I am in my first serious relationship and I am 19. My boyfriend is 21. I have had an abusive ex-boyfriend and an abusive father who was imprisoned for his symptoms. The guy I am now seeing is my boyfriend of 5 months and I could not ask for a more respectful person. He treats me right and that is what matters. Unfortunately I am at a very stressful part in my life as I am trying to go to school full time and work 75 hours a week to pay my bills. I get very easily frustrated and sometimes the silliest things he says can upset me. Maybe I need to mature as this is the only guy I have felt love for but I know I dont want to lose him because of my stupidity. I am at a loss and dont know what to do. We get into arguments over meaningless jokes and I get too easily offended. He told me before that he doesnt know how much longer he can take this. When we argue it is about 4 times a week but we are always together except for when we are at school or work. When we are happy it is theI need relationship advice on how to mature and become a more loving girlfriend?
Treat him like your equal, Ask him ';Why do you think we argue 4 times a week? I will tell you. LIFE IS VERY SHORT. Ask yourself. Is this what I want for the rest of life? If not, You already know the answer. Do what needs to be done and get on with your life. Once a cheater always a cheater!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At 19 years of age its hard to make the right decision%26gt;I need relationship advice on how to mature and become a more loving girlfriend?
You are stressed out..
and big time
that is a big Job managing school and work, especially with how much you are working...
You need to sit down with him and Talk, Talk about how you are feeling, telling him what you are feeling..tell him that you don;t mean to take it out on him...
If you find yourself getting irritated, apologize to him..
Never stop saying you are sorry..
He will appreciate it and start to understand your stress more..
Also if you love him, tell him you love him and all the time, men love that..
Men like being treated like baby...
Cuddle him, hold him,
pamper him, hug and kiss him
He will enjoy that..
Show him that you need him..
That he is a special part of your life.
Talk to him, that's the most important thing I can tell you to do..
If he really loves you and enjoys your company when you are as sweet as you can be, he will stick around, and love you through thick and thin...
I know you said you've been through some hard times in your life, but those actions don't have to reflect upon you..
Do not use this as a crutch, hold your head high, and from here on out say, ';yes this is what I survived through, but this is what made me who I am today';.
Remember what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!
Good Luck
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