I need relationship advice, help!?

Myself, my daughter, and my boyfriend of 5 yrs are getting ready to move cross country. We are going to be living with my family for the first year so we can save up money. My boyfriend has already said that if he can't find work within the first few months that he is moving back and rejoining the service. I said that if he did that I would no longer stay in contact with him. I love him and want to stay together but I cannot deal with a long distace relationship. Any advice on how to make our move successful?I need relationship advice, help!?
Moving across the country is tough and stressful. First off, make sure your BF updates his resume and get it posted to all the job sites he can find. Also, depending on his experiences, tell him not to be too picky. Coming from the service does have many advantages. Use his military experience and find a job that correlates with what he did in the service. For example, my husband operated heavy artillery in the Army for 5 years. He didn't think there was any relevant job in the civilian field. He started working with a construction company and ran into a crane operator. He checked out the crane controls and realized that they looked almost identical to the controls on rocket launchers. So he was able to use his 5 years in the service as 5 years crane experience and was able to land an amazing job very quickly.





If he has trouble with that - seek a staffing firm, they will ask the right questions, help him build the best resume, and also aid him with finding a job.





You are going to need to be very patient and supportive. Never get down on him. Do not discuss money as he is very aware that you have none. Mentioning it will only stress him out more. Don't try to shove job offers down his throat and trust his judgement and decision. He seems to be doing everything he can and has his family's best interest in mind.





One question - why would he have to move back to re-up? He should be able to re-inlist from where ever you are.I need relationship advice, help!?
Find out what jobs are available from your parents information sources. Take the time to be very patient with your husband. Rejoining the service sounds to me like he may have some issues of a haunting memory. Yeah, I know he says he's okay. You would leave your husband because he is going to defend our country? Sounds to me like you need a better job and a little more things to do with your time.


The issues are with you not him. How much do you really love him? If it's lots, you'll wait and maybe even say a prayer for him. If he does die overseas you will always know you were there until the end for him. If he survives you will feel so alive and wonderful when he returns. Your parents are being very generous....Take the chance on him.
I think it depends on how deep you love for him is. Through this, i think that you will find if he is someone you can live with, or someone you cant live without. Because obiously, there are plenty people that we could all ';love'; and be perfectly happy and content with. but...if you find that you truly cant live without him in your life, i think that you should chase after him because you dont stumble across a person like that every day.
make things happen by thinking positively.you should think that you are going to be happy and with your boy friend. your boy friend will be able to find a good and reasonable job with all these things happen you will be happy living with your daughter and boy friend. things will be better and who knows so many happy and surprises are in the pipeline .be happy. be positive.
It's gonna be really hard, take it from me.


My girlfriend moved out west last summer and we couldn't keep it going. I loved her, and I still do but its just way to hard.


The only thing I can suggest is that you go visit him as often as possible. Because to be honest, it's not going to stay going otherwise. Telephone and internet just isn't enough.





sorry but I'm being honest





best of luck.
Have him join the Air Force. They VERY rarely get deployed and NEVER spend a single night in a tent.