have to ask yourself if you want to go back to a destructive relationship. Do you want to go back to being hurt and unsure of how long it will last time?
I need relationship advice.?
Okay, basically this is about this guy. I have liked him for a couple of months, but it wasn't until recently that I actually told him I had feelings for him. Luckily, he told me he felt the same. Currently he lives several, and I mean several, states away from me, but we will both be attending the same college this fall.
When we first started talking about a potential relationship, we decided it would probably be best if we waiting to ';officially'; start dating until the fall when we could be together. (Starting a relationship long distance seemed like a bad idea)
The part about waiting until the fall was initially brought up by me.
Okay, well since this conversation about waiting, we have talked every single day, whether that be through text messages or aim. He even WROTE me a lullaby and sent me a dozen roses on my birthday. Cute, right? Well so I figured we were kinda dating.
But, when went to visit him and some other friends this last weekend, he acted kind of standoffish. (except every night when we slept together)
This was the first time I had seen him in person since we had started talking about a relationship.
Everyone knows we're talking, and that we're interested in each other, but he still acted weird and only talked to me when it was ';convenient';, that is except for the nights.
and, to make matters worse, he didn't respond to my text message after I left until about 2pm today.
I want to talk to him about it, but I'm not really sure how to bring it up, or what to say for that matter.
Ahhh! I just don't know what to do. PLEASE help!I need relationship advice.?
He's just being a macho jerk. He feels he has to put up a front in front of his friends to appear some type of way. Even thoigh everyone knows. Kinda in denial. but anyways, he's not the right one for you if he can't claim you in public. Confront him about it. Should he change, great. If not you know what to do....
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When we first started talking about a potential relationship, we decided it would probably be best if we waiting to ';officially'; start dating until the fall when we could be together. (Starting a relationship long distance seemed like a bad idea)
The part about waiting until the fall was initially brought up by me.
Okay, well since this conversation about waiting, we have talked every single day, whether that be through text messages or aim. He even WROTE me a lullaby and sent me a dozen roses on my birthday. Cute, right? Well so I figured we were kinda dating.
But, when went to visit him and some other friends this last weekend, he acted kind of standoffish. (except every night when we slept together)
This was the first time I had seen him in person since we had started talking about a relationship.
Everyone knows we're talking, and that we're interested in each other, but he still acted weird and only talked to me when it was ';convenient';, that is except for the nights.
and, to make matters worse, he didn't respond to my text message after I left until about 2pm today.
I want to talk to him about it, but I'm not really sure how to bring it up, or what to say for that matter.
Ahhh! I just don't know what to do. PLEASE help!I need relationship advice.?
He's just being a macho jerk. He feels he has to put up a front in front of his friends to appear some type of way. Even thoigh everyone knows. Kinda in denial. but anyways, he's not the right one for you if he can't claim you in public. Confront him about it. Should he change, great. If not you know what to do....
Answer mine? (a love story):
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I need relationship advice, guys preferred.?
Alright, so me %26amp; my boyfriend have been having like arguments and stuff latley. We really are trying our hardest to work things out, and were breaking up with each other. but about a week ago, he told me that hes starting to lose feelings for me. Is there anything i can do? I've tried a lot like giving him his space (he didnt like it, said it would just make it worse) talking to him more, crying when im with him over it (couldnt control that) and just asdfjkl; , anything left that i can do? or anything that he can do..H.E.L.P.!I need relationship advice, guys preferred.?
when you begin to date each other, you're separated. you spend a lot of the time dreaming about being with another person. it can be quite different from the reality. or not. but when you start to date, you're excited about getting to know the person, you ring her up and say let's go to this movie, you invite him around to have dinner.... anyway, people get in a trap of thinking you have to be together, and live together. spend every moment and share everything with that person. some relationships aren't meant for that. if you liked the experience of dating each other when you started, try do what you did then. always keep a romance busy. ALSO, be aware though, that some romances can't continue forever, they can run their course but then there's no romance. True Love is true love, only when the people stay the same or change with each other. not everybody gets the fairy tale love. but if you get that love, or if you can keep it going, go for it. best wishes to you both.lip cream
when you begin to date each other, you're separated. you spend a lot of the time dreaming about being with another person. it can be quite different from the reality. or not. but when you start to date, you're excited about getting to know the person, you ring her up and say let's go to this movie, you invite him around to have dinner.... anyway, people get in a trap of thinking you have to be together, and live together. spend every moment and share everything with that person. some relationships aren't meant for that. if you liked the experience of dating each other when you started, try do what you did then. always keep a romance busy. ALSO, be aware though, that some romances can't continue forever, they can run their course but then there's no romance. True Love is true love, only when the people stay the same or change with each other. not everybody gets the fairy tale love. but if you get that love, or if you can keep it going, go for it. best wishes to you both.
Post BAD Relationship Advice?
My last relationship (first love) - was horrible.
No real love, alot of mistrust, alot of anger, just bad...among alot of emotional turmoil.
Im pretty nervous around women now - i feel like crap for how horrible that year was in my life. Im sure its normal, and things will cool off and another woman will enter my life.
But i feel that the last relationship left me with baggage - emotionally, sexually, etc. I wouldnt get into anything until i feel good about myself out of respect for whomever may come next.
But...
What would you do? Should I be open after a few dates that I want to take things slow (as lame as that is for a guy? or no?). Is it ok to let her know that my last relationship was a mess and left me feeling degraded and exposed (dont ask)...
I dont want to be mothered or some weirdness like that, Just honest and open so someone can share the good things about me.
Thoughts?Post BAD Relationship Advice?
give yourself some time before you get into another serious relationship and just try to have fun again before you pressure yourself into getting a girlfriend too soon.Post BAD Relationship Advice?
Take things one step at a time and its OK to learn from past relationships, it will only make you a stronger better person...for now you should meet new people and get to know them better.
No real love, alot of mistrust, alot of anger, just bad...among alot of emotional turmoil.
Im pretty nervous around women now - i feel like crap for how horrible that year was in my life. Im sure its normal, and things will cool off and another woman will enter my life.
But i feel that the last relationship left me with baggage - emotionally, sexually, etc. I wouldnt get into anything until i feel good about myself out of respect for whomever may come next.
But...
What would you do? Should I be open after a few dates that I want to take things slow (as lame as that is for a guy? or no?). Is it ok to let her know that my last relationship was a mess and left me feeling degraded and exposed (dont ask)...
I dont want to be mothered or some weirdness like that, Just honest and open so someone can share the good things about me.
Thoughts?Post BAD Relationship Advice?
give yourself some time before you get into another serious relationship and just try to have fun again before you pressure yourself into getting a girlfriend too soon.Post BAD Relationship Advice?
Take things one step at a time and its OK to learn from past relationships, it will only make you a stronger better person...for now you should meet new people and get to know them better.
A little relationship advice please...?
that's what he wants than I guess that's his stupidity... He really is a great person... He's just selfish also... He's 29 and I am 21 (but very mature)...
So, I guess my question is... He wants to be a part of her life and I want him to be a part also, for her sake of course... But, I hate his ex girlfriend b/c of all the problems that she's caused me and all of the crap between them (recently) that she's tried to rub in my face...
How do I get over all of this... I can't make him want to be with me and not her, but how can I come to accept it?? It's so hard on me and I don't want to bring the baby in the middle of it... I've never hated him and I know that without her in the picture we would be able to agree on everything and get along about all of this for the baby... I don't understnad why he's letting her do this to me... Why is he putting her in the picture so soon??
She puts random things on her myspace page just to upset me and it's working... Like, ';Ambers coming over to drop off a baby bed for Kevin and I';... HELLO, THIS IS MY BABY!!
Or, ';Out for a fun day of shopping for the little girl on the way';... THEY'VE BEEN TALKING FOR 3 WEEKS...
Oh, his family didn't come to my shower, they had one for him last night and she was there... Why would he even let her go to a celebration FOR MY BABY!!!
Why would she do this to me 8 1/2 months pregnant... I don't intentionally hurt people, why does this happen to me...
Anyway, I just need a little advice on how to accept/handle all of this... I'm just so hurt and I feel like he doesn't care and she's intentionally hurting me...
What should I do?? ~THANKS~!!
A little relationship advice please...?
If he isn't there for you when you need him if it is his child with you then get rid of him.
So, I guess my question is... He wants to be a part of her life and I want him to be a part also, for her sake of course... But, I hate his ex girlfriend b/c of all the problems that she's caused me and all of the crap between them (recently) that she's tried to rub in my face...
How do I get over all of this... I can't make him want to be with me and not her, but how can I come to accept it?? It's so hard on me and I don't want to bring the baby in the middle of it... I've never hated him and I know that without her in the picture we would be able to agree on everything and get along about all of this for the baby... I don't understnad why he's letting her do this to me... Why is he putting her in the picture so soon??
She puts random things on her myspace page just to upset me and it's working... Like, ';Ambers coming over to drop off a baby bed for Kevin and I';... HELLO, THIS IS MY BABY!!
Or, ';Out for a fun day of shopping for the little girl on the way';... THEY'VE BEEN TALKING FOR 3 WEEKS...
Oh, his family didn't come to my shower, they had one for him last night and she was there... Why would he even let her go to a celebration FOR MY BABY!!!
Why would she do this to me 8 1/2 months pregnant... I don't intentionally hurt people, why does this happen to me...
Anyway, I just need a little advice on how to accept/handle all of this... I'm just so hurt and I feel like he doesn't care and she's intentionally hurting me...
What should I do?? ~THANKS~!!
A little relationship advice please...?
If he isn't there for you when you need him if it is his child with you then get rid of him.
I Need relationship advice?
I moved away to school with my bf of 3 yrs (big mistake) things were great at first but now im thinking we are bored with each other. I met this guy in one of my classes that we started as just friends but somehow ended up being a lot more. He's put up with me having a bf for a year now and told me endlessly how much he loves me and wants to be with me and I do love him SO much. He started going out with a girl and said we had to ';slow things down'; and just be friends so I told him I didn't want to see him anymore bc it kills me not being able to spend more time with him and have a real relationship, im tired of living a double/secret life but its hypocritical for me to not want him to have a gf since i have a bf. I put him as my priority for the past yr even though i have a bf and just feel like if he really had strong feelings, its not like theres an on/off switch for loving someone. I can't stop thinking about him, it's 24/7 and i even dream about him, what should I do??I Need relationship advice?
I think that its time for you to move on. i know it sounds really chessy. lol but i mean you wouldnt have cheated on him if you were in love with him... and I MEAN REAL CAPITAL L. O. V. EI Need relationship advice?
STOP IT
First of all you'd feel better if you broke up with your bf then maybe the guy you met and really love will see that you broke up with your bf to b with him and you guys can b together. I HOPE THis works out. It's a tough situation so it might have to turn out naturally.
When you burn the candle at both ends you will get burned. Move on and be with your closer man and stop playing games before something bad happens.
u need to dump da guy dat uve been datin for three years and not rite away but afta a week or two get together wit da otha guy--cuz if u kinda cheatin on 3 years guy then u need to let him go so he can b free too
well if u want to see ur bf of 3 years kill himself then go ahed,but u may never know how long u will be together with that other guy it may last 7 months but then u will regret it and the 3 years guy may never accept u again...........
You need to tell your boyfriend of three years this. It isn't fair to him for you to be cheating on him. Break up with him, and maybe guy #2 and you could officially go out without any other bf/gfs involved.
1st of all you shouldn't have gotten yourself into that position anyways but since you did you need to be honest with everyone including yourself maybe you should back up and separate yourself from both and figure out what it is you want but you still need to communicate what you are feeling and what is going on instead of running from the issue cause it will catch you and then you may not want to deal with it
I think that its time for you to move on. i know it sounds really chessy. lol but i mean you wouldnt have cheated on him if you were in love with him... and I MEAN REAL CAPITAL L. O. V. EI Need relationship advice?
STOP IT
First of all you'd feel better if you broke up with your bf then maybe the guy you met and really love will see that you broke up with your bf to b with him and you guys can b together. I HOPE THis works out. It's a tough situation so it might have to turn out naturally.
When you burn the candle at both ends you will get burned. Move on and be with your closer man and stop playing games before something bad happens.
u need to dump da guy dat uve been datin for three years and not rite away but afta a week or two get together wit da otha guy--cuz if u kinda cheatin on 3 years guy then u need to let him go so he can b free too
well if u want to see ur bf of 3 years kill himself then go ahed,but u may never know how long u will be together with that other guy it may last 7 months but then u will regret it and the 3 years guy may never accept u again...........
You need to tell your boyfriend of three years this. It isn't fair to him for you to be cheating on him. Break up with him, and maybe guy #2 and you could officially go out without any other bf/gfs involved.
1st of all you shouldn't have gotten yourself into that position anyways but since you did you need to be honest with everyone including yourself maybe you should back up and separate yourself from both and figure out what it is you want but you still need to communicate what you are feeling and what is going on instead of running from the issue cause it will catch you and then you may not want to deal with it
I need relationship advice..Help?!!?
Ok..So me and my ex broke up 9 months ago and we have talked on and off thru that whole time..Recently i told him that i still have feelings for him and he said he did too. Well our previous relationship brought us closer as best friends than bf/gf and he cheated on me..That is what made us break up before..He told me he wanted to go on a few dates to see if it would work between us and i agreed. So i went to his house today and we watched a movie and eventually started making out..He was very kind and caring cause it was storming today and im afraid of storms so he held me close to him and kissed my forehead and told me everything would be ok..I found out that his other ex of 2 years was at his house yesterday but she said that they just talked and one of her friends was with her..Does it sound like he has changed or is he just using me to get what he wants?? any advice?I need relationship advice..Help?!!?
Could be he wants both of you, so I would be leery of him.
He may be a player. There is a chance that he will be true, but
then he has only said he has feelings for you, what does that mean? Maybe you read too much into that. Going on a few
dates does that mean like to his house. Isn't that a bit risky?
Be careful. I would suggest meeting someone new.I need relationship advice..Help?!!?
Ask him what the hell his ex was doing at his house? I'm sorry it's a common courtesy that you don't hang around with your ex, mind me, in a private place like his house where anything can happen. This dude is not treating you good enough. If you don't feel right having them 2 hanging out at his or her place tell him so. I don't think you're asking too much. He should give you a respect because you are HIS GIRLFRIEND.
Well I'm just 13... so i can't really answer this question .... well I will just say... just left him and move on... you should watch some romance movie.
Could be he wants both of you, so I would be leery of him.
He may be a player. There is a chance that he will be true, but
then he has only said he has feelings for you, what does that mean? Maybe you read too much into that. Going on a few
dates does that mean like to his house. Isn't that a bit risky?
Be careful. I would suggest meeting someone new.I need relationship advice..Help?!!?
Ask him what the hell his ex was doing at his house? I'm sorry it's a common courtesy that you don't hang around with your ex, mind me, in a private place like his house where anything can happen. This dude is not treating you good enough. If you don't feel right having them 2 hanging out at his or her place tell him so. I don't think you're asking too much. He should give you a respect because you are HIS GIRLFRIEND.
Well I'm just 13... so i can't really answer this question .... well I will just say... just left him and move on... you should watch some romance movie.
Guy girls relationship advice plz!!!!!?
my ex boyfriend and i dated for a year and broke up over some flirty txt to the biggest **** in our town( nude pic txt) he was my first love and it really broke my heart. hes 22 im 21 so yes i know what love it. he left for boot camp and technical schooling 6 monthes ago. about a week aqgo he told me how much he missed me and how he regrets the break up with me and how he wanted everything back and i was the best thing for him, he even told me about how his friend got married at family day and he wished it was us( kinda freaked me out a lil). we plan on working things out when he gets back but ';the **** of the town'; is all over his facebook and aprently txt and calls him. i know i cant be mad cuz we're technically not together but what can i do to get over this
i mean it pisses me off cuz this gurl treats him like **** and uses him ( they used to talk) and he dosnt relize he deserves so much better
... like me i love him to death and would do anything for him thats why im giving him a second chance
but sometimes i wonder if he just sd those things cuz hes lonely.
any advice on how to get over, your opion or what not is gratly aprreciated thnaksGuy girls relationship advice plz!!!!!?
Move on, please. Please move on.
It's up to HIM, not YOU, who is on his Facebook or not. He goes on there quite frequently, right? It's not like he abandoned his page and doesn't know what's on there. YOU may think she's ';this and that';, but he may not. Just because YOU think she treats him like crap, doesn't mean HE thinks she treats him like crap. Do you know how many girls I've known, where other girls will put them down and insult them, but I don't find anything wrong with them? Guys see girls differently than girls see girls. I could probably say something bad about a guy, but there'll be a girl who totally disagrees with me. You two are not officially together. It sounds like he likes the girls and wants one here and one there and wants to be ';a young guy having fun';. You said you know what love is, because of your age. Well, he's been in Boot Camp and Technical schooling, and there have been far more important decisions he's had to make in those facilities, than his Facebook contacts. My point? If he's able to go through Boot Camp, then he's not a stupid guy. So, he's not deaf, dumb, and blind when it comes to a Facebook page. That page doesn't carry the weight of decisions that Boot Camp has. He's capable of decisions, and you don't like his decisions. She's there, he likes her, he's interested in her, he's having a nice time with her, and you're also in the picture. Period.Guy girls relationship advice plz!!!!!?
You've got to tell him the truth about how you feel. You've also got to let him know that a relationship with you is not possible if she's a part of his life. Tell him he'll always have a special place in your heart, but you deserve better than what he did to you. In the end, you have to do what's right in your heart. God bless.
the best way to get over a guy is to find a new one. start dating while he is gone. if nothing works out maybe he is the one for you and he did just make a mistake. if you don't try to find something new you won't know if they old thing was good enough.
he's been in boot camp for six months with no sex and he's a guy. do you need me to spell it out? maybe him and the **** are just f buddies and he's trying to get you, too. i wouldn't trust him. don't do it
so wat i would say, is u should join any special activities to get your mind off of him. You could also try dating someone else(when you're ready). This is just what I did when i broke up with my girlfriend.
Maybe he's keeping her around on purpose you know, don't be so naive.
same thing happened to me....probably he's lonely at the time n just wants to b w/ someone
Honestly you should get over him. Guys will say anything and everything to get their ex back from something they did wrong. From the flirty text messages, it really shows that he didn't respect the relationship the way you did. That right there shows that he doesn't have character. I know you like him a lot and everything, but it seems to me that he's using two girls for his different needs. You for your love and her for something else, which isn't right. But ultimately its up to you to gauge if you can truly trust his words.
Sorry I have to disagree with you. He got exactly what he deserves and YOU deserve better! He dumped you once for someone who offered up a plate of something he wanted and he will do it again. You would be smart to cut all ties and tell him he made his bed so sleep in it. What he tells you is only one side of the story. Stop hating on this girl she wasn't the one that did you wrong or had a commitment with you. It just keeps you stuck and makes you bitter. I know someone is waiting for you to come and discover a new love but you never will unless you let go of this loser completely and move on. best wishes.
Blessings, Light %26amp; Love.
As what i just read sounds like you did and still love this guy. As for giving him a chance again. I don't mean to be so negative but he's done it once, he could do it again. Guys don't realize what girls are best for them til its to late. Just like us girls. We always tend to go for the ones who hurt us the most. Do what you think it best for you. Also don't worry about the girl screw her. Hope i helped. =D
Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us. I understand. What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn't want you in his life anymore ... his sad, wistful, ';I miss you so much'; voice on the other end of the phone? It's validating. It's exciting. It's irresistible. But resist you must.
Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you.
k my advice is HE HAD CHEATED ON U.....and he broke up with u...well if i wuz tha 1 that broke up with him 4 no reason and he didnt cheat on me and he asked me back out later then i wudda said yes...but he cheated on u and broke up with u 4 that trash then NO!!!!! dont go back out with that looser he messed up not u...find u a better guy that wont treat u like that trash he cheated on u with...i hope u make tha rite decsion....good luck:)
i mean it pisses me off cuz this gurl treats him like **** and uses him ( they used to talk) and he dosnt relize he deserves so much better
... like me i love him to death and would do anything for him thats why im giving him a second chance
but sometimes i wonder if he just sd those things cuz hes lonely.
any advice on how to get over, your opion or what not is gratly aprreciated thnaksGuy girls relationship advice plz!!!!!?
Move on, please. Please move on.
It's up to HIM, not YOU, who is on his Facebook or not. He goes on there quite frequently, right? It's not like he abandoned his page and doesn't know what's on there. YOU may think she's ';this and that';, but he may not. Just because YOU think she treats him like crap, doesn't mean HE thinks she treats him like crap. Do you know how many girls I've known, where other girls will put them down and insult them, but I don't find anything wrong with them? Guys see girls differently than girls see girls. I could probably say something bad about a guy, but there'll be a girl who totally disagrees with me. You two are not officially together. It sounds like he likes the girls and wants one here and one there and wants to be ';a young guy having fun';. You said you know what love is, because of your age. Well, he's been in Boot Camp and Technical schooling, and there have been far more important decisions he's had to make in those facilities, than his Facebook contacts. My point? If he's able to go through Boot Camp, then he's not a stupid guy. So, he's not deaf, dumb, and blind when it comes to a Facebook page. That page doesn't carry the weight of decisions that Boot Camp has. He's capable of decisions, and you don't like his decisions. She's there, he likes her, he's interested in her, he's having a nice time with her, and you're also in the picture. Period.Guy girls relationship advice plz!!!!!?
You've got to tell him the truth about how you feel. You've also got to let him know that a relationship with you is not possible if she's a part of his life. Tell him he'll always have a special place in your heart, but you deserve better than what he did to you. In the end, you have to do what's right in your heart. God bless.
the best way to get over a guy is to find a new one. start dating while he is gone. if nothing works out maybe he is the one for you and he did just make a mistake. if you don't try to find something new you won't know if they old thing was good enough.
he's been in boot camp for six months with no sex and he's a guy. do you need me to spell it out? maybe him and the **** are just f buddies and he's trying to get you, too. i wouldn't trust him. don't do it
so wat i would say, is u should join any special activities to get your mind off of him. You could also try dating someone else(when you're ready). This is just what I did when i broke up with my girlfriend.
Maybe he's keeping her around on purpose you know, don't be so naive.
same thing happened to me....probably he's lonely at the time n just wants to b w/ someone
Honestly you should get over him. Guys will say anything and everything to get their ex back from something they did wrong. From the flirty text messages, it really shows that he didn't respect the relationship the way you did. That right there shows that he doesn't have character. I know you like him a lot and everything, but it seems to me that he's using two girls for his different needs. You for your love and her for something else, which isn't right. But ultimately its up to you to gauge if you can truly trust his words.
Sorry I have to disagree with you. He got exactly what he deserves and YOU deserve better! He dumped you once for someone who offered up a plate of something he wanted and he will do it again. You would be smart to cut all ties and tell him he made his bed so sleep in it. What he tells you is only one side of the story. Stop hating on this girl she wasn't the one that did you wrong or had a commitment with you. It just keeps you stuck and makes you bitter. I know someone is waiting for you to come and discover a new love but you never will unless you let go of this loser completely and move on. best wishes.
Blessings, Light %26amp; Love.
As what i just read sounds like you did and still love this guy. As for giving him a chance again. I don't mean to be so negative but he's done it once, he could do it again. Guys don't realize what girls are best for them til its to late. Just like us girls. We always tend to go for the ones who hurt us the most. Do what you think it best for you. Also don't worry about the girl screw her. Hope i helped. =D
Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us. I understand. What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn't want you in his life anymore ... his sad, wistful, ';I miss you so much'; voice on the other end of the phone? It's validating. It's exciting. It's irresistible. But resist you must.
Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you.
k my advice is HE HAD CHEATED ON U.....and he broke up with u...well if i wuz tha 1 that broke up with him 4 no reason and he didnt cheat on me and he asked me back out later then i wudda said yes...but he cheated on u and broke up with u 4 that trash then NO!!!!! dont go back out with that looser he messed up not u...find u a better guy that wont treat u like that trash he cheated on u with...i hope u make tha rite decsion....good luck:)
Just some relationship advice?
so there's this guy. i know we both like each other, basically talk everyday and see each other daily. and just met about a month ago. he's been in an on and off again relationship for the past several months and now it's over for good. has been for a couple months. i got a friend to try and hook us up to go out and he doesn't want to be tied down right now he says he wants to just live and see what happens. im not looking for a solid thing either but would maybe like to eventually. he's got no prob beign with me just not being tied down. and oh my god it's crazy. i haven't connected with anyone like this ever. like we've known each other forever. he said i make him feel all funny inside and nervous but happy at the same time. i feel the same way exactly. it's just wierd to feel this way so soon after meeting someone but it feels right you know.
i totally feel like him but may eventually want something more. is it worth a shot to just go with it and not committ or should i just not go for it. my heart tells me to do it my brain's logic says no. just want some advice on the whole situation.
so what would you do in this situation.?????Just some relationship advice?
Well since you mentioned ';he doesn't want to be tied down right now'; I think you should take it slow and give him some time. Maybe he'll eventually want something more too, so don't give up on him just yet. Just give him some time and when he's ready, you'll know. :)Just some relationship advice?
Just get with him when he's ready, but don't pay too much attention to it.
GO WITH HIM, BUT DONT GET TO ATTACHED 2 NO1 OR NUFFIN, BECUZ ONLY GOD IZ 4EVA....ERRTHANG ELSE IZ TEMPORARY...
avoid him,and make him miss you.
just let things flow and see what happens
whats his name?lip cream
i totally feel like him but may eventually want something more. is it worth a shot to just go with it and not committ or should i just not go for it. my heart tells me to do it my brain's logic says no. just want some advice on the whole situation.
so what would you do in this situation.?????Just some relationship advice?
Well since you mentioned ';he doesn't want to be tied down right now'; I think you should take it slow and give him some time. Maybe he'll eventually want something more too, so don't give up on him just yet. Just give him some time and when he's ready, you'll know. :)Just some relationship advice?
Just get with him when he's ready, but don't pay too much attention to it.
GO WITH HIM, BUT DONT GET TO ATTACHED 2 NO1 OR NUFFIN, BECUZ ONLY GOD IZ 4EVA....ERRTHANG ELSE IZ TEMPORARY...
avoid him,and make him miss you.
just let things flow and see what happens
whats his name?
I need relationship advice??? A what would you do situation?
To sum it up, my fiance and I are in financial stump. I go to school full time and he is Army. So we depend on his paycheck and it really isn't much. He has spend hundreds of dollars a weekend on beer as I was home taking care of our infant daughter. He has made huge decisions without me such as re enlisting in the Army without talking to me about it much. What I feel was totally selfish was he went out and bought a 47,000 truck, took on 750 payments and tells me I can only have 100 bucks for the next 2 weeks for the baby's needs. You mothers know out there $100 is not enough. He lives a lavish lifstyle with all his materialistic things and put the baby and I second. He has broken small promises numerous times and makes me believe he cant take on bigger commitments. He yells at me so loud when I tell him the things he is doing are wrong. So loud at times he scares the baby and she cries. What makes it so hard to to leave him is I love him...what would you do in this situation???I need relationship advice??? A what would you do situation?
dont nowI need relationship advice??? A what would you do situation?
talk to his Sargent or some one higher as he taken you and his child for a ride he has no respect for you or his kid .. tell his mum and dad about this and your as well see if thay can help you to make him see what he is doing to you its all wrong he mess up man big time ... good luck
Im in the military and i work in the legal field and i see this all the time. But sorry to say this but most of the time its the wifes back in the states who use all the money and leave the guy. But thats besides the point. One thing i have noticed in military men we are affraid of our significate other leaving us. Im currently overseas and each and everyday im not out fighting the war im worring that my g/f is cheating on me. I know i shouldnt be doing that but its hard not too when i see all the guys coming in here about divorce. Just tell him how you feel. If he cant handle it honestly leave his sorry butt. You dont deserve to be treated like crap.
My head says get rid, but it's easy to say when I'm not involved. It's not the way you or your child should be treated ans is he a good role modle for your child. If your not happy neither will your child. You have to think about the times he is home and how he makes you feel. We all make mistakes whats important is how we deal with them don't be a doormat
I sympathise for you - that is a really hard situation to be in.
What your husband did spending all the money was wrong but it could just be his way of dealing with the situation. If he feels as trapped as you then ignoring it may be the only way he can not let it get to him. Try making a time, that you both know will be dedicated to talking about it (and is not when you are tired at the end of the day), and try and get it all out in the open. Don't start with things you can do to fix the problem, just let him know how it (he) is making you feel and hopefully it will flow from there.
Good luck - I hope I helped a little.
I think you put the cart before the horse in this case. You should have never had a baby with this selfish inconsiderate nut. I would consider perhaps talking to his parents and see if maybe they can talk some sense into this fool before it gets any further out of hand. If he won't listen to anyone then just up and leave..terminate the engagement, unless that is you want to spend the rest of your life miserable and dominated like it seems you are now. You say you love him. Are you a sadist? Why would anyone love a guy that treats them like dirt? Makes absolutely NO sense to me. And what are you going to do when the love goes stale because of how he treats you? Remember, you teach people how to treat you. Unless you do something about it now, it will only get worse.
dont nowI need relationship advice??? A what would you do situation?
talk to his Sargent or some one higher as he taken you and his child for a ride he has no respect for you or his kid .. tell his mum and dad about this and your as well see if thay can help you to make him see what he is doing to you its all wrong he mess up man big time ... good luck
Im in the military and i work in the legal field and i see this all the time. But sorry to say this but most of the time its the wifes back in the states who use all the money and leave the guy. But thats besides the point. One thing i have noticed in military men we are affraid of our significate other leaving us. Im currently overseas and each and everyday im not out fighting the war im worring that my g/f is cheating on me. I know i shouldnt be doing that but its hard not too when i see all the guys coming in here about divorce. Just tell him how you feel. If he cant handle it honestly leave his sorry butt. You dont deserve to be treated like crap.
My head says get rid, but it's easy to say when I'm not involved. It's not the way you or your child should be treated ans is he a good role modle for your child. If your not happy neither will your child. You have to think about the times he is home and how he makes you feel. We all make mistakes whats important is how we deal with them don't be a doormat
I sympathise for you - that is a really hard situation to be in.
What your husband did spending all the money was wrong but it could just be his way of dealing with the situation. If he feels as trapped as you then ignoring it may be the only way he can not let it get to him. Try making a time, that you both know will be dedicated to talking about it (and is not when you are tired at the end of the day), and try and get it all out in the open. Don't start with things you can do to fix the problem, just let him know how it (he) is making you feel and hopefully it will flow from there.
Good luck - I hope I helped a little.
I think you put the cart before the horse in this case. You should have never had a baby with this selfish inconsiderate nut. I would consider perhaps talking to his parents and see if maybe they can talk some sense into this fool before it gets any further out of hand. If he won't listen to anyone then just up and leave..terminate the engagement, unless that is you want to spend the rest of your life miserable and dominated like it seems you are now. You say you love him. Are you a sadist? Why would anyone love a guy that treats them like dirt? Makes absolutely NO sense to me. And what are you going to do when the love goes stale because of how he treats you? Remember, you teach people how to treat you. Unless you do something about it now, it will only get worse.
I need relationship advice?
theres this guy(were goin to be in 9th grade) and weve known each other for about a year and a half. hes been really nice to me and once this guy i know(i live across the street from this jerk) was making fun of my boobs(their size) and he stuck up for me and slapped this guy across the face and punched him in his stomach and the guy was like dude why did u do that and the guy i like(lets call him chance) chance was like u dont need to make fun of her shes cute and sweet and super nice so shut up and i really like him but he hasnt talked to me all summer(we live in the same neighborhood) and idk if i should move on or keep hoping he'll ask me outI need relationship advice?
I have a sneaking suspicion this boy really likes you :)
He's obviously just shy or just holding back for some reason. He might not know how to ask you out or when. After the holidays you should try to make sure that you give him a chance to talk to you by not sticking glued to your friends all the time. Stand away from the crowd occasionally, take a walk around.
Start talking to different people at break and lunch, make friends with some of his, (if his friends think you're super cool then it gives you an extra advantage) but don't use them just to get to him - you have to really want to be friends.
I'm sure he likes you - it Really sounds like it after what he did for you. If you are sure of it and he doesn't make any moves then maybe you should take charge... ask him and his friends if they want to hang out with you and yours sometime... get to know him better...
I'm sure it will all work out in the end but remember, guys aren't everything, you're still young (i know it's annoying when people say that i know because i'm just 15). If he doesn't like you then he doesn't know what he's missing, you seem like a really nice girl :)
Hope it all works out for the best, good luck x x x
- April, England
P.S. Thanks for the answer!I need relationship advice?
Find him and give him your phone number. Sounds like he is a true gentleman.
hahah now he's a keeper! ask him out right now. i'm serious right now.
ugh... seriously? u know it is alrite for the girl to ask the guy out and so wat if he doesnt? u tried didnt u?
strong white knight
He sounds like a super worthy guy of someone like you. If you really do dig him why not try to hit him up. Tell him you and a couple of your friends are going to the mall or out for food and would he like to come. I know that its old fashion to have the men ask the girls out on the dates or to strike up a conversation with the girls, but i mean it is the 21st century and you seem like you got the guts to do so. If he stuck up for you like that he sure does seem to think a lot about you. Therefore whats stopping you? Go for it! =) Good luck!
I have a sneaking suspicion this boy really likes you :)
He's obviously just shy or just holding back for some reason. He might not know how to ask you out or when. After the holidays you should try to make sure that you give him a chance to talk to you by not sticking glued to your friends all the time. Stand away from the crowd occasionally, take a walk around.
Start talking to different people at break and lunch, make friends with some of his, (if his friends think you're super cool then it gives you an extra advantage) but don't use them just to get to him - you have to really want to be friends.
I'm sure he likes you - it Really sounds like it after what he did for you. If you are sure of it and he doesn't make any moves then maybe you should take charge... ask him and his friends if they want to hang out with you and yours sometime... get to know him better...
I'm sure it will all work out in the end but remember, guys aren't everything, you're still young (i know it's annoying when people say that i know because i'm just 15). If he doesn't like you then he doesn't know what he's missing, you seem like a really nice girl :)
Hope it all works out for the best, good luck x x x
- April, England
P.S. Thanks for the answer!I need relationship advice?
Find him and give him your phone number. Sounds like he is a true gentleman.
hahah now he's a keeper! ask him out right now. i'm serious right now.
ugh... seriously? u know it is alrite for the girl to ask the guy out and so wat if he doesnt? u tried didnt u?
strong white knight
He sounds like a super worthy guy of someone like you. If you really do dig him why not try to hit him up. Tell him you and a couple of your friends are going to the mall or out for food and would he like to come. I know that its old fashion to have the men ask the girls out on the dates or to strike up a conversation with the girls, but i mean it is the 21st century and you seem like you got the guts to do so. If he stuck up for you like that he sure does seem to think a lot about you. Therefore whats stopping you? Go for it! =) Good luck!
I NEED relationship advice..badly HELP!?
I've been with this girl for about 8 months and I feel really strongly for her. However, it's a totally one-sided relationship with me doing all of the work and things. Anyway, recently, she's been talking to this guy who lives near her. I know for a fact she finds him attractive and today, she cancelled going to the cinema with just him because i told her i didn't feel happy at all. she's had a history of flirting with other guys and i really don't know what to do... she mails him often too. When she does message him, she puts two ';X';s at the end of it, does this meaning anything? and i really need to know what to do.. i feel really, really badly about all of this. i think maybe she has feelings for him.I NEED relationship advice..badly HELP!?
well i know that u really like this girl but she doesn't sound like a very nice person, i think that you need to sit her down and ask her if she likes this other guy, if she says yes than you need to move on. If the relationship is as one sided as it sounds it is then maybe this isn't such a great relationship in the first place
hope this helpedI NEED relationship advice..badly HELP!?
you dont sound happy and being in an unhappy relationship just isnt good for you, no matter how much you like this girl, you cant spend all your time watching her and who she's flirting with it will bring you down. try to move on and let her flirt with whoever she wants then, let her see what she has lost and if ye are meant to be......! it will be hard but this kind of relationship will mess with your head, go out and enjoy yourself
If you feel your relationship is one sided and you don't trust her then its probably better for both of you if you move on.The two most important things for a good relationship is trust and give and take,without that it will inevitably become destructive.
she maybe is flirting with him but cheatng is such a strong word. just look for the signs of cheating like if she's spending more time with him than u, then u can say she's cheating..... but then again if she's not she mayb see him as a good friend
aww dude i'm so sorry but i think she likes the otha guy beta...if she can't stay faithful to just you then i think you need to break up with her b4 u get really hurt
with the whole 'x' thing...when i text my ex botfriend i put 'xox' so dont worry and i still flirt with him...but i flirt with every1 so idk...
well i know that u really like this girl but she doesn't sound like a very nice person, i think that you need to sit her down and ask her if she likes this other guy, if she says yes than you need to move on. If the relationship is as one sided as it sounds it is then maybe this isn't such a great relationship in the first place
hope this helpedI NEED relationship advice..badly HELP!?
you dont sound happy and being in an unhappy relationship just isnt good for you, no matter how much you like this girl, you cant spend all your time watching her and who she's flirting with it will bring you down. try to move on and let her flirt with whoever she wants then, let her see what she has lost and if ye are meant to be......! it will be hard but this kind of relationship will mess with your head, go out and enjoy yourself
If you feel your relationship is one sided and you don't trust her then its probably better for both of you if you move on.The two most important things for a good relationship is trust and give and take,without that it will inevitably become destructive.
she maybe is flirting with him but cheatng is such a strong word. just look for the signs of cheating like if she's spending more time with him than u, then u can say she's cheating..... but then again if she's not she mayb see him as a good friend
aww dude i'm so sorry but i think she likes the otha guy beta...if she can't stay faithful to just you then i think you need to break up with her b4 u get really hurt
with the whole 'x' thing...when i text my ex botfriend i put 'xox' so dont worry and i still flirt with him...but i flirt with every1 so idk...
Long-distance relationship advice?
I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for three months now. We worked in summer stock (theatre) together and were very close friends for almost two months before we even started dating. Now that I am back at school and he is looking for work as an actor, we are long-distance.
When I am with him, I feel positively on top of the world and know that he loves and cares for me very much. When I am not, however, my mind tends to wander. I often wonder - does he miss me as much as I miss him? Does he love me as much as I miss him? He, like most guys, is not one for showing much emotion. Are these concerns that you have ever felt in your relationship? Are they normal? Like I say, they are fleeting and not on my mind all the time ... but when they are I work myself into quite a state of anxiety.
Any thoughts??Long-distance relationship advice?
My husband and I dated long distance all through college..49 years and 9 mo later we are still happily married..so if it is ment to be it will be..to be in love you must trust..Long-distance relationship advice?
LET IT OUT! IT IS GOING TO DRIVE YOU NUTS. It is okay to feel these thing just let time go bye and see what happens. Do not sit a home and wait for his every call or letter, Tex message.................................鈥?br>
Go on with your life has you did in the past and he is for you and you for him he will be faithful and come back for you . I have seen that it takes 6 months or more to get to know a person and long distance is pretty deceiving, but you eventually get to know that person. Just know in 6 months if you still feel the same way it is love and if he does it is love. If not it is lust. There is a difference. I wish you luck and do not go into anxiety attacks over a guy. Please it has not been long enough to know what you like in this person. Give it time. That is all we have. Good luck and God bless.
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just hang in there. your mind will do this, most people's do just don't entertain those thoughts. Just keep the phone calls going and use this time to learn to communicate it will be awsome for you :)
You've said that when the two of you are together you're the one who feels 'on top of the world'. Then, you've gone on to say that you wonder whether or not his misses you; you wonder whether or not he loves you...'. You also say that like most guys he's not one for showing much emotion.
Well, I'm a guy and I wonder whether or not you've been meeting anyone that's truly good enough for you? If this guy isn't showing you (how else will we ever know love if it isn't shown) enough love then he isn't. If you have to wonder about as many things as you're wondering about then I strongly suggest that you reactivate your social life at home (nearby) and have fun. Find someone who knows you're worth loving and demonstrates it with every fiber of his being. Always, always, always make sure that love is reciprocal because in the final analysis that's all we have that's worth anything in this world of ours. Best wishes.
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS DONT WORK
good one. Trust and belief are the only things that is required to control mind wandering. Chastity applies to both the genders. You have a loving person... keeep loving!!!!!!!!
Just ask him in a simple and plain word. Otherwise you will be heart later on. I have this very heartning experience.
In all fairness to him you haven't been together very long and from my experience with my bf it took in a while to really open up (part of it is that he is german and they are not as open to expressing emotion) anyway, when he left back to germany and i was left in california i felt a lot like you do. I was always wondering what he was doing and if he was thinking of me. Just be honest with him and communicate with him. Let him know that wish he could open up to you more and that you want to feel needed. Long distance takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty. A lot of people say they don't work but i can tell you that me and my bf have been together for 4 years now and have only see eachother for about a 1 (if you combines all the little times we see eachother). Good luck and i hope the both of you are willing to make it work :)
it will be very hard but if you both love each other it will all work out...
good luck
sure I can relate..being a military wife, my husband and I get separated a lot sometimes for months or more at a time.. thoughts like that are natural but they can take over if you let them..so try to stay busy, think of this as a time to get to know yourself better, and try to get out and do things no matter how cruddy you feel with him gone.. because then you will actually have something new to tell him other than.. I miss you and I love you a thousand times over...or interrogating him with your wandering mind..when he really hasn't given you any reason for it.
There is a Mexican saying..
Amor de lejos, amor de pendejos.
meaning, long distance love is for dummies... and in my experience, they do not work. good luck
In my opinion no they do not work.
long-distance relationships are never good. They cause tension in the relationship. Questions. Anxiety. Pain. Not worth it. Friends long distance works better.
I agree with beccaroo when she says long distance friendships work much better. Any relationship is hard to maintain and even though we may not want to accept it. Spending physical time with each other, and seeing each other really contributes a lot to it. Now I think you two should just be friends during the course of your time away and if you two decide to leave in the same city or state, then see what happens. Also, It is said that the best relationships are formed from some of the best friendships. It's never too late to be friends. Think of it as starting over and analyzing if this is really what you want....also If this is what God has planned for you then no worries. But only time will tell. good luck and God Bless
When I am with him, I feel positively on top of the world and know that he loves and cares for me very much. When I am not, however, my mind tends to wander. I often wonder - does he miss me as much as I miss him? Does he love me as much as I miss him? He, like most guys, is not one for showing much emotion. Are these concerns that you have ever felt in your relationship? Are they normal? Like I say, they are fleeting and not on my mind all the time ... but when they are I work myself into quite a state of anxiety.
Any thoughts??Long-distance relationship advice?
My husband and I dated long distance all through college..49 years and 9 mo later we are still happily married..so if it is ment to be it will be..to be in love you must trust..Long-distance relationship advice?
LET IT OUT! IT IS GOING TO DRIVE YOU NUTS. It is okay to feel these thing just let time go bye and see what happens. Do not sit a home and wait for his every call or letter, Tex message.................................鈥?br>
Go on with your life has you did in the past and he is for you and you for him he will be faithful and come back for you . I have seen that it takes 6 months or more to get to know a person and long distance is pretty deceiving, but you eventually get to know that person. Just know in 6 months if you still feel the same way it is love and if he does it is love. If not it is lust. There is a difference. I wish you luck and do not go into anxiety attacks over a guy. Please it has not been long enough to know what you like in this person. Give it time. That is all we have. Good luck and God bless.
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just hang in there. your mind will do this, most people's do just don't entertain those thoughts. Just keep the phone calls going and use this time to learn to communicate it will be awsome for you :)
You've said that when the two of you are together you're the one who feels 'on top of the world'. Then, you've gone on to say that you wonder whether or not his misses you; you wonder whether or not he loves you...'. You also say that like most guys he's not one for showing much emotion.
Well, I'm a guy and I wonder whether or not you've been meeting anyone that's truly good enough for you? If this guy isn't showing you (how else will we ever know love if it isn't shown) enough love then he isn't. If you have to wonder about as many things as you're wondering about then I strongly suggest that you reactivate your social life at home (nearby) and have fun. Find someone who knows you're worth loving and demonstrates it with every fiber of his being. Always, always, always make sure that love is reciprocal because in the final analysis that's all we have that's worth anything in this world of ours. Best wishes.
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS DONT WORK
good one. Trust and belief are the only things that is required to control mind wandering. Chastity applies to both the genders. You have a loving person... keeep loving!!!!!!!!
Just ask him in a simple and plain word. Otherwise you will be heart later on. I have this very heartning experience.
In all fairness to him you haven't been together very long and from my experience with my bf it took in a while to really open up (part of it is that he is german and they are not as open to expressing emotion) anyway, when he left back to germany and i was left in california i felt a lot like you do. I was always wondering what he was doing and if he was thinking of me. Just be honest with him and communicate with him. Let him know that wish he could open up to you more and that you want to feel needed. Long distance takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty. A lot of people say they don't work but i can tell you that me and my bf have been together for 4 years now and have only see eachother for about a 1 (if you combines all the little times we see eachother). Good luck and i hope the both of you are willing to make it work :)
it will be very hard but if you both love each other it will all work out...
good luck
sure I can relate..being a military wife, my husband and I get separated a lot sometimes for months or more at a time.. thoughts like that are natural but they can take over if you let them..so try to stay busy, think of this as a time to get to know yourself better, and try to get out and do things no matter how cruddy you feel with him gone.. because then you will actually have something new to tell him other than.. I miss you and I love you a thousand times over...or interrogating him with your wandering mind..when he really hasn't given you any reason for it.
There is a Mexican saying..
Amor de lejos, amor de pendejos.
meaning, long distance love is for dummies... and in my experience, they do not work. good luck
In my opinion no they do not work.
long-distance relationships are never good. They cause tension in the relationship. Questions. Anxiety. Pain. Not worth it. Friends long distance works better.
I agree with beccaroo when she says long distance friendships work much better. Any relationship is hard to maintain and even though we may not want to accept it. Spending physical time with each other, and seeing each other really contributes a lot to it. Now I think you two should just be friends during the course of your time away and if you two decide to leave in the same city or state, then see what happens. Also, It is said that the best relationships are formed from some of the best friendships. It's never too late to be friends. Think of it as starting over and analyzing if this is really what you want....also If this is what God has planned for you then no worries. But only time will tell. good luck and God Bless
Need some relationship advice?
Ok so heres the situation, my girlfriend and I have been dating two months and while we get along during the day, it seems to be a very jeckle and hide scenario in the evenings. We start fighting over the stupidest things and she seems to take alot of things out of context, now granted i am a bit to blame I dont just walk away all the time, but latley it seems that I cant win with her, Im really wondering if there is enough invested in this relationship to keep going. Or if there is anyway to jjust stop the fighting. any help anyone?Need some relationship advice?
if you two only fight at night, maybe you two spend too much time together throughout the day. as much as you two enjoy spending time together, after so long you both will get annoyed and hostile after so much together. happens with any two people who spend alot of time together.
if you don't spend alot of time together and this happens... well, that's a bizarre scenario.Need some relationship advice?
what's different about the night and day thing???
is she like a secretary by day vampire by night or what??
just talk to her about it...and just tell her to stop fighting or you'll break it off with her. simple
answer mine if you have time, thanks
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You can never win an argument with a female.
They are always right.
Keep quiet and walk away.
if you two only fight at night, maybe you two spend too much time together throughout the day. as much as you two enjoy spending time together, after so long you both will get annoyed and hostile after so much together. happens with any two people who spend alot of time together.
if you don't spend alot of time together and this happens... well, that's a bizarre scenario.Need some relationship advice?
what's different about the night and day thing???
is she like a secretary by day vampire by night or what??
just talk to her about it...and just tell her to stop fighting or you'll break it off with her. simple
answer mine if you have time, thanks
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
You can never win an argument with a female.
They are always right.
Keep quiet and walk away.
I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
I've come to realize that i'm a very proud person. It has gotten to the point that it hinders my relationships with individuals. Specifically, my boyfriend is from another country and has been here for a few months. He DEEPLY, and i mean, DEEPLY, mises his homeland, and it is basically all he talks about. He tells me how he isn't truly happy here, and how he hasn't been happy for a while, and doesn't think he will be until he is back home.
NOW, i understand, but this is where my pride comes in. My heart physically hurts for him because I want to make him happy, but I know that I can never compare to what he has left back home. And by him stating he is never really happy during his stay here, that applies to the time that he spends with me as well. This makes me feel very inferior, and it wounds my pride. Simply put, although I want to help him and show him a good time, I don't like feeling inferior in a relationship. I feel like hes the right guy, but wrong place wrong time. Break up?I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
It's normal to feel homesick for everyone who goes away from his home for a long time. And it's not just the place he misses. It's his relatives and friends.
It takes a while to get used to a new place and to new relationships. And most people eventually adjust reasonably well.
You just need to give him some time. And eventually he will stop complaining about being away from his home.
His behavior is normal in these circumstances. Most people feel homesick when they go away from home. Most people behave for a while like your boyfriend does in these circumstances. And it has nothing to do with you being in second place.I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
Well, you could just plain ask him, are going to continue to pine away for your homeland, or are you going to try to make this work with me? Tell him its very frustrating hearing him say things like that, and that it hurts your feelings. Make sure he knows how you are feeling. It could possibly be that he isn't aware of what harm his words are causing you. But I would find out for sure before breaking up.
sometimes honey, for the greater good.. you have to let go of a lot of thing.. like ego and pride... but have a limit too, dont just become a door mat and take what may come. thats wrong too... I so much hate it when guys are such big babies and keep complaining about their home lands..
from my personal experiance.... .i'd tell you should start playing safe, and shake him a bit. Tell him to go away if he misses his mommy and daddy and his swings beside his little tree house... and then when he wakes up and realizes that you are his 'present.. and maybe future'... he'll know when to shut up, grow up and how to control his home sickness...
good luck.
break up! seriously....you don't need that!! life is to short to worry about stuff like that. you need to try a physcadelic trip
I'd say if you're questioning breaking up, it's probably the best idea. There are plenty more fish in the sea. And I understand how you feel, it's got to be hard with him saying that and basically implying he's not happy with you - that nothing compares to his homeland.
It's okay to move on.
I know what you mean.... at one point I was not happy with how my life was going and had little if any control over situations at the time. I complained to my bf that I hated how my life was and he took it to mean I also hated our relationship and was not happy in it. He is likely not lumping you into what makes him unhappy at all. But for your own sanity, if you do not intend to move with him to his country some day, you should find someone else. He will probably go back and then what happens to you?
personally i wud be offended by his constant complaints
its like hes jsut using u as a small distraction while he is away
i think next time he brings it up you shud definately say something like 'oh so theres nothing good in your life here??' or 'why dont u jsut leave then if there is nothing worth staying for' or 'well thanks that makes me feel great'
idk something to show him ur not gona take that **** anymore
he seems kind of like a drama queen i mean he musnt hav it that bad if he has such a careing gf like u right?
idk u can give him a chance to make it up but if he keeps treating u like an inferior i think its time to break it off
good luck hon!
ps can u help with my question?? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
yea that s h i t wud drive me mad, tell him if he misses it so much to go back home... you'll find someone else, who isn't so ethnocentric...
that was really rude (sry but it was) of him to say that to you. you've offered him your love and all he says is that, basically, everyone sucks. i'd dump him nownownow.
obviously you should dump himlip cream
NOW, i understand, but this is where my pride comes in. My heart physically hurts for him because I want to make him happy, but I know that I can never compare to what he has left back home. And by him stating he is never really happy during his stay here, that applies to the time that he spends with me as well. This makes me feel very inferior, and it wounds my pride. Simply put, although I want to help him and show him a good time, I don't like feeling inferior in a relationship. I feel like hes the right guy, but wrong place wrong time. Break up?I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
It's normal to feel homesick for everyone who goes away from his home for a long time. And it's not just the place he misses. It's his relatives and friends.
It takes a while to get used to a new place and to new relationships. And most people eventually adjust reasonably well.
You just need to give him some time. And eventually he will stop complaining about being away from his home.
His behavior is normal in these circumstances. Most people feel homesick when they go away from home. Most people behave for a while like your boyfriend does in these circumstances. And it has nothing to do with you being in second place.I hate asking for relationship advice, im very proud, but i need your advice?
Well, you could just plain ask him, are going to continue to pine away for your homeland, or are you going to try to make this work with me? Tell him its very frustrating hearing him say things like that, and that it hurts your feelings. Make sure he knows how you are feeling. It could possibly be that he isn't aware of what harm his words are causing you. But I would find out for sure before breaking up.
sometimes honey, for the greater good.. you have to let go of a lot of thing.. like ego and pride... but have a limit too, dont just become a door mat and take what may come. thats wrong too... I so much hate it when guys are such big babies and keep complaining about their home lands..
from my personal experiance.... .i'd tell you should start playing safe, and shake him a bit. Tell him to go away if he misses his mommy and daddy and his swings beside his little tree house... and then when he wakes up and realizes that you are his 'present.. and maybe future'... he'll know when to shut up, grow up and how to control his home sickness...
good luck.
break up! seriously....you don't need that!! life is to short to worry about stuff like that. you need to try a physcadelic trip
I'd say if you're questioning breaking up, it's probably the best idea. There are plenty more fish in the sea. And I understand how you feel, it's got to be hard with him saying that and basically implying he's not happy with you - that nothing compares to his homeland.
It's okay to move on.
I know what you mean.... at one point I was not happy with how my life was going and had little if any control over situations at the time. I complained to my bf that I hated how my life was and he took it to mean I also hated our relationship and was not happy in it. He is likely not lumping you into what makes him unhappy at all. But for your own sanity, if you do not intend to move with him to his country some day, you should find someone else. He will probably go back and then what happens to you?
personally i wud be offended by his constant complaints
its like hes jsut using u as a small distraction while he is away
i think next time he brings it up you shud definately say something like 'oh so theres nothing good in your life here??' or 'why dont u jsut leave then if there is nothing worth staying for' or 'well thanks that makes me feel great'
idk something to show him ur not gona take that **** anymore
he seems kind of like a drama queen i mean he musnt hav it that bad if he has such a careing gf like u right?
idk u can give him a chance to make it up but if he keeps treating u like an inferior i think its time to break it off
good luck hon!
ps can u help with my question?? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
yea that s h i t wud drive me mad, tell him if he misses it so much to go back home... you'll find someone else, who isn't so ethnocentric...
that was really rude (sry but it was) of him to say that to you. you've offered him your love and all he says is that, basically, everyone sucks. i'd dump him nownownow.
obviously you should dump him
Forbidden fruit;; (relationship advice please)?
here's the issue people I believe that I may be in love; which is obviosly wonderful. :)
But there's just a few problems- I'm still a teen and I'm still in school so repretation means alot even though I know its wrong . To sum it up I'm apart of the popular crowd and I am falling for a Classified nerd. :-/ he's amazing though and he's my complete opposite he sits in class quite and I'm all loud and fun but we talk ok the phone ad I just think he's so amazing. He's not into star wars are anything that bad he's just quite and just doesn't care what people think..I ash I couldndo the same but as for now I can't;; spring break was last week and I gave him a kiss but jus on the cheek no major Action ahaha . He knows I'm falling for him but he doesn't ask me out I don't get it; his friend says he really likes me but is just being a pussy but I don't even know anymore ughhh SOS please!
Excuse the typing I'm on my cell so these words are sooo off :]Forbidden fruit;; (relationship advice please)?
If you like him than go for it! These little clicks that people run around in during school dissapear almost immediately after highschool. Everyone goes off to College or the Military, finds themselves and their careers. So it dosen't matter if he isn't in the popular crowd.
Hell it can be a total boost to be dating someone interesting, fullfilling and off the radar!
Although it seems like he is a shy guy you'll have to make the first move and ask him out. No Biggie, after a little while he will open up and relax around you..
Have Fun!Forbidden fruit;; (relationship advice please)?
In my opinion hes probably wanting to ask you out.
The reason he hasn't maybe because you are different from one another.Try meeting him on a neutral ground .This way he can relax and open up.If he likes you he may just be waiting to see what your next move is.
But there's just a few problems- I'm still a teen and I'm still in school so repretation means alot even though I know its wrong . To sum it up I'm apart of the popular crowd and I am falling for a Classified nerd. :-/ he's amazing though and he's my complete opposite he sits in class quite and I'm all loud and fun but we talk ok the phone ad I just think he's so amazing. He's not into star wars are anything that bad he's just quite and just doesn't care what people think..I ash I couldndo the same but as for now I can't;; spring break was last week and I gave him a kiss but jus on the cheek no major Action ahaha . He knows I'm falling for him but he doesn't ask me out I don't get it; his friend says he really likes me but is just being a pussy but I don't even know anymore ughhh SOS please!
Excuse the typing I'm on my cell so these words are sooo off :]Forbidden fruit;; (relationship advice please)?
If you like him than go for it! These little clicks that people run around in during school dissapear almost immediately after highschool. Everyone goes off to College or the Military, finds themselves and their careers. So it dosen't matter if he isn't in the popular crowd.
Hell it can be a total boost to be dating someone interesting, fullfilling and off the radar!
Although it seems like he is a shy guy you'll have to make the first move and ask him out. No Biggie, after a little while he will open up and relax around you..
Have Fun!Forbidden fruit;; (relationship advice please)?
In my opinion hes probably wanting to ask you out.
The reason he hasn't maybe because you are different from one another.Try meeting him on a neutral ground .This way he can relax and open up.If he likes you he may just be waiting to see what your next move is.
HELP... Need relationship advice!!!!?
Long story. From the top shall we. Okay so when my now fiance and i first started dating, i was still talking to my last boyfriend. And i told him that i still loved him. Bad idea. My boyfriend found and was very upset which is understandable. Ever since then he has been very insecure and thinks that i am going to go back to this guy. And since this incident i have not talked or even seen my ex, not giving my fiance any reason to think so. It has been 2 years and we are now engaged and have a 7 week old son together and he asks me every now and again if i still think about him and i am honest with him and tell him yes. But its not like i lust over him, he just pops into my head once in a while. Which i have been told by several people that its normal, he was a big part of my life and there is no way i can erase those memories. Now there is a big problem in our relatioship because ';I cant get him out of my head'; So he says. I have explained to him several times that i dont want to go back to my ex, i wanna be with him (my fiance) and i wanna marry him. But that just isnt good enough. He expects me to erase my past and my memories of my ex to make this work. We are now very close to breaking up because of this mess, and i want to know AM I AT FAULT HERE??? Is it really that wrong to have thoughts about your past. Please, i need advice as i am going crazy. Thank you! And hold the nasty comments, im already a basket case.HELP... Need relationship advice!!!!?
ItS ToO lONg :)
SoRryHELP... Need relationship advice!!!!?
its okay to be in a new relationship and love/care about an ex. It may create a problem however if you are still in love with the ex. Many reasons but one important one is that it may close you off emotionally from your current relationship.
its memories u cant forget the past. i think he is just over reacting.i know how it feels and is very common
it is normal because u cant erase the past but at the same time dnt speak of him 2 ur fiance anymore keep ur thoughts 2 urself because its tearing u guys aprt...simply say 2 ur fiance '; wat can i do 2 keep us 2getha because ur the only 1 i wanna wake up 2 everymorning ill do anything 2 prove my love 4 u .. like i sed my ex is my past an its not easy 4 me 2 get but i am focus more on my present and future with u so how can we work this out?';
Okay Darling, its not wrong to think about him... and its not easy to forget any person who was part of your life for a long time... But you shouldn't have told him about your past.. Past is past, you should have left him there itself.. See, its ruining your present... And being honest is good, but what is the use if you won't have this relationship going.. Listen girl, I am too young to advice you, I am just 19 and I don't have a baby like you, but I do have a BF.. Guys don't accept the girl's past easily.. I won't be marrying my BF even though I love him more than anything and I also know that I'll never tell my future husband about him cause I know, he'll never understand... Guys are not like girls... They can never be.. Please.. tell him, you'll forget him soon and will never talk about him.. And ask him to stop asking as well.. Just a little lie can make your life.. He is your present and future, don't let him go for that past.. past is a pest...
ItS ToO lONg :)
SoRryHELP... Need relationship advice!!!!?
its okay to be in a new relationship and love/care about an ex. It may create a problem however if you are still in love with the ex. Many reasons but one important one is that it may close you off emotionally from your current relationship.
its memories u cant forget the past. i think he is just over reacting.i know how it feels and is very common
it is normal because u cant erase the past but at the same time dnt speak of him 2 ur fiance anymore keep ur thoughts 2 urself because its tearing u guys aprt...simply say 2 ur fiance '; wat can i do 2 keep us 2getha because ur the only 1 i wanna wake up 2 everymorning ill do anything 2 prove my love 4 u .. like i sed my ex is my past an its not easy 4 me 2 get but i am focus more on my present and future with u so how can we work this out?';
Okay Darling, its not wrong to think about him... and its not easy to forget any person who was part of your life for a long time... But you shouldn't have told him about your past.. Past is past, you should have left him there itself.. See, its ruining your present... And being honest is good, but what is the use if you won't have this relationship going.. Listen girl, I am too young to advice you, I am just 19 and I don't have a baby like you, but I do have a BF.. Guys don't accept the girl's past easily.. I won't be marrying my BF even though I love him more than anything and I also know that I'll never tell my future husband about him cause I know, he'll never understand... Guys are not like girls... They can never be.. Please.. tell him, you'll forget him soon and will never talk about him.. And ask him to stop asking as well.. Just a little lie can make your life.. He is your present and future, don't let him go for that past.. past is a pest...
I need relationship advice, help! Man Wh*re?!?
ok, I am inept when it comes asking women out. I am chicken, dorky, and even clumsy. The ironic thing is that every woman I have ever dated has asked ME out. I am talking about back in hs for dances, dates, or even to current times for relationships. I am 27 now and I don't know if this is the luck of the draw or just cuz I am a good actor at being cocky.
A girl once told me that my curse is I look like the type of guy who's had MANY sexual partners, whatever that means. She said that aspect about me is what scares women off. I thought this comment was harsh Cuz only been with two women. One went through me like water, the other is the one I wanna marry (I am currently with her)
I mean, I am not fully in shape, but am tone in the shoulders. It's my abs that need work. My gf even thought I'd been ';around the block'; when we met. That hurts a lil.
Can someone carry this image and not even know it?
I need advice. What does this aspect about me mean? I am a nice guy!I need relationship advice, help! Man Wh*re?!?
you best bet is this. go to this chica that you would like to be your wife and tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. tell her that no matter what you will be there for her and so on. this image that you carry can be erased. the only thing is that you will have to work at it. i know from experience about this until i became a man wh*re so don't worry to much. if she truly does love you she will spend forever with you.I need relationship advice, help! Man Wh*re?!?
maybe it's the cocky part of your attitude that gives off the ';whorey'; picture
well why should it bother u when clearly u know what they say is untrue
A girl once told me that my curse is I look like the type of guy who's had MANY sexual partners, whatever that means. She said that aspect about me is what scares women off. I thought this comment was harsh Cuz only been with two women. One went through me like water, the other is the one I wanna marry (I am currently with her)
I mean, I am not fully in shape, but am tone in the shoulders. It's my abs that need work. My gf even thought I'd been ';around the block'; when we met. That hurts a lil.
Can someone carry this image and not even know it?
I need advice. What does this aspect about me mean? I am a nice guy!I need relationship advice, help! Man Wh*re?!?
you best bet is this. go to this chica that you would like to be your wife and tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. tell her that no matter what you will be there for her and so on. this image that you carry can be erased. the only thing is that you will have to work at it. i know from experience about this until i became a man wh*re so don't worry to much. if she truly does love you she will spend forever with you.I need relationship advice, help! Man Wh*re?!?
maybe it's the cocky part of your attitude that gives off the ';whorey'; picture
well why should it bother u when clearly u know what they say is untrue
I need some Relationship Advice.?
I need some advice on my relationship. So there's this girl that likes me and I like her back and we been talkin and hangin with each other for quite awhile. She says that she's gotten over her last boyfriend and that she only likes me now, but I've seen her give him hugs and my friends have told me that she still hangs out with him. It seems to me that she still likes him and cannot get over him even tho has had made her cry many times. Is this a lost cause for me? Or should I keep pushin on?I need some Relationship Advice.?
Just keep pushin on, but keep your eyes and ears open. If you don't see improvement, she may be one of those women who likes to keep guys on a string. Not good if that's the case.
Just keep pushin on, but keep your eyes and ears open. If you don't see improvement, she may be one of those women who likes to keep guys on a string. Not good if that's the case.
I need serious relationship advice!!?
me and my bf have been together for almost 6 months. he moved frm another state to live in my apt. I work very hard everyday to make sure we are both taken care of but it is stressing, he has no job but he is currently looking. aside from that he does a lot of immature things and he is spolied. he loves me a lot. but, I have a huge crush on his friend who appears to be everything I want a need (a responsible caring man). Ive told him how feel and he said we can't work but, if me and my guy ever broke up we could make something happen. Im confused because his friend has proven to be a responsible caring man. and my man keeps proving to be immature and spoiledI need serious relationship advice!!?
I think you have already answered your own question! He sounds like a useless lump who only moved in to freeload off you and it sounds that you like his friend more.
Why are you hesitating you silly person?lip cream
I think you have already answered your own question! He sounds like a useless lump who only moved in to freeload off you and it sounds that you like his friend more.
Why are you hesitating you silly person?
Need some serious relationship advice . . has this happened to anyone?
Met the man of my dreams 3 months ago through mutual friends. We meshed perfectly. And the sexual chemistry was off the charts. We both thought the other was ';the one';. Then we hit a ';bump';. He can be impatient, condescending, and caustic sometimes, and I just didn't like it. And even after explaining it to him, how much it hurt my feelings, nothing changed. In fact, I became the ';villain'; and he eventually broke up with me saying ';we're not compatible.'; I accepted, made a clean break, and moved on. However, I'm still in love with him, and part of me wishes it would work out. . . This weekend, I learned from mutual friends, that his last 2 relationships ended for the same reason, and that all of his friends have also had issues with this. They also told me that he's confused about why things didn't work out between us, given how great we were together in most respects. Clearly, he has a personality problem and he's in denial about it. . . Has anyone been in a situation like this? Is there any way something like this can be resolved? If so, how? Need some serious relationship advice . . has this happened to anyone?
I see that you really did not accept him completely. Do you love him? Then accept him as he is, with his ';personality problem';, do not try to change him. Can't you accept that part of him? Then move on... you just felt passion, affection but not love...Need some serious relationship advice . . has this happened to anyone?
I have been in a similar situation in the past. You can save yourself a lot of pain and suffering if you just let go now and move on. Sure, it's going to hurt for a while but things will get better. Then find a man that is meant to be with you. He is not right for you or you wouldn't be on here questioning it.
Many women marry men thinking that personality %26amp; character faults can be somehow changed after marriage..
It usually gets worse after marriage and divorce is inevitable.
Don't go back to him..
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love.
Use your brain to find a husband, not your heart..
It sounds like ( bipolar ).
He's not a bad person; but he would need to be under a doctors care.
You couldn't accept him the way he is so get on with yout life already!
Well I think some people are just a certain way and he is that way with everyone which means it is his personality and he gets upset because people seem like they are always trying to change him into someone he is not. I think that you should accept that he may never change and you tell him that when he is like that it hurts you and you are still in love with him but he has to think about you as a couple not as you not being compatible because you have feelings that can get hurt. Well if he still is the same I say you either have to put up with it or move on without him in your life.
He feels small inside. There is some standard, perhaps in terms of making money, that he feels he can never live up to and he feels he is not worthy if he does not reach that standard. Thus, he is not satisfied with himself, and so he begins to take this out on others.
My best bet. I read this entire book on ';angry males in U.S. society,'; about how our society pretty much judges everything in money, and many men, even if only subconsciously, begin to judge themselves in that manner... Fall short (there is always someone ahead in terms of money), and take this anger out on others.
It may even be that he feels that he is not worthy, and when someone else loves him, he begins to reason, ';If I'm not worthy, yet this person loves me, she must also be unworthy,'; and writes you off by association in this manner.
Think about our role models. Donald Trump: As successful as can be in terms of money... But has he had any success with marriage? Where's his family?
Yet everyone speaks about Donald Trump. Even my aunt was telling me something positive about him the other day and it just made me sick. This man is a failure in EVERYTHING except for his career and the money that comes with it. That is important, but it takes much more than a worthy career to make a worthy human.
So, I direct you to this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Broken-American-Ma鈥?/a>
Really, it would seem to answer your questions directly.
Good luck!
well if you want him back ask him out to dinner and catch up on the new things in you're life and then ask him why does he think that you guys broke up and if he talks about it he wants to resolve things and if not he just wants it the way it is but from what i hear i think you guys are going to get back together.. you have to be there for him if you want him to change his ways as much as he is annoying to you sometimes if you love him you have to help him work out his problems.
good luck hun
I see that you really did not accept him completely. Do you love him? Then accept him as he is, with his ';personality problem';, do not try to change him. Can't you accept that part of him? Then move on... you just felt passion, affection but not love...Need some serious relationship advice . . has this happened to anyone?
I have been in a similar situation in the past. You can save yourself a lot of pain and suffering if you just let go now and move on. Sure, it's going to hurt for a while but things will get better. Then find a man that is meant to be with you. He is not right for you or you wouldn't be on here questioning it.
Many women marry men thinking that personality %26amp; character faults can be somehow changed after marriage..
It usually gets worse after marriage and divorce is inevitable.
Don't go back to him..
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love.
Use your brain to find a husband, not your heart..
It sounds like ( bipolar ).
He's not a bad person; but he would need to be under a doctors care.
You couldn't accept him the way he is so get on with yout life already!
Well I think some people are just a certain way and he is that way with everyone which means it is his personality and he gets upset because people seem like they are always trying to change him into someone he is not. I think that you should accept that he may never change and you tell him that when he is like that it hurts you and you are still in love with him but he has to think about you as a couple not as you not being compatible because you have feelings that can get hurt. Well if he still is the same I say you either have to put up with it or move on without him in your life.
He feels small inside. There is some standard, perhaps in terms of making money, that he feels he can never live up to and he feels he is not worthy if he does not reach that standard. Thus, he is not satisfied with himself, and so he begins to take this out on others.
My best bet. I read this entire book on ';angry males in U.S. society,'; about how our society pretty much judges everything in money, and many men, even if only subconsciously, begin to judge themselves in that manner... Fall short (there is always someone ahead in terms of money), and take this anger out on others.
It may even be that he feels that he is not worthy, and when someone else loves him, he begins to reason, ';If I'm not worthy, yet this person loves me, she must also be unworthy,'; and writes you off by association in this manner.
Think about our role models. Donald Trump: As successful as can be in terms of money... But has he had any success with marriage? Where's his family?
Yet everyone speaks about Donald Trump. Even my aunt was telling me something positive about him the other day and it just made me sick. This man is a failure in EVERYTHING except for his career and the money that comes with it. That is important, but it takes much more than a worthy career to make a worthy human.
So, I direct you to this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Broken-American-Ma鈥?/a>
Really, it would seem to answer your questions directly.
Good luck!
well if you want him back ask him out to dinner and catch up on the new things in you're life and then ask him why does he think that you guys broke up and if he talks about it he wants to resolve things and if not he just wants it the way it is but from what i hear i think you guys are going to get back together.. you have to be there for him if you want him to change his ways as much as he is annoying to you sometimes if you love him you have to help him work out his problems.
good luck hun
I need some relationship advice?
i think i'm getting waaaay too attached to my boyfriend! i really don't know what to do! i'm always so happy with him but then when it's near time to go i'll get all mardy and sad :( i hate leaving him!
i'm dissappointed in myself for being like this cause i'm behind on college work and most of all i spend no time at all with my family now :( i don't know what to do to keep my mind off him! i'd like to go out with my mates but i don't get on with them anymore cause they are still really immature (16yr olds that is) i just want to do stuff to keep my mind off him and be without him and STILL be happy!
can anyone help me?I need some relationship advice?
It sounds like you have become very attatched. its really unhealthy to segragate yourself off from the rest of the world (family and friends) and just spend time with your man. This will cause more problems for you in the long run because you will rely on him to be ur family, friend, and boyfriend. It may cause arguements between the 2 of u later on down the line.
you say your friends are immature.. but surely you have some friends who u can talk to? Grab a DVD with your girlfriends, do a makeover, Something for yourself which doesn't involve him. It will be hard at 1st, but after a while u will think about him less, and that attatchment you feel will slowly ease away. Try calling and seeing him less. Get on with your college work, as boring as it is. Hope it all works out xxI need some relationship advice?
You should try to get out and find some new friends your age. Let your boyfriend know that you love him but want to spend some time with your friends and family. As for school ork, he can help you or you can study together.
i'm dissappointed in myself for being like this cause i'm behind on college work and most of all i spend no time at all with my family now :( i don't know what to do to keep my mind off him! i'd like to go out with my mates but i don't get on with them anymore cause they are still really immature (16yr olds that is) i just want to do stuff to keep my mind off him and be without him and STILL be happy!
can anyone help me?I need some relationship advice?
It sounds like you have become very attatched. its really unhealthy to segragate yourself off from the rest of the world (family and friends) and just spend time with your man. This will cause more problems for you in the long run because you will rely on him to be ur family, friend, and boyfriend. It may cause arguements between the 2 of u later on down the line.
you say your friends are immature.. but surely you have some friends who u can talk to? Grab a DVD with your girlfriends, do a makeover, Something for yourself which doesn't involve him. It will be hard at 1st, but after a while u will think about him less, and that attatchment you feel will slowly ease away. Try calling and seeing him less. Get on with your college work, as boring as it is. Hope it all works out xxI need some relationship advice?
You should try to get out and find some new friends your age. Let your boyfriend know that you love him but want to spend some time with your friends and family. As for school ork, he can help you or you can study together.
In need of relationship advice :(?
Ok, here's the story, the details are relevant for the answer I'm seeking...very confused.
I met this guy who chased after me considerably before I gave him my number..not because I wasn't interested, I was actually just getting out of another relationship and was still upset. As soon as we started to talk, things began moving very quickly. We spent a lot of time together and he was very honest and staright forward about his feelings...telling me he hadnt felt this way before yadda yadda.. Less than 2 weeks into our whirlwind romance, he told me he loved me which reallly turned me off. I was going through a rough time emotionally and him telling me that just released the trigger since he made no sense to me... I stated acting like a total jerk with him until he reached his breaking point and we broke up... I felt really bad and started to miss him and all my friends told me I was too harsh on him, so after calming myself down, i called him and we got back together. We ended up sleeping together for the first time shortly after and I started to notice that he was being very distant...would take 5-6 hrs to reply to my texts and i would call way more than he called me.. I started to get angry and instead of talking to him about it, i got really drunk one night and called him and broke up with him...again. (forgot to mention it was me who broke up with him the first time around too because i felt that i pushed him so far it was beyond salvation)... everyone told me i'm too impulsive and quick to cut him out of my life only to regret it later...in the same time ive also been told that i had good reason to break up with him the second time around because he was playing games.. now we just got back together for the third time!! lol just a few days ago... and it was me who initiated contact again... we spend 2 days together and everything seemed great and now hes back to taking too long to reply to my texts and not calling often... i'm so stressed out and dunno what to think or do...he wasnt like this at the start and i cant help but think i just blew it...or am i just not realizing that he is a player...or am i freaking out for no reason... should i end things again and for good?
thank you!!!In need of relationship advice :(?
Be straight forward- tell him what you're concerned about, and ask him to explain his feelings. You could very well be making this into a much bigger deal than what it has to be, and you can't expect him to read your mind. Don't play games- just be honest. Tell him to do the same. That way you can be clear about your intentions and you can make a logical decision. In need of relationship advice :(?
Ask him whats going on
Think about this ! Why does man need woman ?
honestly you can say sex or marriage .
so ask yourself , what has he gotten from you ?
for friendship , that is something different in your case.
if I was you , I had to ask him about marriage ( just a question ) and that at the beginning so when you know his intentions you can make your mind . believe me it's too easy .
I met this guy who chased after me considerably before I gave him my number..not because I wasn't interested, I was actually just getting out of another relationship and was still upset. As soon as we started to talk, things began moving very quickly. We spent a lot of time together and he was very honest and staright forward about his feelings...telling me he hadnt felt this way before yadda yadda.. Less than 2 weeks into our whirlwind romance, he told me he loved me which reallly turned me off. I was going through a rough time emotionally and him telling me that just released the trigger since he made no sense to me... I stated acting like a total jerk with him until he reached his breaking point and we broke up... I felt really bad and started to miss him and all my friends told me I was too harsh on him, so after calming myself down, i called him and we got back together. We ended up sleeping together for the first time shortly after and I started to notice that he was being very distant...would take 5-6 hrs to reply to my texts and i would call way more than he called me.. I started to get angry and instead of talking to him about it, i got really drunk one night and called him and broke up with him...again. (forgot to mention it was me who broke up with him the first time around too because i felt that i pushed him so far it was beyond salvation)... everyone told me i'm too impulsive and quick to cut him out of my life only to regret it later...in the same time ive also been told that i had good reason to break up with him the second time around because he was playing games.. now we just got back together for the third time!! lol just a few days ago... and it was me who initiated contact again... we spend 2 days together and everything seemed great and now hes back to taking too long to reply to my texts and not calling often... i'm so stressed out and dunno what to think or do...he wasnt like this at the start and i cant help but think i just blew it...or am i just not realizing that he is a player...or am i freaking out for no reason... should i end things again and for good?
thank you!!!In need of relationship advice :(?
Be straight forward- tell him what you're concerned about, and ask him to explain his feelings. You could very well be making this into a much bigger deal than what it has to be, and you can't expect him to read your mind. Don't play games- just be honest. Tell him to do the same. That way you can be clear about your intentions and you can make a logical decision. In need of relationship advice :(?
Ask him whats going on
Think about this ! Why does man need woman ?
honestly you can say sex or marriage .
so ask yourself , what has he gotten from you ?
for friendship , that is something different in your case.
if I was you , I had to ask him about marriage ( just a question ) and that at the beginning so when you know his intentions you can make your mind . believe me it's too easy .
I need help. Relationship advice.?
Ok. So. I LOVE my girlfriend to death and she loves me that much back. The other day we were talking and she was telling me about past boyfriends because i was curious. She was telling me how they got her into sexual stuff and kissing and getting close and stuff like that. She told me that she didnt really like any of them and feels bad about the past because she feels stupid and sluty for doing it. I told her shes not and shes better. Im not. I cant get it out of my head. She feels so amazing that she shared my first kiss and stuff like i mentioned before but i feel bad i caould do that stuff to her. I am the jealous type, but dont understand why this bothers me. How do i forget this or get over it or talk to her about it?I need help. Relationship advice.?
dude you are my hero! you seem like a down to earth guy! well at least she was honest with you! that shows a good relationship... you guys seem to have an open communication so just tell her how u feel... and i guess you will need to get over this eventually.. and be happy u are with her! good luck man
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dude you are my hero! you seem like a down to earth guy! well at least she was honest with you! that shows a good relationship... you guys seem to have an open communication so just tell her how u feel... and i guess you will need to get over this eventually.. and be happy u are with her! good luck man
if u can, can u answer my question?
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HELP! Long distance relationship advice! (prom)?
my girlfriend and i have been dating for 5 and a half months now. im 20 and out of school and she is going to be 18, my dilemma though, is that i live in Massachusetts and she lives in Kentucky, and i wont be moving down there for another 5 months or so. our relationship is great but she wants to go to her senior prom with one of guy friends. i feel horrible telling her i don't want her to go. but i have never even held her hand and some other guy will be dancing with her and she'll be getting dressed up for him? i'm going insane what should i do? tell her i dont want her to go and risk seeming like an ****** or let her go and let some guy be all over her... she is a very attractive girl and shes had many guys hit on her and ask her out since we've been dating i dont think she is cheating on me or has any desire to its just weird and i cant make it down there for here prom because i cannot get any time off from work due to the fact i work for my fascist state.. please any input at all would help. advice, opinions, anything need replies asap before i go nuts thank you so muchHELP! Long distance relationship advice! (prom)?
If you can not get down there to be with her, and she wants to go, I think you should trust her... If she likes you, then she will go, have a good time, dance a little, and be thinking about you the whole night...
Just trust her, and keep telling her you love her etc....
Everything will work out for the best...HELP! Long distance relationship advice! (prom)?
Prom is almost as big a deal as a wedding for a female... if you trust that she isn't cheating and this is JUST a friend then let her go... You wouldn't want to be the one she holds a grudge against for keeping her from a BIG event in her life... probably not what you want to hear but it's the truth...
If you can not get down there to be with her, and she wants to go, I think you should trust her... If she likes you, then she will go, have a good time, dance a little, and be thinking about you the whole night...
Just trust her, and keep telling her you love her etc....
Everything will work out for the best...HELP! Long distance relationship advice! (prom)?
Prom is almost as big a deal as a wedding for a female... if you trust that she isn't cheating and this is JUST a friend then let her go... You wouldn't want to be the one she holds a grudge against for keeping her from a BIG event in her life... probably not what you want to hear but it's the truth...
Men, I need relationship advice?
I've been talking to this guy for a month now. We were both digging each other and a mutual friend hooked us up. We talk at least once every night, up to two hours sometimes. He'll ask me about my day and what I'm planning on doing the next day. Also, during the day, we send a few texts here and there. He does and says all of the right things, except for one thing. He usually doesn't call until later on in the day around 8-10:00. Is this normal? How can two people that are ';talking'; not talk until around that time? Doesn't he wonder what I'm doing all day? Is it that he's not interested enough to know what I'm doing all day? SOME days, he does randomly text to say, ';Hey baby, where are you?'; or ';What are you doing?'; Anyway, is that small detail common in relationships or should I worry? I do know he's into me because of his words/actions prove that, but this one thing is making me wonder. Thanks for any advice!Men, I need relationship advice?
have you asked him why he calls at those times? why don't you try calling him? If you want a relationship, it helps to have communication. It's a simple question, so there shouldn't be a problem for him to answer it unless he is hiding something.Men, I need relationship advice?
He must have better things to do during the day, like hang with his gf.
Ask him.all the sweet talk makes me think maybe he's a pro.how many more girls is he chatting up?
I us to be a pro and had a lot of ladies strung
tight.all the rite words and come Ono's sweet talk.
don.t go to fast.and when he calls next time,tell him to call you at a time you pick,and see what his
answer is.IF he says he can't.he will make a
excuse.
Maybe he is afraid that you are still asleep before that or so... or he is only awake after that time. Dont sweat about it much! if it does bother you, why not ask him about it jokingly through text, then you would know.
First of all, how old is he?
Second is he engrossed in his job?
Is work very important to him?
Or it is the only time he can get away from his wife to call you.
You be the judge.
I doubt he's married. Your mutual friend would have known that! I would ask him why he never wants to talk until after 8:00. After a month, that is not too forward. Do you ever call him? You could try calling him and do so earlier than 8:00. See what happens.
I think he like u since u guy been texting and talking about stuff so he is in to u but careful he might not be a good guy
stop being so obsessive, he is busy...work, school, and any number of other possible responsibilities
he's married.
i don't think you need to worry. calling that late seems to be the best time to call. between the hours of 8 and 10 you are more likely to not be doing something important, i.e. work, classes, etc., and he will be able to talk to you longer without interruptions. also before 10 he won't feel like he is keeping you from sleeping, which you may or may not mind depending on your sleep schedule
a lot of times i am busy up until that time, he could be busy, or he might think that you are busy. normally, 8-10 is not a very busy time for most people
dont think too deeply into this, i normally dont call girls until around 9
Hmm, yes, that is suspicious. Have you tried asking him? Making him look you in the eye and answer? If you two are really into eachother, he should have no problem answering you truthfully. Sometimes, if there is a reason, it's normal when there's a specific time you can talk. In a case like this where you don't know, i wouldn't expect it to be normal. This could just be a wavering in your relationships, no relationship is perfect. Just get the courage to ask him if it worries you so much. It's your choice.lip cream
have you asked him why he calls at those times? why don't you try calling him? If you want a relationship, it helps to have communication. It's a simple question, so there shouldn't be a problem for him to answer it unless he is hiding something.Men, I need relationship advice?
He must have better things to do during the day, like hang with his gf.
Ask him.all the sweet talk makes me think maybe he's a pro.how many more girls is he chatting up?
I us to be a pro and had a lot of ladies strung
tight.all the rite words and come Ono's sweet talk.
don.t go to fast.and when he calls next time,tell him to call you at a time you pick,and see what his
answer is.IF he says he can't.he will make a
excuse.
Maybe he is afraid that you are still asleep before that or so... or he is only awake after that time. Dont sweat about it much! if it does bother you, why not ask him about it jokingly through text, then you would know.
First of all, how old is he?
Second is he engrossed in his job?
Is work very important to him?
Or it is the only time he can get away from his wife to call you.
You be the judge.
I doubt he's married. Your mutual friend would have known that! I would ask him why he never wants to talk until after 8:00. After a month, that is not too forward. Do you ever call him? You could try calling him and do so earlier than 8:00. See what happens.
I think he like u since u guy been texting and talking about stuff so he is in to u but careful he might not be a good guy
stop being so obsessive, he is busy...work, school, and any number of other possible responsibilities
he's married.
i don't think you need to worry. calling that late seems to be the best time to call. between the hours of 8 and 10 you are more likely to not be doing something important, i.e. work, classes, etc., and he will be able to talk to you longer without interruptions. also before 10 he won't feel like he is keeping you from sleeping, which you may or may not mind depending on your sleep schedule
a lot of times i am busy up until that time, he could be busy, or he might think that you are busy. normally, 8-10 is not a very busy time for most people
dont think too deeply into this, i normally dont call girls until around 9
Hmm, yes, that is suspicious. Have you tried asking him? Making him look you in the eye and answer? If you two are really into eachother, he should have no problem answering you truthfully. Sometimes, if there is a reason, it's normal when there's a specific time you can talk. In a case like this where you don't know, i wouldn't expect it to be normal. This could just be a wavering in your relationships, no relationship is perfect. Just get the courage to ask him if it worries you so much. It's your choice.
I need some relationship advice. Help!?
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and nine months. We've had our problems like any other couple, but recently he told me he had a conversation with his mom and she said something like ';yeah you guys seem more like friends now';. Which is really bothering me. Here's some background, I'm 23 years old...he's my first boyfriend, first real date, first everything really. Most people have the opportunity to go through that awkward stage in middle school, you know, when you feel awkward holding hands in public, or sit ten feet away from the other person on the couch at your parents. Well at least that's what I imagine I would do...and unfortunately that is pretty much me now. I mean..don't get me wrong...we're intimate on some level, but we rarely act like a couple in public. The most we probably do is I'll hook my finger in his belt buckle, or he'll put his hand on my back as we walk. I don't think we've even hugged infront of our parents, let alone kissed. I know probably most of it is because I feel awkward...and he doesn't want me to feel awkward, so we've just gotten in the habit of not acting affectionate infront of other people. I should also mention that at this point in our relationship we haven't had sex yet either. Which I think and he agrees also has put us into the friends zone unintentionally. Before he couldn't keep his hands off of me and we'd make out for a very long time..now we rarely kiss for more than a few minutes. I love him very much and he feels the same, but I'm afraid that because we aren't being phsyically intimate that we've put ourselves in a position where the relationship can't go on anymore. Don't get me wrong, I believe that the best relationships are built on great friendships..and I'd say we are best friends. I can talk to him about anything and have complete respect for him. I'm definitely physically attracted to him and I know the same is true for him. He isn't pressuring me into anything that I don't want, but I guess I'm just afraid on a lot of different levels of what it'll do to our relationship and to me personally. I mean if we're just friends will taking the next step in our relationship physically really help? I'm afraid that if I decide that sex will bring us closer (which I think we to make sure our relationship is sound before we take that step) that our relationship will still fail and I'll have given him something that I can't get back. Just stuff that's been on my mind....comments and opinions would be helpful...but please if you are going to be rude or judgemental you don't need to comment, that isn't helpful at all.I need some relationship advice. Help!?
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dont move into the sex phase yet
let him make the move
he sounds very slow
dont frighten him
whats the ?
Do you know how lucky you are to be friends with the guy you love?! SO many jump into a relationship for sex, and realize they dont even LIKE the guy! SOunds like a GREAT place to start for a lasting mature relationship. Take things slowly, and enjoy the ride! Good luck!
Sitting side by side on your parents couch, maybe your hand on his leg or vice versa, thats cute. Thats not being to clingy, and its showing that you aren't scared to show your affection for this guy. Start out small steps, and then continue on with bigger ones.
Theres some things though, that you don't do in front of your parents, or his parents, don't walk up to him and start making out with him while his parents are in the room, thats different, and its something you need to do while your alone.
Don't jump into the sex phase, because I agree that you shouldn't give up something special to you, because you wanna be close to another person. You can become close in other ways then just having sex with him. Theres also many ways to show your love for this person, instead of sleeping with him. Once your ready, you'll know, and thats when you do it. Sex is something you share with a person your inlove with, you just want to be closer to this guy, and losing your virginity to get that, in my opinion, isn't really worth it.
i dont really understand what the question is, from what i skimmed your thinking about having sex? i think if you have to think about it, then you're not ready for it. you are old enough to know when it feels right or when you are feeling pressure to do something uncomfortable. sex cant make you ro break you its how much you enjoy eachother that will do that. don't think of it as something of a burden have fun with the decision. whether you do it or not stay true to you.
Don't make decisions based on his mother's comments. She is only on the outside looking in, and does not know the details.
Do not be pressured into anything. Wait until you're ready
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Check out PassionsForum.com
It's a site for asking questions about relationships and other people on the site will give you their feedback and you can talk back... I feel like its better coverage than getting random answers on here because you can reply to them and have a full conversation about what your problem is.I need some relationship advice. Help!?
dont move into the sex phase yet
let him make the move
he sounds very slow
dont frighten him
whats the ?
Do you know how lucky you are to be friends with the guy you love?! SO many jump into a relationship for sex, and realize they dont even LIKE the guy! SOunds like a GREAT place to start for a lasting mature relationship. Take things slowly, and enjoy the ride! Good luck!
Sitting side by side on your parents couch, maybe your hand on his leg or vice versa, thats cute. Thats not being to clingy, and its showing that you aren't scared to show your affection for this guy. Start out small steps, and then continue on with bigger ones.
Theres some things though, that you don't do in front of your parents, or his parents, don't walk up to him and start making out with him while his parents are in the room, thats different, and its something you need to do while your alone.
Don't jump into the sex phase, because I agree that you shouldn't give up something special to you, because you wanna be close to another person. You can become close in other ways then just having sex with him. Theres also many ways to show your love for this person, instead of sleeping with him. Once your ready, you'll know, and thats when you do it. Sex is something you share with a person your inlove with, you just want to be closer to this guy, and losing your virginity to get that, in my opinion, isn't really worth it.
i dont really understand what the question is, from what i skimmed your thinking about having sex? i think if you have to think about it, then you're not ready for it. you are old enough to know when it feels right or when you are feeling pressure to do something uncomfortable. sex cant make you ro break you its how much you enjoy eachother that will do that. don't think of it as something of a burden have fun with the decision. whether you do it or not stay true to you.
Don't make decisions based on his mother's comments. She is only on the outside looking in, and does not know the details.
Do not be pressured into anything. Wait until you're ready
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I need relationship advice!!?
ok ladies,
here's the deal.me and this woman were dating and then after awhile she ran into a lot of stress with looking for a place to move to, raising a kid, looking for a new job and what not. so she decided that she really wasn't ready for a relationship. she wants to go back to being friends and if we go somewhere from there then okay. but she said she just wasn't ready. she still wants to hang out and stuff. i really do love her so i'm confused. should i take it at face value and realize she wasn't ready yet and hangout with her and see what happens. so why is she not ready for relationships especially when i was so great to her.I need relationship advice!!?
Sound like she just did not want to hurt you feelings. If you do still want to be with her, you should remain CLOSE friends but do not try to make any moves on her and nicely reject hers if attempted (at least for a good while). You should start dating other girls and inform her of this like you would to a good guy friend. After a while she will realize what she lost and the rest will fall in to place just don't run back you need to walk back for this to work.I need relationship advice!!?
well just be nice and kind and don't go to fast with it.
I see what you are saying. and being a good guy and all. you need to move on. if this is stressing her out this much she may never be ready. you need to find someone who is ready to settle down and be in a long term relationship. you shouldnt wait on just one person when there are others who are waiting for a guy like you.
Don't blame yourself...if you haven't treated her right then she wouldn't want you to be friends with her. Help her a little...try looking for a place with her or just go and help her just to feel less stress...
Good Luck:0)
I had a very similar situation. A girl I was dating, and getting serious with, decided to end our relationship and just be friends. She didn't feel that she should be in a serious relationship. So, we became friends. We'd hang out but then things would get a little ';sensual'; between us. She initiated everything. So after the third-fourth time this happened I was getting confused. Did she want me as a ';booty call?'; Did she think of me as a boyfriend? What was the deal?? Basically, she did not know what she wanted. She cared about me but my values were different from hers... I was agnostic she was a super christian. Finally, I stopped seeing her and hanging out with her because she had no idea what she wanted and it was making me feel like an idiot. I tried to give her what she wanted, but she was soo confused that it blew up in her face. I'd say, take your current relationship at face value. See what happens. If she starts wanting to get frisky and such, confront her on it. If all she wants is a fling, the decision to continue that relationship is up to you. If all she wants is space. Give it to her. Maybe things will work out, but DO NOT let her take advantage of the fact that you love her. My ex still tries to get in contact with me, but I decided that it was in the best interest for us not to have a relationship.
well it hard to tell someone what they should do, cuz on the out side lookin in, u cant feel the others feelings in there relationship. since you ask tho, i would say be careful, cuz your feeling is there hers is backing up.. she is also saying in so many ways shes open to dating other people.. dont wait around for any one, you deserve better, anyone does.. you can change your heart and just be her friend, or leav her alone... sorry
for 1 she has a lot on her plate and a man ontop of it all just adds stress. Just stay by her side help her where she needs it and as soon as all the stress is gone she can thank you and relaxe. I hope it does work out but you do have to put yourself in her shoes and see how hard it is for her.
i think that she might need time to straighten her life a little bit before going into a relationship
If you really love her you'll wait for her. I suggest helping her kids or finding an appartment. It will help remove the stress. Another thing is dont take it personally. She is probably just trying to figure out some things with herself right now.
Hope everything works out
you need to give her some time cuz she has stress
funny how you did not mention your relashonship with the ';kid'; at any time. isnt it. its because you do not care one bit about that child only you care about is sex with the women.
well shes worried so take it a day at a time
It's hard but you sound like you really love her. Stand by her side during this rough patch. She seems to know that you'll be supportive otherwise she would of just broken up with you with no chance at a future.
Be strong it's hard but you guys will come out of this stronger for the love and support you gave her through a diffucult time.
Communicate as well. Knowing where she's at and where she's going will help you understand how she's doing with things.
Good Luck!
the thing that i would recommend is just to be there for her. she may need you to watch her kid sometime, do her the favor. the more respectful, kind, and helpful you are the more chances you may have. but for now, stick to being a good helpful friend.
Sounds like she is ready to slow down. I don't think she wants to be anything but friends. It is possible that it has something to do with her child or the move.
She is very preocupied and is under a lot of stress as you say. It shouldn't come as a real shock to see that she isn't ready. Ready, as in not ready to move into a relationship because she has to solve more urgent things. She trusts that you are a great guy and wants to stay with you even after the ordeal is over so that the relationship can resume. So don't give up hope, she hasn't dumped you or anything. She just needs to get more urgent things done before she can spend more time with you. So as her friend, help her in any way possible to lessen her load. That way, you two can bond much more and the relationship will be better than before. Good luck.
I think she really loves you too. She realizes that shes going through too much in her life that she can't give you her all. I dont think that she thinks it's fair to you to put in the effort on your part of the relationship and she's not. Just be her friend, be there for her in her time of need. and when she's ready, she'll let you know. respect her for breaking it off when she knows that she cant put an equal effort in instead of using you.
If you let anyone play with your heart, they will break it.
You are about to respect her feeling as she steps on your?
Tell her you are ready for a relationship, take it or leave it, then you can give her a little time to straighten out.
mmm im sorry to here that but she wanst ready and we cant change that what you can change is her mind not what has already happened sooooooooo i want you to tell her how u feel and and tell her its ok you'll walk her through it and then slowly solve all the problems she had like the finding a proper job raising a kid getting a place to move.. walk here through it step by step as if your really are in a realationship you did say you loved her and then tell her can you get back together
wish you best of luck
-Khadeja
Some people just don't think that they can handle a relationship with everything else going on in their lives. I don't think its that she doesn't like you. She will tell you when she is ready. For now just stay friends and give her the space she needs
give her the chance to get settled again raising a kid is tough be there for her but yet give her the space she needs and if u love her and she loves you then it will work out
Sounds like she is a smart woman and needs to focus on the real issues that are effecting her and her childs life. Looking for another job and a new place to live is very stressful. Maybe she just need you there for moral support for now, and as a friend.
And if you are demanding (in some sort of way - like when can I see you.?.etc..) And she isn't sure, that may be stressing her out. You can still love her as a friend, but give her space to get her life together.. You know they say, you can't love another until you love yourself, and right now she may not feel very secure about herself because of her very stressful situation.
I understand her point, nothing against you, she just need to focus on her life right now. Just be there for her.
She probably just got overwhelmed and scared. If shes not completely pushing away from you, I'd say wait it out. Maybe she just really wasn't ready for it, but she thinks that with time she will, and she wants to be with you when she is.
Set a time limit for yourself. If not ready for a relationship by that time, move on.
She has a lot of things on her mind right now, like you said she's under a lot of stress. Just let some of those things pass and when she'll have more free time it will be back to what it was like before.
sounds like she's using you
its up to you if you carry on letting her - but I think its a recipe for hurt if you do
Try and be strong and protect yourself
My advice would be to drop all contact as you like her more than a friend - and she wants to call all the shots
She is a commitment phobe - for whatever reasons from her past - but don't you want a REAL relationship?....a 2 way thing?
She is happy to call the shots and will crush you - believe me!
sorry to say it
but cut your losses.....give yourself time to recover - and find someone who's not scared of having a relationship!!!
Talk to her. Say that you are confused. dont say it at a bar but do say it at a romantic place. Say that you do love her and say if you are not ready to have a relationship with me (meaning you) then say that youll wait for her until she is ready. peace ;)
I would venture to answer the last question since I think it relates with the others.
The most difficult question to answer is that which relates to other people. So instead of asking yourself 'why she is not ready for a relationship?' better to ask yourself, 'why do you want one with her?' Being great with her is entirely your perspective, not hers.
By the way, please clarify your position. From where I come from, having a relationship is not the same as being in love. Do you love her or you just want a relationship? Unless you can honestly answer this, you will always have questions in your mind because, apparently, she has a different definition of things.
here's the deal.me and this woman were dating and then after awhile she ran into a lot of stress with looking for a place to move to, raising a kid, looking for a new job and what not. so she decided that she really wasn't ready for a relationship. she wants to go back to being friends and if we go somewhere from there then okay. but she said she just wasn't ready. she still wants to hang out and stuff. i really do love her so i'm confused. should i take it at face value and realize she wasn't ready yet and hangout with her and see what happens. so why is she not ready for relationships especially when i was so great to her.I need relationship advice!!?
Sound like she just did not want to hurt you feelings. If you do still want to be with her, you should remain CLOSE friends but do not try to make any moves on her and nicely reject hers if attempted (at least for a good while). You should start dating other girls and inform her of this like you would to a good guy friend. After a while she will realize what she lost and the rest will fall in to place just don't run back you need to walk back for this to work.I need relationship advice!!?
well just be nice and kind and don't go to fast with it.
I see what you are saying. and being a good guy and all. you need to move on. if this is stressing her out this much she may never be ready. you need to find someone who is ready to settle down and be in a long term relationship. you shouldnt wait on just one person when there are others who are waiting for a guy like you.
Don't blame yourself...if you haven't treated her right then she wouldn't want you to be friends with her. Help her a little...try looking for a place with her or just go and help her just to feel less stress...
Good Luck:0)
I had a very similar situation. A girl I was dating, and getting serious with, decided to end our relationship and just be friends. She didn't feel that she should be in a serious relationship. So, we became friends. We'd hang out but then things would get a little ';sensual'; between us. She initiated everything. So after the third-fourth time this happened I was getting confused. Did she want me as a ';booty call?'; Did she think of me as a boyfriend? What was the deal?? Basically, she did not know what she wanted. She cared about me but my values were different from hers... I was agnostic she was a super christian. Finally, I stopped seeing her and hanging out with her because she had no idea what she wanted and it was making me feel like an idiot. I tried to give her what she wanted, but she was soo confused that it blew up in her face. I'd say, take your current relationship at face value. See what happens. If she starts wanting to get frisky and such, confront her on it. If all she wants is a fling, the decision to continue that relationship is up to you. If all she wants is space. Give it to her. Maybe things will work out, but DO NOT let her take advantage of the fact that you love her. My ex still tries to get in contact with me, but I decided that it was in the best interest for us not to have a relationship.
well it hard to tell someone what they should do, cuz on the out side lookin in, u cant feel the others feelings in there relationship. since you ask tho, i would say be careful, cuz your feeling is there hers is backing up.. she is also saying in so many ways shes open to dating other people.. dont wait around for any one, you deserve better, anyone does.. you can change your heart and just be her friend, or leav her alone... sorry
for 1 she has a lot on her plate and a man ontop of it all just adds stress. Just stay by her side help her where she needs it and as soon as all the stress is gone she can thank you and relaxe. I hope it does work out but you do have to put yourself in her shoes and see how hard it is for her.
i think that she might need time to straighten her life a little bit before going into a relationship
If you really love her you'll wait for her. I suggest helping her kids or finding an appartment. It will help remove the stress. Another thing is dont take it personally. She is probably just trying to figure out some things with herself right now.
Hope everything works out
you need to give her some time cuz she has stress
funny how you did not mention your relashonship with the ';kid'; at any time. isnt it. its because you do not care one bit about that child only you care about is sex with the women.
well shes worried so take it a day at a time
It's hard but you sound like you really love her. Stand by her side during this rough patch. She seems to know that you'll be supportive otherwise she would of just broken up with you with no chance at a future.
Be strong it's hard but you guys will come out of this stronger for the love and support you gave her through a diffucult time.
Communicate as well. Knowing where she's at and where she's going will help you understand how she's doing with things.
Good Luck!
the thing that i would recommend is just to be there for her. she may need you to watch her kid sometime, do her the favor. the more respectful, kind, and helpful you are the more chances you may have. but for now, stick to being a good helpful friend.
Sounds like she is ready to slow down. I don't think she wants to be anything but friends. It is possible that it has something to do with her child or the move.
She is very preocupied and is under a lot of stress as you say. It shouldn't come as a real shock to see that she isn't ready. Ready, as in not ready to move into a relationship because she has to solve more urgent things. She trusts that you are a great guy and wants to stay with you even after the ordeal is over so that the relationship can resume. So don't give up hope, she hasn't dumped you or anything. She just needs to get more urgent things done before she can spend more time with you. So as her friend, help her in any way possible to lessen her load. That way, you two can bond much more and the relationship will be better than before. Good luck.
I think she really loves you too. She realizes that shes going through too much in her life that she can't give you her all. I dont think that she thinks it's fair to you to put in the effort on your part of the relationship and she's not. Just be her friend, be there for her in her time of need. and when she's ready, she'll let you know. respect her for breaking it off when she knows that she cant put an equal effort in instead of using you.
If you let anyone play with your heart, they will break it.
You are about to respect her feeling as she steps on your?
Tell her you are ready for a relationship, take it or leave it, then you can give her a little time to straighten out.
mmm im sorry to here that but she wanst ready and we cant change that what you can change is her mind not what has already happened sooooooooo i want you to tell her how u feel and and tell her its ok you'll walk her through it and then slowly solve all the problems she had like the finding a proper job raising a kid getting a place to move.. walk here through it step by step as if your really are in a realationship you did say you loved her and then tell her can you get back together
wish you best of luck
-Khadeja
Some people just don't think that they can handle a relationship with everything else going on in their lives. I don't think its that she doesn't like you. She will tell you when she is ready. For now just stay friends and give her the space she needs
give her the chance to get settled again raising a kid is tough be there for her but yet give her the space she needs and if u love her and she loves you then it will work out
Sounds like she is a smart woman and needs to focus on the real issues that are effecting her and her childs life. Looking for another job and a new place to live is very stressful. Maybe she just need you there for moral support for now, and as a friend.
And if you are demanding (in some sort of way - like when can I see you.?.etc..) And she isn't sure, that may be stressing her out. You can still love her as a friend, but give her space to get her life together.. You know they say, you can't love another until you love yourself, and right now she may not feel very secure about herself because of her very stressful situation.
I understand her point, nothing against you, she just need to focus on her life right now. Just be there for her.
She probably just got overwhelmed and scared. If shes not completely pushing away from you, I'd say wait it out. Maybe she just really wasn't ready for it, but she thinks that with time she will, and she wants to be with you when she is.
Set a time limit for yourself. If not ready for a relationship by that time, move on.
She has a lot of things on her mind right now, like you said she's under a lot of stress. Just let some of those things pass and when she'll have more free time it will be back to what it was like before.
sounds like she's using you
its up to you if you carry on letting her - but I think its a recipe for hurt if you do
Try and be strong and protect yourself
My advice would be to drop all contact as you like her more than a friend - and she wants to call all the shots
She is a commitment phobe - for whatever reasons from her past - but don't you want a REAL relationship?....a 2 way thing?
She is happy to call the shots and will crush you - believe me!
sorry to say it
but cut your losses.....give yourself time to recover - and find someone who's not scared of having a relationship!!!
Talk to her. Say that you are confused. dont say it at a bar but do say it at a romantic place. Say that you do love her and say if you are not ready to have a relationship with me (meaning you) then say that youll wait for her until she is ready. peace ;)
I would venture to answer the last question since I think it relates with the others.
The most difficult question to answer is that which relates to other people. So instead of asking yourself 'why she is not ready for a relationship?' better to ask yourself, 'why do you want one with her?' Being great with her is entirely your perspective, not hers.
By the way, please clarify your position. From where I come from, having a relationship is not the same as being in love. Do you love her or you just want a relationship? Unless you can honestly answer this, you will always have questions in your mind because, apparently, she has a different definition of things.
Help pleeaassseee! relationship advice needed?
I am a Senior, and the girl is a junior. We have never talked, but she told 2 of my friends that she thought i was cute. Since then (2 weeks ago) everybody has made a big deal out of it, so i havent talked to her. Seniors (me) recently graduated so i wont even bump into her anymore. I have her screenname, and I want to get to know her. What is the best way to go about this? If i try to do it through AIM, how can i work the conversation without it getting awkward since we have never talked? Thanks for the help.Help pleeaassseee! relationship advice needed?
you perv you can not go out wit a girl younger than you how is she how old is you that is wat is up first send a lil emails just to start a conversation and then you get to know her better and well you migh one day have the confidence to ask her out and if it is the summer then maybe someone might throw a party and well invite her and let me tell you his is froma girl do not make a move unless she looks at you over and over again and look away and it might be a brezze and get a sweater and put it on her and put your arm around her plz dont forget the sweatrerHelp pleeaassseee! relationship advice needed?
grrrrr, just talk that's all, there's nothing wrong if you really want to talk to her. I would say she's just a jonior so forget about her, find someone your own age so you can get along more my having more similar opinions.
you perv you can not go out wit a girl younger than you how is she how old is you that is wat is up first send a lil emails just to start a conversation and then you get to know her better and well you migh one day have the confidence to ask her out and if it is the summer then maybe someone might throw a party and well invite her and let me tell you his is froma girl do not make a move unless she looks at you over and over again and look away and it might be a brezze and get a sweater and put it on her and put your arm around her plz dont forget the sweatrerHelp pleeaassseee! relationship advice needed?
grrrrr, just talk that's all, there's nothing wrong if you really want to talk to her. I would say she's just a jonior so forget about her, find someone your own age so you can get along more my having more similar opinions.
I need relationship advice on how to mature and become a more loving girlfriend?
I am in my first serious relationship and I am 19. My boyfriend is 21. I have had an abusive ex-boyfriend and an abusive father who was imprisoned for his symptoms. The guy I am now seeing is my boyfriend of 5 months and I could not ask for a more respectful person. He treats me right and that is what matters. Unfortunately I am at a very stressful part in my life as I am trying to go to school full time and work 75 hours a week to pay my bills. I get very easily frustrated and sometimes the silliest things he says can upset me. Maybe I need to mature as this is the only guy I have felt love for but I know I dont want to lose him because of my stupidity. I am at a loss and dont know what to do. We get into arguments over meaningless jokes and I get too easily offended. He told me before that he doesnt know how much longer he can take this. When we argue it is about 4 times a week but we are always together except for when we are at school or work. When we are happy it is theI need relationship advice on how to mature and become a more loving girlfriend?
Treat him like your equal, Ask him ';Why do you think we argue 4 times a week? I will tell you. LIFE IS VERY SHORT. Ask yourself. Is this what I want for the rest of life? If not, You already know the answer. Do what needs to be done and get on with your life. Once a cheater always a cheater!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At 19 years of age its hard to make the right decision%26gt;I need relationship advice on how to mature and become a more loving girlfriend?
You are stressed out..
and big time
that is a big Job managing school and work, especially with how much you are working...
You need to sit down with him and Talk, Talk about how you are feeling, telling him what you are feeling..tell him that you don;t mean to take it out on him...
If you find yourself getting irritated, apologize to him..
Never stop saying you are sorry..
He will appreciate it and start to understand your stress more..
Also if you love him, tell him you love him and all the time, men love that..
Men like being treated like baby...
Cuddle him, hold him,
pamper him, hug and kiss him
He will enjoy that..
Show him that you need him..
That he is a special part of your life.
Talk to him, that's the most important thing I can tell you to do..
If he really loves you and enjoys your company when you are as sweet as you can be, he will stick around, and love you through thick and thin...
I know you said you've been through some hard times in your life, but those actions don't have to reflect upon you..
Do not use this as a crutch, hold your head high, and from here on out say, ';yes this is what I survived through, but this is what made me who I am today';.
Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!
Good Luck
Treat him like your equal, Ask him ';Why do you think we argue 4 times a week? I will tell you. LIFE IS VERY SHORT. Ask yourself. Is this what I want for the rest of life? If not, You already know the answer. Do what needs to be done and get on with your life. Once a cheater always a cheater!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At 19 years of age its hard to make the right decision%26gt;I need relationship advice on how to mature and become a more loving girlfriend?
You are stressed out..
and big time
that is a big Job managing school and work, especially with how much you are working...
You need to sit down with him and Talk, Talk about how you are feeling, telling him what you are feeling..tell him that you don;t mean to take it out on him...
If you find yourself getting irritated, apologize to him..
Never stop saying you are sorry..
He will appreciate it and start to understand your stress more..
Also if you love him, tell him you love him and all the time, men love that..
Men like being treated like baby...
Cuddle him, hold him,
pamper him, hug and kiss him
He will enjoy that..
Show him that you need him..
That he is a special part of your life.
Talk to him, that's the most important thing I can tell you to do..
If he really loves you and enjoys your company when you are as sweet as you can be, he will stick around, and love you through thick and thin...
I know you said you've been through some hard times in your life, but those actions don't have to reflect upon you..
Do not use this as a crutch, hold your head high, and from here on out say, ';yes this is what I survived through, but this is what made me who I am today';.
Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!
Good Luck
I need RELATIONSHIP advice from you guys, Please?
I began dating my GF 15 mos. ago. It was long distance, though we saw each other alot, so that was no problem. It was bliss between us and she called me all the time, did sweet and thoughtful things for me, wanted sex all the time, and was very much into me. At about 10 moved back and began acting slightly clingy/possessive, which I've never been before. She broke up w/ me for 1 month and we then got back together and have been ever since. Recently she has told me she is not happy, and has been trying to force it. This obviously hurt me since I care alot about her. She has not called as much, doesnt sound excited to talk to me, and is very business like sometimes. It is back and forth. I do alot for her and am always there. People have given me advice that I need to be less available, masculine, and become a challenge. My question is that I know this works initially but do you think this can help my relationship by a different approach. I want to do whatever it takes and need advice...I need RELATIONSHIP advice from you guys, Please?
Yes, grow a back bone and don't be at her beck and call let he do the chasing, maybe she find the relationship boring and you don't excite her anymore cos your always there, ever heard absence makes the heart grow fonder, you need to put the passion back into it like how it was in the begining, you need to act like your just started dating.I need RELATIONSHIP advice from you guys, Please?
sounds like you are honestly in love with the girl, you need to talk to her. she might be still hurting when you ignored her, if it doesn't work out (her being possessive), it's not meant to be.
i was in a similar situation with my boyfriend a few years ago..it started getting too serious too quick and i started feeling a little suffocated by him (he was also the jeolous type)..when i told him how i felt he got kinda mad and tried to fight with me about it and then left in a rage...about an hour later he came to my house with flowers and said he really wanted to be with me and told me he'd give me as much space as i needed..i thought that was really sweet...
if you really are willing to do whatever it takes, you should tell her that and it might mean giving her some time and some space...
Yes, grow a back bone and don't be at her beck and call let he do the chasing, maybe she find the relationship boring and you don't excite her anymore cos your always there, ever heard absence makes the heart grow fonder, you need to put the passion back into it like how it was in the begining, you need to act like your just started dating.I need RELATIONSHIP advice from you guys, Please?
sounds like you are honestly in love with the girl, you need to talk to her. she might be still hurting when you ignored her, if it doesn't work out (her being possessive), it's not meant to be.
i was in a similar situation with my boyfriend a few years ago..it started getting too serious too quick and i started feeling a little suffocated by him (he was also the jeolous type)..when i told him how i felt he got kinda mad and tried to fight with me about it and then left in a rage...about an hour later he came to my house with flowers and said he really wanted to be with me and told me he'd give me as much space as i needed..i thought that was really sweet...
if you really are willing to do whatever it takes, you should tell her that and it might mean giving her some time and some space...
Help with Relationship advice?
need some help last year this girl and I hung out until she went overseas for a semester. Kind of lost contact but over thanksgivign break ran intoeachother again and she initiated contact and started hanging out more and we planned on hanging out over xmas break, which we did, this time more serious. Have plans to hangout when she comes home. We both like each other but she goes to school about seven hours away will be done this spring im done with school. We have both known each other for a long time.i want to keep in contact with her but i dont want to seem desperate or to pushy. We have a great time with each other when we are together, great chemistry, We never really talked about dating or anything we just have fun together, I didnt want to brign it up cuz i knw she would be leavign soon. I more about staying close, talking, hang out a lil and seeing what happens when she comes home What should i do to keep this girl interest level in me high while she is still @ schoolHelp with Relationship advice?
just keep on making plans with her and hanging out
phone conversation is a good thing lollip cream
just keep on making plans with her and hanging out
phone conversation is a good thing lol
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