I really need some relationship advice asap!?

I've been together with my boyfriend for 5 months, we're both 16. Recently I took him to Florida with me and my family for a week on vacation, it was great. He was texting one of his girl best friend a little often but I didn't let it bother me too much. However, things have defiantly changed between us, he never calls me babe anymore and I feel like I have to convince him to hang out with me, i hate it. So, tonight I logged onto his myspace account(horrible i know, but in the past he's basically spelled it out for me, says he doesn't care that i know his password and he's got nothing to hide) so i see no harm in it. wrong.





I find i message to his girl best friend that he texted over vacation. He says in the message ';hey i just wanted to say you look freaking amazing in your new pics, i would have commented but emily would have flipped'; i was so upset! first of all that he went behind my back, and that he said that.





I mean I don't have a problem with him checking other girls out, we're 16 I don't want this relationship to be serious, just fun. but how can it be fun with him hurting me like this. I know it was horrible of me to go onto his myspace, but im pretty sure my actions can be justified, can he say the same about his?





I have no clue how to approach him about this. I'm scared, I really do like him, I adore him even though all of this. I can honestly say i've never hurt him and would never think about it, i'm just looking for a nice guy that cares. I thought that was him, but im finding out he's just not. Its happened before when he's been shady about things, and I just don't see how this is fair to me. How would you go about this problem, any advice would be very much appreciated. I'm trying to go about this whole thing maturely and trying to avoid as much drama as possible. I just want to be happy.I really need some relationship advice asap!?
Wow... I think thats terrible on HIS part. You cant assume that someone will be completely blind, but you have the right to assume that they wont do anything about it. If he sees a hot girl, he should just think ';shes hot'; and move on. I think its going over the top to talk about it with friends more than a few times, or else it means theyre obsessed. Unfortunately, he went even farther than that, and told her herself. That part is completely unacceptable. Its fine to think a girl is hot, but dating implies that you wont do anything about it, and youll just let it go when you think someones hot and it wont turn into an obsession.





Ive been in this same situation myself, and I think you just have to tell him it bothers you. Be honest. If you dont tell him that you went on then you are being no better than he is. Whats a relationship without honesty? You need to tell him (without trying to pick a fight) that it bothers you, and tell him that its just not acceptable (which its not) while you 2 are dating. Just tell him the full truth.I really need some relationship advice asap!?
You don't want it to be serious, BUT, you really like him and adore him...? Make up your mind, woman.





And was what he did really that bad? He complimented another woman about her looks. Did you explain to him at some point that doing so would be against your rules? No? Then let it go. It's not a big deal. The part about you flipping out, that was a bit unnecessary although judging from what you've wrote, perhaps accurate. Complimenting a girl doesn't mean he's going for her.





If you want to handle this maturely, confront yourself and your own jealousy. Sincerely ask yourself ';Am I overreacting? Is this something I can get over, and let it go? Would having a messy confrontation improve anything or make me feel better?';





If you bring this up to him, he'll be defensive, and he'll be upset you went on his myspace behind his back. He'll lose trust for you. Is it worth it?
first of all, i want you to sleep on it for a few days. common sense comes easiest to a well-rested mind.





i've known guys like your boyfriend. they need to flirt with other girls to boost their self-confidence, and to assure themselves that they're still desirable. quite honestly, even if you adore this guy, odds are that affection is blinding you.





i would recommend waiting for the problem to either get worse, or work itself out. right now, there's not a whole lot for you to be upset about. innocent flirtation and a little deception is common in sixteen year old boys. but if he keeps going, and things start to concern you, sit him down and be firm with him. let him know you want commitment, but you aren't asking for a marriage. remind him of what a relationship to ONE GIRL means, and if he continues to be a jackass, i say you dump him and cut your losses.