I ate a really big meal at dinner time tonight with my on again/off again g/f Simone (pronounced Sea-mahn) and after dinner, one of her friends came over, May (pronounced M-eye) and we were just sitting around talking. Then May and Simone start giggling and acting all weird. Then they say they are going to put on nun's costumes. So---I say ';go ahead'; all smiling. They come back into the kitchen and I'm getting all aroused and then Simone asks if I'd like a ';special sandwich';? Now, normally, I'd be delighted, but I just ate and quite frankly I was more interested in sex so I said ';I wasn't hungry'; and they both got angry and left. Well...I wasn't hungry. I wanted to make out! Why would they get all adorned in such provocative outfits to have a snack?? I'm so confused. Any advice would be appreciated.Please help----more relationship advice!?
You know what they wanted and they knew it. You wanted them to spell it out to you, right?Please help----more relationship advice!?
I think they wanted you to play 'Hide the Carrot in the Bunny Hole.'
For rules about this game, check this out:
www.HideCarrotGame.com
i think maybe they wanted you 2 eat the sandwhich just maybe..
i think they meant 3some
I'd like a sandwich... I'm hungry now, perhaps they could come to my house and make me some food :)
They wanted to have a threesome.
they were referring to being hungry in a sexual manner.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
So here's the deal... this girl I've been seeing for almost a month... by seeing I mean hanging out and kissing and stuff, tells me she doesn't know what she wants. She says she doesn't want to go back out with her ex bf but I saw them talking at school and heard they talked at a party the other day. She tells me that she doesn't want a relationship yet (cause her last one was like 2 1/2 years) and that she doesn't know what she wants. I'm thinking about telling her that I'll wait for her if she just isn't ready for anything serious but that i won't wait if she is going to keep talking to him...(btw he is very persuasive and has gotten her to go back out with him before even though he treats her bad). Is this appropriate to say or should I just give it a little time?PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
I think instead of giving her an ultimatum, you should be specific and tell her what you think about him and how your only doing it in her best interest, tell her how you feel about her also, so that she knows that you want to be more than friends. She may think you are just trying to force her to choose if you give her a choice like that.
-Katie
P.S. i think its sweet that you care about her like that.PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
tell her that you want to be with her for sure so she knows and then if she says she doesn't know then tell her that you will wait for her answer no matter what it is ( and actually be patient girls are supper complicated if you haven't noticed)
say what you want.
she obviously thinks highly enough to kiss you and hang out with you so perhaps your feelings will be received in a caring manner. If not then screw her and move on pal...
She's lying that is what us females do to sometimes get rid of a guy we are really not into like that and if she wasn't ready for a relationship is she kissing on you?!? don't tell her you'll wait then she would just string you along and you'll end up getting hurt in the end.
make sure she knows you like her. and be try to understand but make sure she isn't just trying to telll you she isnt interestead, gurls try to do that alot! ;]
let her tihnk and keep things how they are. But i say if she's still ';going out'; with you and confused or unsure you need to talk to her about what her plan is as far as making up her mind and where ou fit in and where he fits in.nail polish
I think instead of giving her an ultimatum, you should be specific and tell her what you think about him and how your only doing it in her best interest, tell her how you feel about her also, so that she knows that you want to be more than friends. She may think you are just trying to force her to choose if you give her a choice like that.
-Katie
P.S. i think its sweet that you care about her like that.PLEASE HELP! NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!ASAP!!?
tell her that you want to be with her for sure so she knows and then if she says she doesn't know then tell her that you will wait for her answer no matter what it is ( and actually be patient girls are supper complicated if you haven't noticed)
say what you want.
she obviously thinks highly enough to kiss you and hang out with you so perhaps your feelings will be received in a caring manner. If not then screw her and move on pal...
She's lying that is what us females do to sometimes get rid of a guy we are really not into like that and if she wasn't ready for a relationship is she kissing on you?!? don't tell her you'll wait then she would just string you along and you'll end up getting hurt in the end.
make sure she knows you like her. and be try to understand but make sure she isn't just trying to telll you she isnt interestead, gurls try to do that alot! ;]
let her tihnk and keep things how they are. But i say if she's still ';going out'; with you and confused or unsure you need to talk to her about what her plan is as far as making up her mind and where ou fit in and where he fits in.
SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
My friend needed me to post this:
She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.
Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...
His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)
Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!
Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.
Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Let it run it's course and there is nothing you can do but be there when she needs you, but up to a point because if all the time she is alone with you is all about complaining it can get old. Don't get involved if they argue in front of you though because that would be too much drama for me.SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Well, it sounds like they both are very insecure with one another. Until they can be secure with themselves, they wont be able to have a functional relationship. I know how it can be with being jealous. When my husband and I first got together, i was very jealous of any other girl who might talk to him or look at him. Now that we've been married for two years, and Im comfortable with who I am and where I am at in my life, Im not jealous. When we cold be OK with who we were, then we were OK with each other. We have a great relationship now.
They choose to be in that relationship. They're not married and don't have kids together. There is nothing in that relationship that is keeping them together but themselves. If in 2009 you can choose to leave your husband after a year of ';marriage'; and divorce him because he cheated or didn't cheat., but two people that are in a ridiculous ';relationship';, where they are both so obviously unhappy with each other, can't break up and move on to live a much happier life with someone else. Move on you two! You don't owe each other anything. Break up with each other nicely, and forget about all the drama and go enjoy the adventure.
She needs to LOOSEN UP!!!! Or they are going to get into a HUGE fight and someone is going to get hurt because of bottled up anger or they are going to hate eachother. They need to give eachother more freedom the relationship iss sooo not healthy.
move on
Wow I wish that my marital problems were like these instead of the crap I put up with, get into marriage counseling and get a good one. Oh and make sure that you both agree to stay with the counselor till the counselor gets you to the point he wants. Also get the hubby to get on anti-depressants he might have anxiety.. It shouldn't be hard to not look at girls when she's there but harder not to look at them when she's gone..
First I must ask have you shown this request for advise to your friend's wife or husband? I am curious. If you are a friend whose friend are you? If you say a friend of the family..........wrong answer. If you say I was his or her friend first we are getting some where! Now sport tell me which is it.
Here is why I asked. Some one has confidence in you. I do not want to assume anything. But let us consider this. If you are male writing on her behalf or a female writing his behalf you have a potential for adding fuel to the fire. If however you are female writing on her behalf and male writing on his behalf you are on track but skating on thin ice. You are the next subject of contention.
Okay all of that made clear as muddy water we must now announce ';Huston to control crew we have a problem'; Diagnosis of the Problem is both individuals suffer from identification crisis phenomenon manic impulsive control tendencies with personality behavioral deficiencies. These individuals feed their neurosis by superimposing their individual preferences on the other. while denying the other the right to think and act independently.
Treatment. Because these two personalities have developed under similar situations, circumstances and conditions independently over 21 and 24 years their psyche is rigid and unyielding. Both individuals have to be thought to respect that each individual has the right to think and act for him or her selves without interference. As their friend give this response to both of them sealed in envelopes. Include the names of three local psychologists, Three sociologists three clinical therapists along with instructions of how to contact each of the professionals to set up individual and group appointments. Have them have an initial screening by each professional to see which professional they can work with best.
Prognosis. Since years of neglect missed opportunities have culminated in the behavioral deficiencies and development of these two young adults a significant allotment of time into roll reversal therapy is highly recommended. Hopefully with time and therapy these individuals can become normal functioning individuals who may be able to curb their toxic control of each other.
Failing to recognize the above I see no long term hope for these two people living and peacefully co existing in a respectful way. if they continue to spy and pry, lie and deny their uncontrollable desire to live the others life without consideration for how the impact each other negatively.
Other then the above they are normal. Honestly most people would like to control their spouses that way but one re-bells the other reacts and abuse quickly follows. The domestic scene becomes chronic arguments with the potential for injury and death crime and punishment.
I have elected to discuss the symptoms not the incidents. My recommendation is to attack the cause not the symptoms thereby eliminating the root cause.
This all calls for a professional help. Hope they can afford it.Look it does not matter they love each other love has nothing to do with manipulation and control. They will continue to do the same things to new partners until they individually check them selves for therapeutics help. I either of your friends need a quick encouragement let them drop me an email. I'll respond
Good luck sport.
Hope this helps
Next time
Any advice for her?
Half the world's population is female, and her flipping out every time he might see another female is flaming ridiculous! She needs serious help. She either has major league control issues or major league insecurity issues 9or both), which will end this relationship sooner or later UNLESS she gets help to get a handle on HER problems.
Any advice about him?
He is just as bad. He was allowed to go out alone, partying and drinking, until she came of age, NOW they can't go out at all? ';...He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship...when once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him.'; Talk about the double standard thing. That gets the thumbs down too.
They are not only not good for each other, neither seems mature enough to be in any sort of relationship at all.
This is not a relationship It is co-dependency to the extreme They made each other their prison and prison guard.
This has nothing to do with love, but everything with control and lack of self esteem. If she is scared of loosing him she is doing a great job of driving him away. If he is trying to keep her in line he is doing a great job to becoming an abuser.
The are as bad as each other and will succeed in making each other totally miserable They do not need YA! The need professional help and even then I think it may be a waste of time.
She is 21 and her boyfriend is 24. They have been together for 4 years but have problems everyday. Her and her boyfriend do EVERYTHING. Meaning: Live together, On the phone 24/7, They took friends out of their lives too, etc. They fight everyday. They are both very jealous people.
Her faults: She doesnt want him to look at any female around her. She finds it disrespectful. If she catches him doing it then she will do something to make him unhappy like not smoke a cig with him. She now smokes two a day with him since she caught him smoking. She gives him trouble about going on the internet or turning the tv on because of females being on so they only watch tv when they eat dinner or go on the internet together. Meaning, they never watch any shows with attractive males or females...
His faults: He lied to her about smoking cigs and chewing until she caught him 2 years into the relationship when they moved in together. He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship: Bars, Going out with friends, movies etc... then once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him. He has a very bad temper but blames it on her because she gives him troubles about girls. (is this just an excuse?)
Now they sit in his apartment and fight all the time. He broke her windsheld last week... she made him leave class early because they had to be in a group with girls and she started to flipout. How did she know? He keeps her on the phone in his pocket!
Is there anyway to save their relationship with how they are? It's like they hate eachother but can't live without oneanother.
Any advice for her? Any advice about him?SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Let it run it's course and there is nothing you can do but be there when she needs you, but up to a point because if all the time she is alone with you is all about complaining it can get old. Don't get involved if they argue in front of you though because that would be too much drama for me.SHE NEEDS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! PLEASE HELP?
Well, it sounds like they both are very insecure with one another. Until they can be secure with themselves, they wont be able to have a functional relationship. I know how it can be with being jealous. When my husband and I first got together, i was very jealous of any other girl who might talk to him or look at him. Now that we've been married for two years, and Im comfortable with who I am and where I am at in my life, Im not jealous. When we cold be OK with who we were, then we were OK with each other. We have a great relationship now.
They choose to be in that relationship. They're not married and don't have kids together. There is nothing in that relationship that is keeping them together but themselves. If in 2009 you can choose to leave your husband after a year of ';marriage'; and divorce him because he cheated or didn't cheat., but two people that are in a ridiculous ';relationship';, where they are both so obviously unhappy with each other, can't break up and move on to live a much happier life with someone else. Move on you two! You don't owe each other anything. Break up with each other nicely, and forget about all the drama and go enjoy the adventure.
She needs to LOOSEN UP!!!! Or they are going to get into a HUGE fight and someone is going to get hurt because of bottled up anger or they are going to hate eachother. They need to give eachother more freedom the relationship iss sooo not healthy.
move on
Wow I wish that my marital problems were like these instead of the crap I put up with, get into marriage counseling and get a good one. Oh and make sure that you both agree to stay with the counselor till the counselor gets you to the point he wants. Also get the hubby to get on anti-depressants he might have anxiety.. It shouldn't be hard to not look at girls when she's there but harder not to look at them when she's gone..
First I must ask have you shown this request for advise to your friend's wife or husband? I am curious. If you are a friend whose friend are you? If you say a friend of the family..........wrong answer. If you say I was his or her friend first we are getting some where! Now sport tell me which is it.
Here is why I asked. Some one has confidence in you. I do not want to assume anything. But let us consider this. If you are male writing on her behalf or a female writing his behalf you have a potential for adding fuel to the fire. If however you are female writing on her behalf and male writing on his behalf you are on track but skating on thin ice. You are the next subject of contention.
Okay all of that made clear as muddy water we must now announce ';Huston to control crew we have a problem'; Diagnosis of the Problem is both individuals suffer from identification crisis phenomenon manic impulsive control tendencies with personality behavioral deficiencies. These individuals feed their neurosis by superimposing their individual preferences on the other. while denying the other the right to think and act independently.
Treatment. Because these two personalities have developed under similar situations, circumstances and conditions independently over 21 and 24 years their psyche is rigid and unyielding. Both individuals have to be thought to respect that each individual has the right to think and act for him or her selves without interference. As their friend give this response to both of them sealed in envelopes. Include the names of three local psychologists, Three sociologists three clinical therapists along with instructions of how to contact each of the professionals to set up individual and group appointments. Have them have an initial screening by each professional to see which professional they can work with best.
Prognosis. Since years of neglect missed opportunities have culminated in the behavioral deficiencies and development of these two young adults a significant allotment of time into roll reversal therapy is highly recommended. Hopefully with time and therapy these individuals can become normal functioning individuals who may be able to curb their toxic control of each other.
Failing to recognize the above I see no long term hope for these two people living and peacefully co existing in a respectful way. if they continue to spy and pry, lie and deny their uncontrollable desire to live the others life without consideration for how the impact each other negatively.
Other then the above they are normal. Honestly most people would like to control their spouses that way but one re-bells the other reacts and abuse quickly follows. The domestic scene becomes chronic arguments with the potential for injury and death crime and punishment.
I have elected to discuss the symptoms not the incidents. My recommendation is to attack the cause not the symptoms thereby eliminating the root cause.
This all calls for a professional help. Hope they can afford it.Look it does not matter they love each other love has nothing to do with manipulation and control. They will continue to do the same things to new partners until they individually check them selves for therapeutics help. I either of your friends need a quick encouragement let them drop me an email. I'll respond
Good luck sport.
Hope this helps
Next time
Any advice for her?
Half the world's population is female, and her flipping out every time he might see another female is flaming ridiculous! She needs serious help. She either has major league control issues or major league insecurity issues 9or both), which will end this relationship sooner or later UNLESS she gets help to get a handle on HER problems.
Any advice about him?
He is just as bad. He was allowed to go out alone, partying and drinking, until she came of age, NOW they can't go out at all? ';...He did whatever he wanted at the beginning of their relationship...when once she turned 21 he wouldnt allow her to go out without him.'; Talk about the double standard thing. That gets the thumbs down too.
They are not only not good for each other, neither seems mature enough to be in any sort of relationship at all.
This is not a relationship It is co-dependency to the extreme They made each other their prison and prison guard.
This has nothing to do with love, but everything with control and lack of self esteem. If she is scared of loosing him she is doing a great job of driving him away. If he is trying to keep her in line he is doing a great job to becoming an abuser.
The are as bad as each other and will succeed in making each other totally miserable They do not need YA! The need professional help and even then I think it may be a waste of time.
In need of relationship advice about this guy?
This guy at my job is giving me mixed signals:first, he keeps asking about me through different co-workers, he has called up to my job asking for me more than once, and he told one of my co workers he was going to come up to my job, but he never showed up, so I called him to calm him down because he was scaring me, we talked for over two hours,and he told me that I have his number that I can call him anytime and during the conversation we talked about work,and he tells me that hes had a sexual harrassment case,he explained the story to me,and he tells me to call him..so a few days later I call him, and we talk and he tells me hes scared to call or anything because he has sexual harrassment cases, and he doesnt know if I'm taping our concersation,or if I'm setting him up,and I start laughing,and he says';see you laughing and stuff,see I dont know about you';and he goes on to say He wants to see me in person';but hes not sure if I'm intrested in him,even though I invited him for coffee, but tells me ';well i know you';re intrested now'; so I'll call you,but he hasn't called and its been a week..but I keep hearing that hes asking about me..In need of relationship advice about this guy?
It's amazing how women can't see that big neon sign over a guys head that says ';NUTS';!In need of relationship advice about this guy?
if some chick is doing that crap to him he may be worried that you are working for the chick trying to get evidence... That must be so hard for him. try to be friends get to know eachother and try to build some trust. invite him to go do stuff and remind him that if you are taping the conversation over the phone you have to tell him you are taping it or it is not legal.
sadly it is very easy to say someone has sexully harassed you... it takes a lot of b*%26amp;^s for him to have shared that with you.
1st - never date guys you work with - Business school day 1
2nd - stalker - asking co-workers about you? - Red Flag
3rd - scaring you - apparently not - you called him
4th - he has a harassment case - Red Flag
5th - worried you are taping his call - Red Flag
6th - thinks you are setting him up- Red Flag
This is not a relationship, you actual have to date to be in a relationship, you are business colleagues and if you don't pay attention to the flags he may be your stalker.
Be very careful about him as theres a reason why he has these sexual harassment cases and you dont need to be one of them. Sure he tells you his version, wether its the truth or not doesnt really matter as these cases still exist for a reason. The question is are they only work place related or doe he have criminal charges pending, so he has nothing to lose? Something tells me the latter is true because hes still at work and able to contact whomever he wants. He may be interesting but you dont need someone like him in your life as life is complicated enough without looking for more trouble, especially at work, and since there are many more available fish out here. Choice is yours but pleas be extra careful. Good luck
It's amazing how women can't see that big neon sign over a guys head that says ';NUTS';!In need of relationship advice about this guy?
if some chick is doing that crap to him he may be worried that you are working for the chick trying to get evidence... That must be so hard for him. try to be friends get to know eachother and try to build some trust. invite him to go do stuff and remind him that if you are taping the conversation over the phone you have to tell him you are taping it or it is not legal.
sadly it is very easy to say someone has sexully harassed you... it takes a lot of b*%26amp;^s for him to have shared that with you.
1st - never date guys you work with - Business school day 1
2nd - stalker - asking co-workers about you? - Red Flag
3rd - scaring you - apparently not - you called him
4th - he has a harassment case - Red Flag
5th - worried you are taping his call - Red Flag
6th - thinks you are setting him up- Red Flag
This is not a relationship, you actual have to date to be in a relationship, you are business colleagues and if you don't pay attention to the flags he may be your stalker.
Be very careful about him as theres a reason why he has these sexual harassment cases and you dont need to be one of them. Sure he tells you his version, wether its the truth or not doesnt really matter as these cases still exist for a reason. The question is are they only work place related or doe he have criminal charges pending, so he has nothing to lose? Something tells me the latter is true because hes still at work and able to contact whomever he wants. He may be interesting but you dont need someone like him in your life as life is complicated enough without looking for more trouble, especially at work, and since there are many more available fish out here. Choice is yours but pleas be extra careful. Good luck
I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
I have been dating this awesome guy for a year and a half. I really do care for him, he means so much to me. He was the first person I ever really kissed. I am 20 and he is 24. We spend almost every day together it seems. We dont fight , no joke we have never had a fight. About two months ago I found a letter that he wrote to his ex. saying that he still loves her, that no matter what he will always love her more..( not to make him sound like the bad guy here , I am a very hard person to get involved with. I dont let my gard down ever. I dont show emotions, and i never tell him how i feel about some things becasue thats just the way i am , im not that kind of person. I dont even tell my best friends anything im a private person and always have been) anyway, when i found that letter, it was like i was hit with a ton of bricks. I did not tell him i read it for like a month. I think i tried to convince myself that i did not love him as much as i do, and I really do , so much. I dont really think he knows how much i do. .. He told me that he will not talk to her again, because he wants to move on, he wants us to work things out. I want to believe it so bad, but i cant help thinking every day that im his second pick girl , that he is with me because he cant have her. I dont know , what to do , its killing me not knowing why he is with me or what he really wants. He is thinking about joining the air force, he says its to actually make something of his life but i think its to get away from me and all of his other problems and I am so damn lost. He is the first boyfriend I have ever had and I am not too good on relationship things i guess. What would be some signs that he really does love me for me and not becasue i resemble that girl, or becasue he can have her. I have tried so hard , i have changed so manythings about my self to prove how I feel and I dont think he understands what I am going through. I dont want to loose him , i dont think i could take that. I just dont know ......I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
Well girl Cheer Up... I sailed in the same boat some times Back!
Dont worry.
Well u have so many problems and not just one. So my answer is gonna be too long. :-D... so here we goooooooooo......
First, How does it matter to u if u are a second girl he picked or third?If u love him so much, this shouldn't be any of ur concerns First Thing.So lets chuck off this issue completely from its root here otself Ok?
Now second, he wrote her a letter, and which he just mentioned he still loves her. well it must be coz he is still not over her ... not because u are incapable of something but just that he really loved her and some how things didnt work out tht way. I have the similar problem. My boyfriend was not able to forget his ex. I took it otherwise and had made issues so many time, but everytime it happened, we both were hurt. He needed me to give him support and take him out of his past relationship. Slowly and slowly I started being patient and tried to understand his feelings.
If u really love this guy, better be patient and a real true lover with whom he can share anything and everything. Later my boyfriend started sharing the times he spent with her and slowly and slowly my patience, Love %26amp; care took him out of his past. U to need to be patient coz he needs someone who could back him up. I know u are a nice girl and thts the reason u are so much troubled. But if u really cant make up with it u always have an option to move on and get someone new guy, but Mind you, no relation on this earth is 100% fair. every relationship has complications. u found problems in this relationship, u would find something else and different in other. So, one needs to be patient, know how to comprmise in some situation. then only things work out fine and lasts long.
Well, your next issue that u aren't good enough may be??? Well i dont agree, If you weren't tht good enough, then why did u had no fights or this relationship didnt end in some mnths, why is it from last 1-1 1/2 years old. Believe in urself. He does love you and wants you to be around else he wouldnt have been with you this long. give him sometime to get over his ex. talk to him nicely and very openly abt this. tell him he shoudl feel free to shae his feeling with you whenever he wishes. and dont think that he is with you just coz he cant have her..... then he could have stayed with soem else as well ... why only you? he loves youa nd he really wants a future with u. Its just a matter of time ... everything will be fine soon in your life. Just dont panic. He wants to go in Airforce, buck him up, support him. It may be (which is quite possible i guess so) just your mind's thinking that he wants to go away from u and other stuffs. wht if u are wrong and he really wants to do something about it?
U dont have to to do like his ex used to, coz if he really wanted you to be tht way, he would have complaint on the way u actually are. He never did so right? clearly means he loves you the way you are honey.
Just dont be paranoid, just stay calm, leave it on time. You keep loving him the way you have always, be supportive, give him some time and space to get over his ex. He is definitely urs and will be urs only.
I hope you get peace of your mind soon.
Just keep smiling and be cheerful dear, dont panic or be sad abt something which u r just doubting on. Let things come up on its own, if he really has to be with you he will, if he doesnt have to, he would have gone away long back. he wouldn't have stayed this long.
Take Care!
Cheers!
Pearl!I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
just be honest
talk to him
or u could show him what u just wrote...let him read it and then he might understand
Make him choose, either her or you he can't have both and you are not the back up plan in case they get back together. Make it clear be hard you might not like it but its the best way
you problem is that the guy is all wrong for you. If he doesnt love you more, that's his problem and he shouldn't ruin your life by making you feel upset all the time. and if you don't show enough emotion around him, that might be because he's not the right guy for you. you need some one that makes you feel safe and makes you fell happy all the time. this guy is a jerk and your too blind to see it. P.S. This is advice a teenager... lol.... i know more than you! jk
I think, u should understand the reality of life. There is nothing to loose.. He is playing games with both of u.. u r such a small in age %26amp; u have to concentrate on your future.. what is your future plan for life ? what is his educational qualification ? will he be able to give u all happiness ? will your parents allow you for this relation ? This relation will also disappoint him.. Ask him about his letter u read %26amp; if u feel that answer is not satisfactory, just forget him.. may be u get better person as a life partner in future.. So, just throw him away from your life %26amp; concentrate on your future %26amp; make sure that this relation doesn't spoil relation with your parents.. So, forget him %26amp; enjoy..
dear...
you;re so hung up on him only cuz he's the first guy u've been with....
otherwise by the things u just said all guys sound like that only when they talk about their ex's that they wish tomove on ,they'l never talk to em,,,,blah ..blah,...
n once they are over em they never talk to them...
so seems ur guy aint yet over his ex...
n he dosnt seems to feel what all u have for himm....
n its better to let go of someone who cant b compatible on the terms of feeling....
n since he's into someone else he can never have all that for you...
so better let go of him ......it's going to be really hard ..but its the right thing to do...
and the only way to make him realise what a cruel thing he did to you.....
he's so ot worth ur feelings...
take care dear,....
Well girl Cheer Up... I sailed in the same boat some times Back!
Dont worry.
Well u have so many problems and not just one. So my answer is gonna be too long. :-D... so here we goooooooooo......
First, How does it matter to u if u are a second girl he picked or third?If u love him so much, this shouldn't be any of ur concerns First Thing.So lets chuck off this issue completely from its root here otself Ok?
Now second, he wrote her a letter, and which he just mentioned he still loves her. well it must be coz he is still not over her ... not because u are incapable of something but just that he really loved her and some how things didnt work out tht way. I have the similar problem. My boyfriend was not able to forget his ex. I took it otherwise and had made issues so many time, but everytime it happened, we both were hurt. He needed me to give him support and take him out of his past relationship. Slowly and slowly I started being patient and tried to understand his feelings.
If u really love this guy, better be patient and a real true lover with whom he can share anything and everything. Later my boyfriend started sharing the times he spent with her and slowly and slowly my patience, Love %26amp; care took him out of his past. U to need to be patient coz he needs someone who could back him up. I know u are a nice girl and thts the reason u are so much troubled. But if u really cant make up with it u always have an option to move on and get someone new guy, but Mind you, no relation on this earth is 100% fair. every relationship has complications. u found problems in this relationship, u would find something else and different in other. So, one needs to be patient, know how to comprmise in some situation. then only things work out fine and lasts long.
Well, your next issue that u aren't good enough may be??? Well i dont agree, If you weren't tht good enough, then why did u had no fights or this relationship didnt end in some mnths, why is it from last 1-1 1/2 years old. Believe in urself. He does love you and wants you to be around else he wouldnt have been with you this long. give him sometime to get over his ex. talk to him nicely and very openly abt this. tell him he shoudl feel free to shae his feeling with you whenever he wishes. and dont think that he is with you just coz he cant have her..... then he could have stayed with soem else as well ... why only you? he loves youa nd he really wants a future with u. Its just a matter of time ... everything will be fine soon in your life. Just dont panic. He wants to go in Airforce, buck him up, support him. It may be (which is quite possible i guess so) just your mind's thinking that he wants to go away from u and other stuffs. wht if u are wrong and he really wants to do something about it?
U dont have to to do like his ex used to, coz if he really wanted you to be tht way, he would have complaint on the way u actually are. He never did so right? clearly means he loves you the way you are honey.
Just dont be paranoid, just stay calm, leave it on time. You keep loving him the way you have always, be supportive, give him some time and space to get over his ex. He is definitely urs and will be urs only.
I hope you get peace of your mind soon.
Just keep smiling and be cheerful dear, dont panic or be sad abt something which u r just doubting on. Let things come up on its own, if he really has to be with you he will, if he doesnt have to, he would have gone away long back. he wouldn't have stayed this long.
Take Care!
Cheers!
Pearl!I need some relationship advice. I am so very lost.?
just be honest
talk to him
or u could show him what u just wrote...let him read it and then he might understand
Make him choose, either her or you he can't have both and you are not the back up plan in case they get back together. Make it clear be hard you might not like it but its the best way
you problem is that the guy is all wrong for you. If he doesnt love you more, that's his problem and he shouldn't ruin your life by making you feel upset all the time. and if you don't show enough emotion around him, that might be because he's not the right guy for you. you need some one that makes you feel safe and makes you fell happy all the time. this guy is a jerk and your too blind to see it. P.S. This is advice a teenager... lol.... i know more than you! jk
I think, u should understand the reality of life. There is nothing to loose.. He is playing games with both of u.. u r such a small in age %26amp; u have to concentrate on your future.. what is your future plan for life ? what is his educational qualification ? will he be able to give u all happiness ? will your parents allow you for this relation ? This relation will also disappoint him.. Ask him about his letter u read %26amp; if u feel that answer is not satisfactory, just forget him.. may be u get better person as a life partner in future.. So, just throw him away from your life %26amp; concentrate on your future %26amp; make sure that this relation doesn't spoil relation with your parents.. So, forget him %26amp; enjoy..
dear...
you;re so hung up on him only cuz he's the first guy u've been with....
otherwise by the things u just said all guys sound like that only when they talk about their ex's that they wish tomove on ,they'l never talk to em,,,,blah ..blah,...
n once they are over em they never talk to them...
so seems ur guy aint yet over his ex...
n he dosnt seems to feel what all u have for himm....
n its better to let go of someone who cant b compatible on the terms of feeling....
n since he's into someone else he can never have all that for you...
so better let go of him ......it's going to be really hard ..but its the right thing to do...
and the only way to make him realise what a cruel thing he did to you.....
he's so ot worth ur feelings...
take care dear,....
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Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
ok so i went out with this guy for about a month and it was soo perfect , like i know alot of people say this but hes really not like ANY other guy i even met. i dont care what anyone says like this guy is perfect.
but anyways..
so i moved about an hour away from where i used to live soo i knew i wasnt gonna be able to see him as muchh..
but i stayed w/ him instead to see how things were gonna turn out and it was horrible because it kinda kicked in that i might not ever see him again but we talk every day on the phone and on myspace and he just makes me feel so different from all the other girls..
so we broke up and stopped talkin for about a month but we just started talking again like 2 days ago and he was just telling me how he thought about me everyday since we broke up and thatt he feels like the distance doesnt matter. and its not that easy for me to see him because im only 16 and i dont drive yet..like i just feel like i just havnt fully let him go because i believe that one day , we'll have our second chance
but i was just wondering like should i
go for what my heart says and set myself up for heartbreak again
or go for what my mind says and risk losing my 1st love..Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
don't risk losing it! it sounds like both of you really like each other, so why would you want to let that go? you didn't necessarily have your heart broken because he said that he still likes you and wants to be with you regardless of the distance. once either one of you gets your license, it'll be a lot easier to visit each other. or if you both start to drive, have a meeting place! of course you haven't fully let go of him yet because there hasn't been any sort of closure or fight to drive you both apart. you both still like each other and the only thing that's stopping you both is the distance between you guys. if you really think he's worth it -- and it sounds like you do -- you should know that distance won't change the strength of your relationship. do anything in your power to make sure you guys remain in contact, if you want to see each other for the time being, get a webcam! :) it makes it a lot better than only talking on the phone or myspace -- at least you can see eachother in some way, right? don't let this one go, you guys really care about each other! hope i helped :)Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
Follow your heart.
There is never a guarantee with anything. See how it turns out. You don't know that there will be hearbreak again. Long distance relationships are hard but they are very possible. You have to be willing to put a lot of work and effort into it. Even more than couples who are not in a long distance relationship. Good luck.
Follow your heart sweetie.. wat hav u got 2 lose
x
Mm a conundrum, you didn't say how old he is, cant he come and visit you at the weekend may be your folks would let him stay over if you are that serious about each other. We all get our hearts broken at some time or other but if its worth the possibility that at some time down the line it might happen but you could be having a ball just know then maybe its worth a try. I lived in Scotland and my husband lived in Egypt for about a year before i moved over to be with him with just a few short visits in between it was hard but worth it in the end. Good Luck.
ok so i went out with this guy for about a month and it was soo perfect , like i know alot of people say this but hes really not like ANY other guy i even met. i dont care what anyone says like this guy is perfect.
but anyways..
so i moved about an hour away from where i used to live soo i knew i wasnt gonna be able to see him as muchh..
but i stayed w/ him instead to see how things were gonna turn out and it was horrible because it kinda kicked in that i might not ever see him again but we talk every day on the phone and on myspace and he just makes me feel so different from all the other girls..
so we broke up and stopped talkin for about a month but we just started talking again like 2 days ago and he was just telling me how he thought about me everyday since we broke up and thatt he feels like the distance doesnt matter. and its not that easy for me to see him because im only 16 and i dont drive yet..like i just feel like i just havnt fully let him go because i believe that one day , we'll have our second chance
but i was just wondering like should i
go for what my heart says and set myself up for heartbreak again
or go for what my mind says and risk losing my 1st love..Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
don't risk losing it! it sounds like both of you really like each other, so why would you want to let that go? you didn't necessarily have your heart broken because he said that he still likes you and wants to be with you regardless of the distance. once either one of you gets your license, it'll be a lot easier to visit each other. or if you both start to drive, have a meeting place! of course you haven't fully let go of him yet because there hasn't been any sort of closure or fight to drive you both apart. you both still like each other and the only thing that's stopping you both is the distance between you guys. if you really think he's worth it -- and it sounds like you do -- you should know that distance won't change the strength of your relationship. do anything in your power to make sure you guys remain in contact, if you want to see each other for the time being, get a webcam! :) it makes it a lot better than only talking on the phone or myspace -- at least you can see eachother in some way, right? don't let this one go, you guys really care about each other! hope i helped :)Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
Follow your heart.
There is never a guarantee with anything. See how it turns out. You don't know that there will be hearbreak again. Long distance relationships are hard but they are very possible. You have to be willing to put a lot of work and effort into it. Even more than couples who are not in a long distance relationship. Good luck.
Follow your heart sweetie.. wat hav u got 2 lose
x
Mm a conundrum, you didn't say how old he is, cant he come and visit you at the weekend may be your folks would let him stay over if you are that serious about each other. We all get our hearts broken at some time or other but if its worth the possibility that at some time down the line it might happen but you could be having a ball just know then maybe its worth a try. I lived in Scotland and my husband lived in Egypt for about a year before i moved over to be with him with just a few short visits in between it was hard but worth it in the end. Good Luck.
I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
Please allow me to give you a short bio of me . I recently moved from new york due to family dysfunctionalities. I arrived in texas and have been seeing this beautiful girl for hmm.. i guess ever since I came here. I was on the phone with her 24 hours during my drive here and I think i have talked to her more than anyone in this world in my life .
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of any long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
I'm not in a long term relationship but I would like to put my 2 cents in anyway .
You really need to talk to her face to face and tell her just what you told us .
Then I would suggest that you have her follow you to a computer and tell her you want her to see something .
Get into your account and pull up these girls that you were talking with and in front of her delete them all .
Let her know that you wanted her to see for herself that you deleted them because you no longer need them because you have found the girl of your dreams . Then plant a big kiss on her .
I am sure that if you talk to her and tell her what you told us then deleted the girls in front of her and told her that she was the girl of your dreams she would be putty in your hands .
Best of luck to you .I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
The only thing you can do is ';ride it out';. She has lost alot of trust for you, and its obvious you were not satisfied with her, or you would not still be looking. Its either make a commitment, or let her go.
what I would do is have a serious talk about it and let her know that you were not cheating her, did not have any intention of meeting the girls, it was friendly chat, you felt good giving them compliments on their dress and ask her if she's upset.
I don't give advice, and you don't need to ask for it. Usually, when people ';ask for advice'; they are really looking for confirmation of a decisions that they have already made.
There is a trust issue here. It is early in the relationship. If you were talking to her on the phone a lot before on the drive out to Texas, it sounds like you met her online and formed up some kind of a fantasy relationship before you actually met her.
I am in a long term relationship. It has lasted 34 years because we didn't meet online or start out with trust issues.
Well sweetheart there's really nothing you can do because looking from her eyes and I been where she is................. It destroyed not only a friendship but it made me question everything that him and I had and including my friendship with him because it lack substance! When I say substance meaning what type of relationship can you call that you were having with the other young ladies? Being a man and be honest with yourself, if it was her and other men wouldn't you be questioning within if you are making the right choices in life to be with her? I wouldn't trust you and I wouldn't understand what did they have that I didn't?????????? Sometime conversation can go to far and how do you explain that to the one you care about?????????? That's like she's taking a complete gamble on you!!!!!!!!!!!!! There isn't anything worst then being in the not knowing....... Why didn't you share with her from the door your on line relationships and show her the nature of your friendship with them?????????????? I understand her totally, she doesn't know or understand her place in life, and your so called honesty??????????????????? How can you explain the truth to a person when you kept it from them??????????? Especially when the relationship was to mean soooooo much to you????????????? Your asking her also to trust a man who maintains relationships that she has no clue about?????????? When you ask yourself about me writing relationships: ask yourself what do you call the woman online?????????? That's a lot of trust your wanting don't you think her to leave her family and everything for something that has the biggest what if???????????? As for my former friend it cost us our relationship and we never healed from it! He blamed me for me snooping and he didn't tell me either.... I am glad that I did snoop because it made me see who he really is oppose to who I thought he was!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe just maybe she thinking along the lines as I did!!!!! Him and I dated for about 3 years and hell I feel the way the brake up went, maybe I wasted three years of my life with him..... Heck I know I did................ I'm just being honest! But good Luck anyway!!!!!!!!!
Communication in a relationship is the only thing that keeps relationships going. I can't tell you how to start but I can tell you that's it is very important that you do. Just explain how you feel, be very open and honest with her. Then listen, because listening is just as important as talking. Let her know that what she thinks is just as important to you. Some times communicating is hard but thats just part of life. We as humans all go through it. Some are just better at it than others. And sometimes all it takes is a little practice. Good luck and I hope all works out for you
I dont like the other replies so....
I think you need to admit you f***ed up, get off those chatrooms and tell her your sorry. You had no intension of anything more then what it was, but that you know that kind of thing leads to more of the same. Even worse possibly encounters with other women. I know you can't see it now, but it does lead to cheating.
If your honest enough, and what you've said is true, she'll follow you.
If you think it's end within the next year or so for other reasons, I wouldn't push her to come, but to stay in contact when you leave. Buy her a plane ticket every now and again, women love going on vacation, man.
Work it out one way or another. I may have just saved you.
tell her wat you said up on your question. ill translate it into what i think you should tell her.
';i love you with all of my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the fist time. I feel an overwhelming guilt and deep sadness when i think of the girls i talked to online. i know it hurt you. and i would never have any intentions of hurting you. im so sorry could you forgive me?'; in my opinion you should say something along the lines of that. you need to tell her how sorry you are.
this should be an easy fix... tell her you are sorry and only like complimenting girls to make them feel good about themselves.. Just tell her u need to get this off ur shoulders so you can look towards the future.
I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
Please allow me to give you a short bio of me . I recently moved from new york due to family dysfunctionalities. I arrived in texas and have been seeing this beautiful girl for hmm.. i guess ever since I came here. I was on the phone with her 24 hours during my drive here and I think i have talked to her more than anyone in this world in my life .
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of anyi long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over two years now, and we have been living together for the past four months.
These online comments seem to be causing a sort of elephant-in-the-room for you. I think that you should actually bring it up next time you two are together and alone. Mention to her that you're sorry you made those comments but you really meant nothing by them, these girls are friends of yours and that's how it will stay. Don't go into a lot of detail about it, just enough to bring it up. Then tell her that you're falling for her and you would hate for something silly like this to ruin the relationship this far into it, because you'd like to see how far this relationship can go. Compliment her, be nice to her, give her flowers and tell her what you told us, how you love her with your heart like a kid that just smelled rose petals for the first time. Give her roses along with the comment.
Just let her know that you are aware you messed up. Tell her you are going to stop contacting those girls. Tell her how you feel that guilt and deep sadness because you'd hate for anything to come between you two. By what you said, she doesn't seem too torn up over it but it can't hurt to explain your feelings and make sure she knows you care about her.
You seem like a really sweet guy, if you can manage to get your feelings across to her, she will realize this even more than she already has. It doesn't guarantee she will choose to move with you in a year, but it will at least remove this conflict that's between you at the moment.
Trust me, I'm a girl and I can tell you that I love it when a boy talks to me about the situation instead of avoiding it. When he adds in the compliments and throws in that he really cares about me (not to mention some flowers), it really helps. If she cares about you like you do about her, she'll forgive you.
Good luck buddy!I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
aww you sound like edward from twilight just tell her how you feel and that you will do anything to make her happy good luck
Young man, first: change your password! That's like giving your bank account number to a total stranger or your Social Security number. All this type of information is private for a reason. Unless you are married do not give that type of personal information. You are entitled to privacy even if you think you're in love. Do you have her password? Do not move ahead with your plans to leave the country with her. Do what you need to do first and get established. If you're successful in your endeavor, then you can invite her to join you. It's easier to handle things, should you run into problems alone. Such as housing, traveling, trying to locate the right place for your dreams. Remember this is your dream not necessarily hers!
I would suggest that it is better to judge based on actions rather than words. She may see that you flirt on-line but your defense could be that its just talk, and you would never actually do anything improper.
Myself - I wouldn't believe it -but...
well if you loved her like you say you do you wouldnt of been talkinng to other girls online. but just tell her that your deeply sorry and that it wont happen again and when you do get online and if you feel comfortable let her see what your doing to gain her trust back but if she didnt make a fuss about it she may not be to worried because its not like you see the people on an every day bases.just tell her how you truely feel.its ok to talk to other girls but be honest to them to and let them know ur in a relationship and how you really feel about her if they ask its ok to be friends. my boyfriend sees me chat online i dont hide anything from him and its just friend talk. im a great listener and try to help people if i can. just be honest and tell her how you feel thats all we want from our lovers. sorry i couldnt give you better advice
You really messed up big time. In 2 ways. One in giving her your secret passwords %26amp; Two, wordy flirtations to other women. You say you love her so much, why are you flirting with other women? You have to control that urge if you intend to be in a loving %26amp; mutual caring relationship. I do wonder tho, why did she go into your personal mail in the 1st place? Maybe she already doesn't trust you or respect you to allow you the privacy. I know that you feel very strongly about her right now, but I don't think you two are right for each other. However, let me say that if you are supposed to be together, you will be. Peace.
If I was in this situation I would want the following to happen:
1. You to ask me how I feel about what I came across on the computer. 2. Tell me you are willing to answer any questions I have about it. (why you did it is a big one) 3. give time to talk it out.
To be honest, I think you already have the right tools in place. YOU communicate well and so you can tell her, you don't want her to be hurt with you having female ';Pen Pals'; if you thought she would have taken it seriously you would not have entrusted her with your pass word. So you want her to know, you love her more than life its self and want her to be a permanent fixture in your life and so you will not talk to them anymore if she would prefer.
I too was scared when my husband was offered a job over seas about 35 yrs ago. I refused to go, boy am I sorry now.
So maybe if you take a language class with her and she can get hyped she will change her mind.
Good luck, you sound like a great solid couple.
First tell her that, that she is the most important person in the world to you and those girls meant nothing you weren't cheating on her with them you just gave them some compliment you know you hurt her and if they're was anything you could do you'd do it just too prove that you truly love her and stop talking to the other girls obviously and do something to make her feel speical like a nice dinner a walk on the beach/park and tell her these things
I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
Please allow me to give you a short bio of me . I recently moved from new york due to family dysfunctionalities. I arrived in texas and have been seeing this beautiful girl for hmm.. i guess ever since I came here. I was on the phone with her 24 hours during my drive here and I think i have talked to her more than anyone in this world in my life .
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of any long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
Well first off, assure her that she is the most beautiful and the only women in your life. And for her that would be scary to move to a foreign country where you don't know anyone, and your leaving your family/friends, and everything thats familiar behind. Between then and now, show her how much you love her, and talk to her about your plans togo to another country to achieve your dreams, ask her how she would feel about leaving here as a possibility. Don't expect her to jump at the idea at first, she'll need time to process the idea, but hopefully if she loves you she will go with you.
I hope everything works out for you :)I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
If your love is strong and very strong, take her hand and fly like birds. Fly together through the mountains and rivers; go through the good and bad, always taking care and love each other till you reached your dream of the merry land.
leave her alone and find someone else its best for the both of you
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well let her go.
First and foremost...most normal girls don't like to move away from their family and friends. Wake up. You are a massive dreamer (the worlds needs you). If you are going on this trip...its not with her...so, give it up. You are a on-line junky like most of the world is today...You are going to need a girl from a broken home who's more of a gypsy than you are to go onto your trip and she will end up leaving you in some obscure part of the world...and my you will stay there or maybe you will return. After this, it will take you several years to find another. Take Care
this is my opinion k? so dont get mad
first ur saying u gave her ur password (meaning she can read this if she wants to) than u say she likes u A LOT (how would u know??? we can lie too) and than u say u love her like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals??? really last i checked kids dont really care about the smell of flowers.
honestly if i was her, i would not leave with some guy that is telling me he loves me like he loves the smell if a rose petal and is talking to other chicks online. but than again thats just me.
I think youre reading more into this than there really is and blowing it way out of porportion. She read these as harmless and that youre a typical guy, nothing more unless theres something youre not telling us. First and foremost,follow your dream, the rest will follow. Take her on a vacation to let her see what shes getting into before moving there and then let her decide for herself. But you dont give her much credit as I seriously doubt you hurt her at all unless you lied to her about talking to other girls. Stop the emails and go for your true love and definitely follow that dream and let no one stop you from getting either. Good luck and please let me know someday how it turned out
My boyfriend did the same thing, he began texting his best friends sister saying how pretty she was and how good she looked on some night at a party. I couldn't beleive it, it made me feel like I wasn't enough for him and that is probably what your girlfriend feels like now. Like she is no longer your everything and that you need smething else. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and I have long since forgiven him. My advice would be sincerly apologize for hurting her and make it compleately aware to her that you love her and only her, that no one else is anything compared to her.
If she truly loves you she will forgive you, mind you there may be some trust issues for a while, however in the long run your relationship will be stronger. The best thing for a relationship is communication, just talk to her. :3 Good luck.
My boyfriend is 23 years older than I, I don't know if I should stay in this relationship any advice out there
Your already having doubts...take a look at that...Some how I don't feel your happy.
Is his age a really big factor??? What is it that a younger man would do for you? Try to make him do that...
Don't forget, younger men tend to be immature %26amp; not ready to settle...think long term life goals...I think I take that advice to...My boyfriend is 23 years older than I, I don't know if I should stay in this relationship any advice out there
Hmm..So if he is 50 then you are 27. Wow. Get out of this relationship immediately. This guy is way to damn old for you. Get a young guy around your age and you guys can live and die together. That's what I would do.My boyfriend is 23 years older than I, I don't know if I should stay in this relationship any advice out there
Wow that's a really long age diffrence don't u want to date somebody around your age.. ?? But if you love him and everything and you really wanna be with him i guess that's okay then. If there is a lot of problems with that and everything then i guess u should ;; But just follow your heart... And see what it says...
OMGoodness, I thought 16 Yrs. age difference was A big thing :~) I'm sorry. That's the age difference between my boyfriend and I. When I was married, My husband was 9 yrs older than me :~)
Do you 2 get along well, does he love you, do you love him?
Sometimes age doesn't matter :~)
Do you both get along alright? Age difference doesn't matter that much. I think some men do try to be too dominant in this type of relationship, but if he can treat you like an equal, you both get along good, and you both love each other,.... stay. If not, don't waste your life.
Age gap shouldn't matter, really, unless the difference in age is causing hassles like you want kids but he doesn't cos he's too old, or he wants you to give up some of your hobbies or something because he doesn't fit in with your younger friends, or something like that. I know several couples who have large age gaps who are quite happy with each other. If you love him and the age thing isn't affecting the relationship, then why not stay with him?
The one I love is 27 years my senior. And yeah, it's hard.
It basically comes down to this: do you love him?
Inside yourself, you know whether you want to stay with him or not. Just listen to yourself.
if u loved him u wouldnt evan be thinking of that sort of thing.
Is his age a really big factor??? What is it that a younger man would do for you? Try to make him do that...
Don't forget, younger men tend to be immature %26amp; not ready to settle...think long term life goals...I think I take that advice to...My boyfriend is 23 years older than I, I don't know if I should stay in this relationship any advice out there
Hmm..So if he is 50 then you are 27. Wow. Get out of this relationship immediately. This guy is way to damn old for you. Get a young guy around your age and you guys can live and die together. That's what I would do.My boyfriend is 23 years older than I, I don't know if I should stay in this relationship any advice out there
Wow that's a really long age diffrence don't u want to date somebody around your age.. ?? But if you love him and everything and you really wanna be with him i guess that's okay then. If there is a lot of problems with that and everything then i guess u should ;; But just follow your heart... And see what it says...
OMGoodness, I thought 16 Yrs. age difference was A big thing :~) I'm sorry. That's the age difference between my boyfriend and I. When I was married, My husband was 9 yrs older than me :~)
Do you 2 get along well, does he love you, do you love him?
Sometimes age doesn't matter :~)
Do you both get along alright? Age difference doesn't matter that much. I think some men do try to be too dominant in this type of relationship, but if he can treat you like an equal, you both get along good, and you both love each other,.... stay. If not, don't waste your life.
Age gap shouldn't matter, really, unless the difference in age is causing hassles like you want kids but he doesn't cos he's too old, or he wants you to give up some of your hobbies or something because he doesn't fit in with your younger friends, or something like that. I know several couples who have large age gaps who are quite happy with each other. If you love him and the age thing isn't affecting the relationship, then why not stay with him?
The one I love is 27 years my senior. And yeah, it's hard.
It basically comes down to this: do you love him?
Inside yourself, you know whether you want to stay with him or not. Just listen to yourself.
if u loved him u wouldnt evan be thinking of that sort of thing.
Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
ok so i went out with this guy for about a month and it was soo perfect , like i know alot of people say this but hes really not like ANY other guy i even met. i dont care what anyone says like this guy is perfect.
but anyways..
so i moved about an hour away from where i used to live soo i knew i wasnt gonna be able to see him as muchh..
but i stayed w/ him instead to see how things were gonna turn out and it was horrible because it kinda kicked in that i might not ever see him again but we talk every day on the phone and on myspace and he just makes me feel so different from all the other girls..
so we broke up and stopped talkin for about a month but we just started talking again like 2 days ago and he was just telling me how he thought about me everyday since we broke up and thatt he feels like the distance doesnt matter. and its not that easy for me to see him because im only 16 and i dont drive yet..like i just feel like i just havnt fully let him go because i believe that one day , we'll have our second chance
but i was just wondering like should i
go for what my heart says and set myself up for heartbreak again
or go for what my mind says and risk losing my 1st love..Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
It seems like a win lose situation. If you stick with him, you could get heartbroken. If you don't, you wont get to love him again. I think they come hand in hand really, and just think of it this way.
Would it be worth it?
Do you want to date anyone else?
Is he all you think about?
Could you make it work?
Is the relationship healthy for you and him?
Does he make you happy?
Do you feel more miserable without him?
Do you feel more happy or sad when in a long distance relationship with him?
Would you regret not going for it?
What will happen if you say no?
What do you think will happen if you say yes?
Answer these, then decide.
but anyways..
so i moved about an hour away from where i used to live soo i knew i wasnt gonna be able to see him as muchh..
but i stayed w/ him instead to see how things were gonna turn out and it was horrible because it kinda kicked in that i might not ever see him again but we talk every day on the phone and on myspace and he just makes me feel so different from all the other girls..
so we broke up and stopped talkin for about a month but we just started talking again like 2 days ago and he was just telling me how he thought about me everyday since we broke up and thatt he feels like the distance doesnt matter. and its not that easy for me to see him because im only 16 and i dont drive yet..like i just feel like i just havnt fully let him go because i believe that one day , we'll have our second chance
but i was just wondering like should i
go for what my heart says and set myself up for heartbreak again
or go for what my mind says and risk losing my 1st love..Okaii , i need some seriously good advice ( relationship problems )?
It seems like a win lose situation. If you stick with him, you could get heartbroken. If you don't, you wont get to love him again. I think they come hand in hand really, and just think of it this way.
Would it be worth it?
Do you want to date anyone else?
Is he all you think about?
Could you make it work?
Is the relationship healthy for you and him?
Does he make you happy?
Do you feel more miserable without him?
Do you feel more happy or sad when in a long distance relationship with him?
Would you regret not going for it?
What will happen if you say no?
What do you think will happen if you say yes?
Answer these, then decide.
Any advice on how to get a relationship back on track?
ok,. so iv been with this guy for a couple of years and we are going threw a really bad patch.
neither of us want to end it but we just cant seem to get it right??
we are going away for the weekend to spend some time together(we dont live together)
any other advice please??
thanks
xxAny advice on how to get a relationship back on track?
Do things together that you will both enjoy. Keep an open dialogue between the two of you. You both want to make it work, so that is a good sign. Just keep trying and give it time :)Any advice on how to get a relationship back on track?
Spend time with each other (as you're about too) and don't rush anythink.. just talk and try and cut out ANY indtimitsy (cant spell it) so then you two will be CRAZY for each other... Spend time complenting each other
try nd talk to eachother talk about where the relationship is going ,the dreaded question!
XD
neither of us want to end it but we just cant seem to get it right??
we are going away for the weekend to spend some time together(we dont live together)
any other advice please??
thanks
xxAny advice on how to get a relationship back on track?
Do things together that you will both enjoy. Keep an open dialogue between the two of you. You both want to make it work, so that is a good sign. Just keep trying and give it time :)Any advice on how to get a relationship back on track?
Spend time with each other (as you're about too) and don't rush anythink.. just talk and try and cut out ANY indtimitsy (cant spell it) so then you two will be CRAZY for each other... Spend time complenting each other
try nd talk to eachother talk about where the relationship is going ,the dreaded question!
XD
Monday, November 21, 2011
I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
Please allow me to give you a short bio of me . I recently moved from new york due to family dysfunctionalities. I arrived in texas and have been seeing this beautiful girl for hmm.. i guess ever since I came here. I was on the phone with her 24 hours during my drive here and I think i have talked to her more than anyone in this world in my life .
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of any long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
If your chatting is bothering you this much...you must have some real feelings for this gal. I suggest then, that what ever you do from now on...you have her in mind as well. That helps you not do things that you might regret later.
I don't believe in giving people your passwords until there is some serious commitment...and then...there are some areas of your life that should still be for you...your space. But since you have already given it out, changing it now will look as though you have something to hide.
I would talk to her, be honest with her and ask her what would make her feel better? After all, she is the one you are worried about.
You haven't said what your dreams are so that one is hard to comment on. I don't know if they are safe or sketchy. If they are safe, and she loves you...she will come around as long as she knows the road will always lead back home for visits. If it is sketchy...then you are on your own. It would be hard to commit to someone who you don't know if you will get stuck on the other side of the world with no help.I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
if you are having like sex chats or trying to get in these girls pants or meet them then you should feel bad. From what you are saying it's not like that at all. I flirt with guys all the time, I'm just a flirty person, my fiance knows it means NOTHING and I would never take it further than some flirtations and if the guy tries I'm out of there. If she says she doesn't care and hasn't brought it up or brought it back on you at all, then she probably really doesn't care. If you think she's mad or worried about it then sit down and talk to her (HONESTLY) about it.
First of all, change your passwords. Someone you are dating should never have your passwords to things.
Then sit down and talk to her. However, you said you ';recently'; moved. You may be more lusting than in love, and rushing things - either because you want someone to cling to and some familiarity since you just moved across the country and don't have many other people or maybe no one else (due to your dysfunctional family), or because you know you want to leave the country next year and are afraid of going alone, so you want to pull someone along with you.
Either way, you definitely don't need to be flirting with people on-line. I used to be very flirty on-line (and still am in person sometimes), but my husband's best friend's wife just left him and moved several states away - to be with some dude she started ';flirting innocently'; with in a forum. (It wasn't even a chat room - they ended up talking from reading each others' posts or something). So just don't do it.cleansing diet
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of any long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
If your chatting is bothering you this much...you must have some real feelings for this gal. I suggest then, that what ever you do from now on...you have her in mind as well. That helps you not do things that you might regret later.
I don't believe in giving people your passwords until there is some serious commitment...and then...there are some areas of your life that should still be for you...your space. But since you have already given it out, changing it now will look as though you have something to hide.
I would talk to her, be honest with her and ask her what would make her feel better? After all, she is the one you are worried about.
You haven't said what your dreams are so that one is hard to comment on. I don't know if they are safe or sketchy. If they are safe, and she loves you...she will come around as long as she knows the road will always lead back home for visits. If it is sketchy...then you are on your own. It would be hard to commit to someone who you don't know if you will get stuck on the other side of the world with no help.I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
if you are having like sex chats or trying to get in these girls pants or meet them then you should feel bad. From what you are saying it's not like that at all. I flirt with guys all the time, I'm just a flirty person, my fiance knows it means NOTHING and I would never take it further than some flirtations and if the guy tries I'm out of there. If she says she doesn't care and hasn't brought it up or brought it back on you at all, then she probably really doesn't care. If you think she's mad or worried about it then sit down and talk to her (HONESTLY) about it.
First of all, change your passwords. Someone you are dating should never have your passwords to things.
Then sit down and talk to her. However, you said you ';recently'; moved. You may be more lusting than in love, and rushing things - either because you want someone to cling to and some familiarity since you just moved across the country and don't have many other people or maybe no one else (due to your dysfunctional family), or because you know you want to leave the country next year and are afraid of going alone, so you want to pull someone along with you.
Either way, you definitely don't need to be flirting with people on-line. I used to be very flirty on-line (and still am in person sometimes), but my husband's best friend's wife just left him and moved several states away - to be with some dude she started ';flirting innocently'; with in a forum. (It wasn't even a chat room - they ended up talking from reading each others' posts or something). So just don't do it.
I really need some insightful advice.. relationship experts?
I really really like this guy and I really really want to be with him, but for some reason every relationship I get into I feel like I'm more into it than he is, and I'm getting sick of that feeling. I was permiscuous when I was younger so now I have really high standards, so when a guy meets those standards it's a big deal. And this guy is everything I could have hoped for: really smart, can hold an intelligent conversation and be witty, gorgeous, health conscience (like me), likes to party but knows when to be serious, not judgemental (in my case important bc I have a rough past and a sketchy family), and a little goofy and nerdy. I don't know what to do! Any advice is welcome.. and I guess that it's not that he doesn't like me, we just have a little age difference (6-7 yrs) and I'm still a little shy towards him so he doesn't know the real me yet.. help?
Let me know if you need extra details and I'll post them.. I just really need honest answers, so please, help?I really need some insightful advice.. relationship experts?
aww hunnnn! that is so cute!
but i must say it sounds like a very normal Female to me! dont get down on your self! everyone has a past, everyone has someone in there family that.... ya LOL, and everyone has exactly what they want in a guy picked out! but if i was going to offer any type of advise in this subject i would have to say RELAX! if the 2 of you have had a convo where you feel as though the connection was there, what is to say he didnt feel that way as well, if i were you id play a bit hard to get! NOT too hard to get! but play interested but care free,, you build him up to ask you out! keep doing what you are doing, because that is you..yet put a hold on it at the same time! And for the age differance i do not belive that age makes any type of differance inless you are under 20! besides that you both may be in the same fase of your life you have been threw and done so much you may both be interested and open to the same range of things.. you have experianced and seen sum lil part of what is out there! you arent marrying him! just getting to no him! seeing if its worth prociding! maybe it is maybe its not in this case or any other hun all i can say is relax, dont sweat youll find your man! it really is true you stop looking! theyll pop up outta everywhere! good luck!I really need some insightful advice.. relationship experts?
honey please contact me as I know this man and have some info for you
tease him so he stays interested with you!!!!
How old are you? 6 or 7 years at 30 is not a big deal. 6 or 7 years at 16 is.
I was never really very good at creating/improving a relationship, but I think i understand maintaining a relationship. I would say patience.
I know thats not the answer your really looking for... but if you love him (i assume you love him) than he might be worth the wait.
This gives him time to get to know you (you said your shy and he doenst really know you). It will strengthen your relationship.
You may have to suffer a little right now, seeing as you are moving forward faster than him, but if you value your relationship at all than waiting might be the sacrifice you make...
I hope this helps.
now that i see that your 18, i would think patience is even better. its not like your getting old, you have all the time in the world
First of all I wouldn't let the age thing get to you. I'm married and I'm 26 and my hubby is 36. And it's ok to still be shy around him, you are getting to know each other more. But I would try harder to show him a little more of you at a time, because if the real you just all pops out at once it might be too much for him to handle all at once. And plus, you don't want to rush it too bad. Don't stress about it so much, it's actually normal. But remember, don't hold yourself back too much because you don't want him to think that you don't like him.
Let me know if you need extra details and I'll post them.. I just really need honest answers, so please, help?I really need some insightful advice.. relationship experts?
aww hunnnn! that is so cute!
but i must say it sounds like a very normal Female to me! dont get down on your self! everyone has a past, everyone has someone in there family that.... ya LOL, and everyone has exactly what they want in a guy picked out! but if i was going to offer any type of advise in this subject i would have to say RELAX! if the 2 of you have had a convo where you feel as though the connection was there, what is to say he didnt feel that way as well, if i were you id play a bit hard to get! NOT too hard to get! but play interested but care free,, you build him up to ask you out! keep doing what you are doing, because that is you..yet put a hold on it at the same time! And for the age differance i do not belive that age makes any type of differance inless you are under 20! besides that you both may be in the same fase of your life you have been threw and done so much you may both be interested and open to the same range of things.. you have experianced and seen sum lil part of what is out there! you arent marrying him! just getting to no him! seeing if its worth prociding! maybe it is maybe its not in this case or any other hun all i can say is relax, dont sweat youll find your man! it really is true you stop looking! theyll pop up outta everywhere! good luck!I really need some insightful advice.. relationship experts?
honey please contact me as I know this man and have some info for you
tease him so he stays interested with you!!!!
How old are you? 6 or 7 years at 30 is not a big deal. 6 or 7 years at 16 is.
I was never really very good at creating/improving a relationship, but I think i understand maintaining a relationship. I would say patience.
I know thats not the answer your really looking for... but if you love him (i assume you love him) than he might be worth the wait.
This gives him time to get to know you (you said your shy and he doenst really know you). It will strengthen your relationship.
You may have to suffer a little right now, seeing as you are moving forward faster than him, but if you value your relationship at all than waiting might be the sacrifice you make...
I hope this helps.
now that i see that your 18, i would think patience is even better. its not like your getting old, you have all the time in the world
First of all I wouldn't let the age thing get to you. I'm married and I'm 26 and my hubby is 36. And it's ok to still be shy around him, you are getting to know each other more. But I would try harder to show him a little more of you at a time, because if the real you just all pops out at once it might be too much for him to handle all at once. And plus, you don't want to rush it too bad. Don't stress about it so much, it's actually normal. But remember, don't hold yourself back too much because you don't want him to think that you don't like him.
Really in need of some advice. Relationship & Family!?
Alright, so here's my situation. I'm 19 yrs old and living with my parents. Growing up my parents were really strict, especially my dad. I wasn't allowed to have any friends outside of school. I never attended any parties or homecoming or prom. I wasn't allowed to do anything. However, when I was a sophmore in high school I met a guy and we became really good friends and I would secretly call him on the phone because I wasnt allowed to use that either. One thing led to the next and we became boyfriend and girlfriend. It's been 4 years now and I'm still with him. My parents won't approve of him because he is not the same race as us. My dad took away my car and everything because he figured out I was still with him and he threatened me by saying that he wasn't going to allow me to go to college anymore if i kept seeing this man who i love very much. He's a really nice guy they just wont give him a chance. So anyway my boyfriend offered that i move in with him. He has a job and he told me he would help me pay for school. The only thing is I don't want to hurt my parents but I feel like im in prison when im at home. What do you think I should do and what would you do if you were in my situation? Plz offer some advice. thanks in advanceReally in need of some advice. Relationship %26amp; Family!?
If this is true love, follow your heart. Clearly tell your parents that you two are in LOVE, and that you want to go live with them, but you don't want to disappoint them (your parents) while doing so. Tell them you love them, but you're in love with this amazing guy who treats you well, makes you happy, etc. It's too bad they only care about his race.Really in need of some advice. Relationship %26amp; Family!?
I'm not going to tell you to move in with him like that, but if you're 19 out of high school and they won't give you a break that's bad. if the two of you have been together 4 years you must care a lot for each other, why not just get married, you don't need their approval. continue to go to school %26amp; get a part time job to help out. good luck
Go for it.
You said yourself that its like living in a prison. But be aware that if it doesn't work out you may be on your own.
Tough choice.
alright, your parents are being very unreasonable about this.
what i think you should do is move out, and live with your boyfriend. if you really love him then that should be the right choose.
your parents seem to overprotective. you cant live your life trying to make them happy. you have to make yourself happy first. and if they don't understand that then, you have to help them understand
they might be mad at first that you left, but they cant stay mad forever.
Don't move in with him. This may be a passing thing for you. There will be many other boys out there but you only have one set of parents; Believe it or not, they know what they're doing. You're 19 and think you know best,but you are still a babe. A person can be book smart and life stupid. I don't mean to insult you honey, but you don't have any life experiences under your belt.Give it time, think about your future with a person of a different race. Think about what will happen with this ';fling'; is over...and it will be over, I guarantee it. Just let things be.Tell your folks you're dating him and you would like to be able to take him home.Explain you had the chance to move in with him but decided not to because you respect them,But, you still intend to date this young man.
I think you should move with your boyfriend, if you feel that you can trust him.
It's hard, because if anything were to happen with the two of you, you may not have your parents' support back.
Agh....um.....
Have you tried sitting your parents down to talk with them about it?
Tell them that you are an adult, and should be allowed to decide who you do and do not want to date.
Be firm with your beliefs, but be don't be brash.
Stay calm and be reasonable.
Perhaps you can offer a compromise...?
I'm sorry if I'm not of much help.
If this is true love, follow your heart. Clearly tell your parents that you two are in LOVE, and that you want to go live with them, but you don't want to disappoint them (your parents) while doing so. Tell them you love them, but you're in love with this amazing guy who treats you well, makes you happy, etc. It's too bad they only care about his race.Really in need of some advice. Relationship %26amp; Family!?
I'm not going to tell you to move in with him like that, but if you're 19 out of high school and they won't give you a break that's bad. if the two of you have been together 4 years you must care a lot for each other, why not just get married, you don't need their approval. continue to go to school %26amp; get a part time job to help out. good luck
Go for it.
You said yourself that its like living in a prison. But be aware that if it doesn't work out you may be on your own.
Tough choice.
alright, your parents are being very unreasonable about this.
what i think you should do is move out, and live with your boyfriend. if you really love him then that should be the right choose.
your parents seem to overprotective. you cant live your life trying to make them happy. you have to make yourself happy first. and if they don't understand that then, you have to help them understand
they might be mad at first that you left, but they cant stay mad forever.
Don't move in with him. This may be a passing thing for you. There will be many other boys out there but you only have one set of parents; Believe it or not, they know what they're doing. You're 19 and think you know best,but you are still a babe. A person can be book smart and life stupid. I don't mean to insult you honey, but you don't have any life experiences under your belt.Give it time, think about your future with a person of a different race. Think about what will happen with this ';fling'; is over...and it will be over, I guarantee it. Just let things be.Tell your folks you're dating him and you would like to be able to take him home.Explain you had the chance to move in with him but decided not to because you respect them,But, you still intend to date this young man.
I think you should move with your boyfriend, if you feel that you can trust him.
It's hard, because if anything were to happen with the two of you, you may not have your parents' support back.
Agh....um.....
Have you tried sitting your parents down to talk with them about it?
Tell them that you are an adult, and should be allowed to decide who you do and do not want to date.
Be firm with your beliefs, but be don't be brash.
Stay calm and be reasonable.
Perhaps you can offer a compromise...?
I'm sorry if I'm not of much help.
Can anyone give me teengage relationship advice? (Guys preferred)?
There's a summer theatre in the park thing in my town, where they do a play on a stage set up in the local area park. It's a great performance, I was in it last year, but this year I'm going to watch some friends perform in an unheard of play (so don't ask what it is!). I'm probably going to go watch it with one of my guy friends, who is a few years older than me. The guy playing the lead in the play has a HUGE crush on me and is extremely jealous. I'm good friends with him and don't want to hurt him, but I like the guy I'm going with. What am I supposed to do? Thanks!Can anyone give me teengage relationship advice? (Guys preferred)?
Find something else to do with your guy friend and go to the play by yourself. Regardless of the genders involved, it's asking for trouble to have a former squeeze and a current (or prospective) one in the same place.Can anyone give me teengage relationship advice? (Guys preferred)?
Don't get into relationships with friends because it is usually pretty difficult to get that same friendship back after the relationship.
nothing at all you just tell me who it is and ill take care of it or jus tlisten to the other fags on your page
wrong section to post.
Find something else to do with your guy friend and go to the play by yourself. Regardless of the genders involved, it's asking for trouble to have a former squeeze and a current (or prospective) one in the same place.Can anyone give me teengage relationship advice? (Guys preferred)?
Don't get into relationships with friends because it is usually pretty difficult to get that same friendship back after the relationship.
nothing at all you just tell me who it is and ill take care of it or jus tlisten to the other fags on your page
wrong section to post.
What should I do, need relationship advice.?
I need help,,,,but please don't judge me. I have been with my partner (a woman) for almost 9 years now and am feeling kind of lost. I feel like maybe one day I would like to be married. I am having second thoughts and are not sure how to handle them. Everything is great between us. I have a son who is 10, from a relationship before her and he adores her so much! What should I do. There is no reason that I should not be happy but just wonder if I need to be with a man....is this normal? Again, please do not judge. Thanks!What should I do, need relationship advice.?
You should make a sex tape and sell it for big profits.
You should make a sex tape and sell it for big profits.
Attention ladies who like giving relationship advice, I need you right now...?
My girlfriend and I truly love each other. Don't get me wrong. I would do anything in the world for her, and she would do the same for me. We have discussed marriage, and even though I have not yet proposed, that's what we are planning on. Unfortunately, we never have a ton of time to spend with each other anymore, and she is constantly busy with her job. The problem is that I feel like when we do have time to spend together, for whatever reason she can't. I feel like she always complains about how we don't have time to spend together, but when we do have time to spend together, she is wasting her time doing something stupid. Don't get me wrong, I love her and I wish to marry her, but I feel like she is betraying for not making time to spend with me when she can. I understand that she is busy and I am too, but I don't like her complaining about us not spending time together when we actually have the chance to. Absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder, but there comes a point when I become disappointed and I wonder ';I know this relationship is definitely worth it, but this whole thing of us not getting to see each other is getting really old and really stressful.'; Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!Attention ladies who like giving relationship advice, I need you right now...?
I think you need to have a serious sit down with her and talk about what's bothering you. It's good you both know what you want and are out to get it. I just recently ended a near 5 year relationship. It's been a week and a half since I left him. Like you, I loved him to death. We talked about marriage, spending the rest of our lives together and we definitely spent a lot of time together. But one thing was missing and I wish I could turn back the clock since now I know what that one thing was. COMMUNICATION. I never took the time to tell him what was wrong and tell him about things that I felt needed work in the relationship. I left on a whim and now I'm regretting it. Granted something good comes out of something bad, so I'm really hoping that's my case. Good luck to you, and talk to her. REALLY talk to her. Don't wait to have anger built up and end what could be a potentially happy and awesome thing.Attention ladies who like giving relationship advice, I need you right now...?
Sorry, but reading a Bible won't help you on this one! It is possible that she isn't ready, or she is unsure about something. Maybe about the marriage, or maybe something else. I don't know! She's your lady! Have you tried to talk to her about your feelings? It might help her open up to you, if you open up to her. I'm not sure about all this, but good luck!
jaz
It appears that both of you may have very different goals and plans for your lives. Hence there's the stress and also inability to make plans to meet and spend time together work.
You should pray about it and read your Bible. It helps you will find an answer with God. I promise. Good Luck my prayers and best wishes to u!!!:)
I think she may still be a bit immature. how old is she? age doesnt matter though, some people just never mature. I think that you need to have a serious talk with her and let her know how you feel. i mean you definitely have your goals and plans set for your future together, and it looks like she may not be taking this goal seriously.
you need to know her well before you propose. tell her you really feel that you two need to spend more time together, just be calm and firm about it, tell her this is the only way that you could see you two together in future.
you didnt tell us how much time you spend together so i cant judge, but i dont think its bcause she doesnt care anymore. i have to say that i have been that way with an ex before. I cared about him but i felt keeping some distance was the best way to go about it, and he got the wrong message and that was the end. I wish i didnt act that way but lesson was learned. so you need to communicate to her what you feel.
if she doesnt change much or take it into serious consideration after a couple weeks, then you may wanna re-consider if thats what you want for a future wife
When you want to spend time with her, do you wait for her to initiate it? If you don't and she just turns you down, then consider that she doesn't feel the same as you do. Maybe you're more into the relationship then she is and it's possible that you are just a convenience for her. She might not have any intention of marrying you but she says she will to keep you around. Then again, if she really is busy and anytime she makes plans with you, something gets in the way.. consider that she just isn't too good at managing her time. Try helping her out with the things she does I guess... you don't have to go on a full blown date to spend time together...
I think you need to have a serious sit down with her and talk about what's bothering you. It's good you both know what you want and are out to get it. I just recently ended a near 5 year relationship. It's been a week and a half since I left him. Like you, I loved him to death. We talked about marriage, spending the rest of our lives together and we definitely spent a lot of time together. But one thing was missing and I wish I could turn back the clock since now I know what that one thing was. COMMUNICATION. I never took the time to tell him what was wrong and tell him about things that I felt needed work in the relationship. I left on a whim and now I'm regretting it. Granted something good comes out of something bad, so I'm really hoping that's my case. Good luck to you, and talk to her. REALLY talk to her. Don't wait to have anger built up and end what could be a potentially happy and awesome thing.Attention ladies who like giving relationship advice, I need you right now...?
Sorry, but reading a Bible won't help you on this one! It is possible that she isn't ready, or she is unsure about something. Maybe about the marriage, or maybe something else. I don't know! She's your lady! Have you tried to talk to her about your feelings? It might help her open up to you, if you open up to her. I'm not sure about all this, but good luck!
jaz
It appears that both of you may have very different goals and plans for your lives. Hence there's the stress and also inability to make plans to meet and spend time together work.
You should pray about it and read your Bible. It helps you will find an answer with God. I promise. Good Luck my prayers and best wishes to u!!!:)
I think she may still be a bit immature. how old is she? age doesnt matter though, some people just never mature. I think that you need to have a serious talk with her and let her know how you feel. i mean you definitely have your goals and plans set for your future together, and it looks like she may not be taking this goal seriously.
you need to know her well before you propose. tell her you really feel that you two need to spend more time together, just be calm and firm about it, tell her this is the only way that you could see you two together in future.
you didnt tell us how much time you spend together so i cant judge, but i dont think its bcause she doesnt care anymore. i have to say that i have been that way with an ex before. I cared about him but i felt keeping some distance was the best way to go about it, and he got the wrong message and that was the end. I wish i didnt act that way but lesson was learned. so you need to communicate to her what you feel.
if she doesnt change much or take it into serious consideration after a couple weeks, then you may wanna re-consider if thats what you want for a future wife
When you want to spend time with her, do you wait for her to initiate it? If you don't and she just turns you down, then consider that she doesn't feel the same as you do. Maybe you're more into the relationship then she is and it's possible that you are just a convenience for her. She might not have any intention of marrying you but she says she will to keep you around. Then again, if she really is busy and anytime she makes plans with you, something gets in the way.. consider that she just isn't too good at managing her time. Try helping her out with the things she does I guess... you don't have to go on a full blown date to spend time together...
Please help me with some relationship advice ?
So here's my situation, me and boyfriend been together for 2 years now, we live together and everything. He is a wonderful boyfriend, treats me right, respect me, doesn't lie, never had any doubts that his faithful, treats me like a queen. But me being a woman, while he was sleeping his phone was ringing off the hook, it was his friends, but I decided to go through his text messages to be nosy and I read some text from someone name Joy(which his ex girlfriend name is Joy) and he was like how are you sexy and she was like good morning sweetness and they talked about how each other day went and what not. My question is how should I approach him with it, should I tell him I went through his phone, cause I will with no shame lol or should I ask him questions and see what he say. I just don't know, help me please.Please help me with some relationship advice ?
You're in a tricky grey area here, because while it's quite unethical of him to be referring to other women as sexy, it was quite unethical of you to invade the personal privacy of his phone.
If you have any sort of conversation with him about his possible infidelity, you have to fess up to going through his phone, and acknowledge it was not the right thing to do on your part, but the preservation of you relationship should trump all of that.
It could be a wonderful opportunity for you two to become more open with each other, and improve your relationship.
Sit down, and have a serious, cool tempered talk with him about the direction of your relationship.Please help me with some relationship advice ?
I would ask to borrow his mobile to message a friend because yours isn't working.
When your friend messages back, say Oh... Who is JOY!??!?
Best excuse I had. Worked on my EX.
**** that **** no matter how much u love him when ex physco girlfriends are still clung to him GET OUT NOW WHILE YOUR STILL ALIVE
best just be straight with him and not jump to anything
Usually man will flirt around if his gf is too shy.They will take advantage
Ok you can ask him questions to see what he will say BUT don't be surprised when he lies his *** off, and u will just get mad. Recently went through that with my man (we live together too) but he was doin weird stuff on Facebook, not his text message. Anyway, guys lie especially when they are caught/cornered. It will make you really really mad. So if you will go that route, just be prepared to get very pissed off and hurt. Knowing what I know now, I would just be upfront and ask him directly and let him know that I was trying to use his phone and all this stuff popped up on the screen. Tell him you find it inappropriate and you want it to stop. And if you don't think that its just an innocent text message, and you don't think you can get over it or forgive him, then you know what to do from there
oh my god this happened to me...i dont live with my bf, but i stay with him every now and then...we've been together for 2 years as well...and bla bla bla hes the best...but when i saw those text messages on his phone...i just showed it to him...and told him he has appx 10 seconds to explain..or im out...lol harsh but hey we've been together two years...i dont give a damn if it's a privacy issue...when men use the privacy thing...that means they're guilty...and they're only trying to turn the tables back around on you...what did my bf do...he explained...i believed....i didnt force anything on him though, because that will only make things worse....couple of days later....i saw a text on his phone to her saying ';my gf doesnt appreciate the way we talk, we can not be friends...'; so it all worked out :)
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You're in a tricky grey area here, because while it's quite unethical of him to be referring to other women as sexy, it was quite unethical of you to invade the personal privacy of his phone.
If you have any sort of conversation with him about his possible infidelity, you have to fess up to going through his phone, and acknowledge it was not the right thing to do on your part, but the preservation of you relationship should trump all of that.
It could be a wonderful opportunity for you two to become more open with each other, and improve your relationship.
Sit down, and have a serious, cool tempered talk with him about the direction of your relationship.Please help me with some relationship advice ?
I would ask to borrow his mobile to message a friend because yours isn't working.
When your friend messages back, say Oh... Who is JOY!??!?
Best excuse I had. Worked on my EX.
**** that **** no matter how much u love him when ex physco girlfriends are still clung to him GET OUT NOW WHILE YOUR STILL ALIVE
best just be straight with him and not jump to anything
Usually man will flirt around if his gf is too shy.They will take advantage
Ok you can ask him questions to see what he will say BUT don't be surprised when he lies his *** off, and u will just get mad. Recently went through that with my man (we live together too) but he was doin weird stuff on Facebook, not his text message. Anyway, guys lie especially when they are caught/cornered. It will make you really really mad. So if you will go that route, just be prepared to get very pissed off and hurt. Knowing what I know now, I would just be upfront and ask him directly and let him know that I was trying to use his phone and all this stuff popped up on the screen. Tell him you find it inappropriate and you want it to stop. And if you don't think that its just an innocent text message, and you don't think you can get over it or forgive him, then you know what to do from there
oh my god this happened to me...i dont live with my bf, but i stay with him every now and then...we've been together for 2 years as well...and bla bla bla hes the best...but when i saw those text messages on his phone...i just showed it to him...and told him he has appx 10 seconds to explain..or im out...lol harsh but hey we've been together two years...i dont give a damn if it's a privacy issue...when men use the privacy thing...that means they're guilty...and they're only trying to turn the tables back around on you...what did my bf do...he explained...i believed....i didnt force anything on him though, because that will only make things worse....couple of days later....i saw a text on his phone to her saying ';my gf doesnt appreciate the way we talk, we can not be friends...'; so it all worked out :)
good luck.
Can I have a little relationship advice here please?
I met a guy in uni and we have been friends for about 4 months.
Recently he told me (and my friends) that he really likes me.
He is protective over me and shows alot of care. Last night we were at a party and we exchanged number. Later that night, I went over to his place because he invited me over for a movie but we unexpectedly had our first kiss. Even though we exchanged numbers that night, and he even said he will take me on a date, he has not contacted me and its been a week.
Can I have a little insight into what u may think is going on here?
(He knows im a virgin and that I do not believe in sex before marriage. This may be something you should consider) Thank youCan I have a little relationship advice here please?
it seems kind of odd that he has been so attentive to you and now he hasn't even contacted you. Maybe he has been really busy? If I were you, I would make the first move and call him. See what's going on with him. If he seems distant and cold, then maybe he's just wants to be alone for a while. If this keeps continuing then probably whatever you had is gone.Can I have a little relationship advice here please?
if you do not kno about the guy rule, you should start learning about it now.
wen a guy gets a girls number that he rele likes its a ';rule'; that there not supposed to call for a week or sometimes longer, just because they dont want to seem too clingly, and keep the girl wondering. that might help you out, but if he told his friends that he liked you and been friends with you for 4 months with him knowing that you dont believe in sex before marriage, then thats not wats stopping him. just wait a little longer and see wat happens. :) good luck
Recently he told me (and my friends) that he really likes me.
He is protective over me and shows alot of care. Last night we were at a party and we exchanged number. Later that night, I went over to his place because he invited me over for a movie but we unexpectedly had our first kiss. Even though we exchanged numbers that night, and he even said he will take me on a date, he has not contacted me and its been a week.
Can I have a little insight into what u may think is going on here?
(He knows im a virgin and that I do not believe in sex before marriage. This may be something you should consider) Thank youCan I have a little relationship advice here please?
it seems kind of odd that he has been so attentive to you and now he hasn't even contacted you. Maybe he has been really busy? If I were you, I would make the first move and call him. See what's going on with him. If he seems distant and cold, then maybe he's just wants to be alone for a while. If this keeps continuing then probably whatever you had is gone.Can I have a little relationship advice here please?
if you do not kno about the guy rule, you should start learning about it now.
wen a guy gets a girls number that he rele likes its a ';rule'; that there not supposed to call for a week or sometimes longer, just because they dont want to seem too clingly, and keep the girl wondering. that might help you out, but if he told his friends that he liked you and been friends with you for 4 months with him knowing that you dont believe in sex before marriage, then thats not wats stopping him. just wait a little longer and see wat happens. :) good luck
I need advice? Please help, it may not seem major, but it's gay relationship advice?
Okay, well I'm fourteen years old, I'm gay, and I have a boyfriend, and he lives in Chicago, well I love him. But I fell in love with him, before he showed me a picture of him, which he isn't ugly, he's just not my ideal guy. He's much older than me, and he's moving way too fast, he's talkig about moving to Georgia, and he wants to marry me, and he's got high hopes for us, and he's talking about forever, and I don't want to be with him forever, i'm only fourteen, that would suck to go wasting all my emotions on one person for the rest of my life. What should I do, without hurting him.I need advice? Please help, it may not seem major, but it's gay relationship advice?
Sorry, probably not what you want to hear, but he's moving too fast--you're only 14! You're probably not going to marry your first love. Tell him he needs to cool his jets, and if he's still making you uncomfortable, break up with him. There are a lot of other guys out there who won't pressure you like this.
Sorry, probably not what you want to hear, but he's moving too fast--you're only 14! You're probably not going to marry your first love. Tell him he needs to cool his jets, and if he's still making you uncomfortable, break up with him. There are a lot of other guys out there who won't pressure you like this.
Please help me i need relationship advice,am i not good enough?
My boyfriend and i have been going out for a couple of months now,hes really sensitive likes to cuddle,hold my hand,kiss me in public you name it he does it.Im the total opposite of that i don't like getting all mushy.I admit at times i treat him like crap and i hardly think about how he feels.Sometimes i think im not good enough for him.See i wasn't like this before,he did somethings while we first were going out,that made things complicated.He has been acting really weird lately he doesn't call as much as he did.I don't know if its my fault or maybe somethings going on or his cheating...i don't know what to do ive try ed talking to him but every time we try and sit down and talk we end up fighting. I believe in a winner and a looser, when i fight i will use anything I can get my hands on to hurt the other person and that's when things blow. I have a bad anger problem so I struggle to keep it under control for as long as I can but he pushes and pushes until i break.Maybe he wants to break up with me but doesn't know how to say it,but then again ive told him that we should breakup but still he says we can work things out and he crays and begs and tells me not to give up on us.i really don't understand his view point anymore.I am so lost i don't know what to do or say?can someone please help me?Please help me i need relationship advice,am i not good enough?
you two do need to sit down and talk, but when things start to blow up, dont try to win. let him say what he needs to say. talk dont yell, ask questions, dont accuse him of anything, tell him how you feel. tell him that you arent into the touchy feely type thing, tell him what you do and dont like doing, if he really cares for you he will try to respect your wishes, and do what you ask. also you need to tell him that you have noticed a change in the way he is acting and you are kind of worried. dont say ';i think your cheating on me'; tell him that you have noticed a change in the way he has been acting and tell him that you were worried that you did something to upset him, just ask him to talk to you and that you both need to tell the truth and not hold anything back hope this hepls good luckPlease help me i need relationship advice,am i not good enough?
Ummm...yeah you have way to many issues here. You say he did something '; compicated'; but to me it sounds like you are sending mix signals too. Maybe you two should just take a break for awhile from one another like you take a small trip to visit a friend or family member who is far away. Space will give you both time to figure things out.
I guess you really just need to sit down with him %26amp; talk about it. Try not to let it lead to fighting. If it keeps going on like this, maybe it just wasn't meant to be? Not sure, but I think you guys could make it work if you'd just stop fighting! :)
Well, I believe in certainty. Tell him outright that you don't love him and don't want him to communicate with him unless there is a good reason.
You don't like being smothered.. He is smothering you because of a lack of self confidence. Dump him
That is not a healthy relationship, I was in that boat before and violence became a regular thing. NOT GOOD!! I was also the same when it came to the breaking up question, I didnt want to because I was afraid that I would be single for a long time even though I was very unhappy with the girl, i didnt want to be alone. Sounds to me like this guy is thinking along the same lines. My advice, get out while you can before ye really do get hurt. It was the hardest thing Ive ever done but also the best.
well, apparently if you 2 can't communicate without fighting then that is one sign of you dont even need to be together. you need communication in a relationship trust me!. and the way he is acting is pathetic. you dont like to be all lovey dovey like he does. you have a temper problem and then it runs him off.. i think you should just break up with him tell him you both need time to think. you work on your temper/anger problem. get help with it if you need. theres anger management. so take it! if you want any relationship to ever work you cant blow up like that! you cant always have your way! drop the weapons your mouth is more powerful then anything. be a woman! i dont think you and him should be together until you both get your sh*t together!. he needs to realize what you dont like and you need to realize his needs. you both need to learn about each others needs and think about if your ready to comply with what is expected of you both. but this little kid immaturity of argueing instead of communicating, and throwing things is the first step. and that really needs to stop!!
you two do need to sit down and talk, but when things start to blow up, dont try to win. let him say what he needs to say. talk dont yell, ask questions, dont accuse him of anything, tell him how you feel. tell him that you arent into the touchy feely type thing, tell him what you do and dont like doing, if he really cares for you he will try to respect your wishes, and do what you ask. also you need to tell him that you have noticed a change in the way he is acting and you are kind of worried. dont say ';i think your cheating on me'; tell him that you have noticed a change in the way he has been acting and tell him that you were worried that you did something to upset him, just ask him to talk to you and that you both need to tell the truth and not hold anything back hope this hepls good luckPlease help me i need relationship advice,am i not good enough?
Ummm...yeah you have way to many issues here. You say he did something '; compicated'; but to me it sounds like you are sending mix signals too. Maybe you two should just take a break for awhile from one another like you take a small trip to visit a friend or family member who is far away. Space will give you both time to figure things out.
I guess you really just need to sit down with him %26amp; talk about it. Try not to let it lead to fighting. If it keeps going on like this, maybe it just wasn't meant to be? Not sure, but I think you guys could make it work if you'd just stop fighting! :)
Well, I believe in certainty. Tell him outright that you don't love him and don't want him to communicate with him unless there is a good reason.
You don't like being smothered.. He is smothering you because of a lack of self confidence. Dump him
That is not a healthy relationship, I was in that boat before and violence became a regular thing. NOT GOOD!! I was also the same when it came to the breaking up question, I didnt want to because I was afraid that I would be single for a long time even though I was very unhappy with the girl, i didnt want to be alone. Sounds to me like this guy is thinking along the same lines. My advice, get out while you can before ye really do get hurt. It was the hardest thing Ive ever done but also the best.
well, apparently if you 2 can't communicate without fighting then that is one sign of you dont even need to be together. you need communication in a relationship trust me!. and the way he is acting is pathetic. you dont like to be all lovey dovey like he does. you have a temper problem and then it runs him off.. i think you should just break up with him tell him you both need time to think. you work on your temper/anger problem. get help with it if you need. theres anger management. so take it! if you want any relationship to ever work you cant blow up like that! you cant always have your way! drop the weapons your mouth is more powerful then anything. be a woman! i dont think you and him should be together until you both get your sh*t together!. he needs to realize what you dont like and you need to realize his needs. you both need to learn about each others needs and think about if your ready to comply with what is expected of you both. but this little kid immaturity of argueing instead of communicating, and throwing things is the first step. and that really needs to stop!!
I need an objective opinion Relationship Advice?
My boyfriend and i have been together for about two years. Over time he has become more and more hurtful. He never physically hurts me, he just says things that really hurt. He has called me stupid and nieve on the low end. He has said many things much worse, for example he had me hysterically crying because he was trying to convince me I needed to commit my self to mental ward and he was serious. He is very controlling and always has to have things his way. The radio, the heat, food everything no matter how small or big. He constantly questions if I am cheating on him and make ';jokes'; about it saying that I am having sex with this guy or that guy (and no I am not.) Tonight we had a fight, and I called him on it again and as usual he told me I am to sensitive and that I take things out of context and that he is just joking. But joking about my weight, my apperance, my smell, my intellegence those things hurt me and him saying he is joking doesn't make it better. Am I too sensitive?I need an objective opinion Relationship Advice?
He doesnt deserve you! If he really cared he would understand you take those things seriously.
It doesnt seen like he treats you with love and respect and as corny as it may sound to some. the truth is thats all a girl wants, so dont settle for second best.
I think him hurting your feelings is worse than a slap in the face, esp from you the guy you love.
Talk to him about it, if that doesnt work...deep down you know whats best for youI need an objective opinion Relationship Advice?
You need to get away from him as soon as you can. He has already usurped your personal power and soon he will have all of your self worth. His demeaning of you is abuse!
Strange thing is : if he (or anyone) tells you the same lie long enough and often enough, you will believe the lie.
RUN !!!
He has control issues and he is really enjoying the fact he can control you. Question is, how much more of this are you willing to take? How much more of this are you going to allow him to see how it effects you? That is what gives them the boost on their ego. These control freaks really enjoy making the girls cry.
You are not too sensitive. This guy is very insensitive and sound frankly like a jerk. From my vantage point, he sounds very insecure. I recommend that you distance yourself from him as far and as fast as you can. His abuse is likely to only get worse.
Find yourself a nice guy who appreciates you just the way you are.
Do not take this the wrong way,but you are stupid for putting up with him and he has no respest for you in any way.It is abuse even if he does not hit you.He would not like it if someone was talking to his mother or sister that way.Just give him the chance to change his ways or you change your address.
No you are not to sensitive or stupid or any of the other things he has said to you. Pack a bag, and go stay with your family or a friend tonight and work on getting away from this man. No one deserves to be treated this way.
Good grief! Why are you WITH this guy, anyway? You have stated nothing positive. Do you think you deserve to be happy? I think you do! Sensitivity is wonderful. The right guy will embrace it and give it back and you will find beautiful love.
Get the hell away from this idiot before you actually start to believe the garbage he's spewing at you. You deserve a heck of a lot better.
He does this to you, because he thinks so little about himself.
HE IS GARBAGE.
Do you have any respect for yourself? Do you really think a relationship is suppose to be like this? Do you want to live the rest of your life like this?
Do I really have to say RUN and never look back?
Leave this immature,cruel boyfriend and find a new man who is more mature and knows how to play nice.
He either needs to get help or you need to leave because it sounds like there is some verbal abuse going here.
Leave him before he destroys you mentally. You are not too sensitive, nobody should be treated like that. It doesn't sound like a joke to me what he's telling you.
Get out of the relationship now. No woman deserves that kind of ABUSE!
leave him...controlling and very rude
No, you aren't too sensitive. Stop crying and move on and do it soon. Good Luck.
You are not sensitive he's just very mean i recommend you ditch him
No your not. Leave! You won't though and thats sad.
Leave him
hes abusing you!
why let him!
get rid of the jerk, he doesnt love you
please leave him and find a nicer guy. u really dont deserve that
It does not matter if your BF is physically violent or not. He is being mentally hurtful and controlling. Being called names, making you believe that you are ';mental'; by trying to convince you that you need to commit yourself. The controlling issues of food, his questions, even though he is ';joking'; and demeaning your self worth is very abusive. I lived through this type of torture and did not realize what this type of behavior was and mistook this attention for ';love'; above all things, but mine was also physical in nature. I would suggest you find a friend or family member to go to for safety. If he has not hurt you physically yet, it might come to that. Whatever he does now, it is not worth you losing more of your self-esteem. Please, please do this for yourself. I am sure you are a very worthy, smart and beautiful person entitled to so much more that this world has to offer you. Please believe me when I say that his ';joking'; is NOT JOKING AT ALL!!!!
Why are you dating something that has crawled out from under a rock? There are better quality men out there. This guy knows he's a loser and the only way someone as fantastic as you will stay with him is if he grinds your self-esteem into the dirt. Now, girlfriend, tell me you haven't fallen for his BS, now have you?
Edit: He isn't going to kill himself if you leave. That's just pure emotional manipulation to make you stay. So, leave. If he does kill himself (very unlikely) it's nothing to do with you. He'll probably make a pretend attempt at it so you'll feel sorry for him, anyway. Avoid falling for that one.
It sounds like he's verbally/emotionally abusive. There is a very helpful book I strongly suggest you read: ';The Verbally Abusive Relationship'; by Patricia Evans. She goes into detail, with examples, of the different types of verbal abuse, how to recognize it, how to try to put a stop to it, and if all else fails, how to leave him without blaming yourself. Good luck!
Whoever said, ';sticks %26amp; stones may brake ur bones, but words never hurt';...LIED!!! I don't believe it's a matter of being too sensitive. It's just plain old disrespectful. Your boyfriend needs to grow up. And based on what you've said, I believe he's the one hurting. People who talk down to others or knowingly hurt their feelings, is just trying to build themselves up as their self-esteem is low. No relationship should be stressful. You've only lost 2 years. Head for the hills ASAP. Save yourself before matters get worse.
My ex husband used to ridicule me and when I called him on it, he would insist that it was a joke. I said to him, ';ok, it's only me and you here... and I have told you for years that I do NOT think it's funny, so WHO are you telling this ';joke'; to?
He had no answer. He was a miserable person that found pleasure in making others feel bad.
Sounds like that's what you have.
Whenever I was ready to leave, oh geez, he would insist that he loved me and couldn't live without me. When we did separate, he kissed my *** like a whipped dog until I took him back and then within 6 months would return to the emotional abuse.
Read ';The Emotionally Abusive Relationship';
BY Patricia Evans
He doesnt deserve you! If he really cared he would understand you take those things seriously.
It doesnt seen like he treats you with love and respect and as corny as it may sound to some. the truth is thats all a girl wants, so dont settle for second best.
I think him hurting your feelings is worse than a slap in the face, esp from you the guy you love.
Talk to him about it, if that doesnt work...deep down you know whats best for youI need an objective opinion Relationship Advice?
You need to get away from him as soon as you can. He has already usurped your personal power and soon he will have all of your self worth. His demeaning of you is abuse!
Strange thing is : if he (or anyone) tells you the same lie long enough and often enough, you will believe the lie.
RUN !!!
He has control issues and he is really enjoying the fact he can control you. Question is, how much more of this are you willing to take? How much more of this are you going to allow him to see how it effects you? That is what gives them the boost on their ego. These control freaks really enjoy making the girls cry.
You are not too sensitive. This guy is very insensitive and sound frankly like a jerk. From my vantage point, he sounds very insecure. I recommend that you distance yourself from him as far and as fast as you can. His abuse is likely to only get worse.
Find yourself a nice guy who appreciates you just the way you are.
Do not take this the wrong way,but you are stupid for putting up with him and he has no respest for you in any way.It is abuse even if he does not hit you.He would not like it if someone was talking to his mother or sister that way.Just give him the chance to change his ways or you change your address.
No you are not to sensitive or stupid or any of the other things he has said to you. Pack a bag, and go stay with your family or a friend tonight and work on getting away from this man. No one deserves to be treated this way.
Good grief! Why are you WITH this guy, anyway? You have stated nothing positive. Do you think you deserve to be happy? I think you do! Sensitivity is wonderful. The right guy will embrace it and give it back and you will find beautiful love.
Get the hell away from this idiot before you actually start to believe the garbage he's spewing at you. You deserve a heck of a lot better.
He does this to you, because he thinks so little about himself.
HE IS GARBAGE.
Do you have any respect for yourself? Do you really think a relationship is suppose to be like this? Do you want to live the rest of your life like this?
Do I really have to say RUN and never look back?
Leave this immature,cruel boyfriend and find a new man who is more mature and knows how to play nice.
He either needs to get help or you need to leave because it sounds like there is some verbal abuse going here.
Leave him before he destroys you mentally. You are not too sensitive, nobody should be treated like that. It doesn't sound like a joke to me what he's telling you.
Get out of the relationship now. No woman deserves that kind of ABUSE!
leave him...controlling and very rude
No, you aren't too sensitive. Stop crying and move on and do it soon. Good Luck.
You are not sensitive he's just very mean i recommend you ditch him
No your not. Leave! You won't though and thats sad.
Leave him
hes abusing you!
why let him!
get rid of the jerk, he doesnt love you
please leave him and find a nicer guy. u really dont deserve that
It does not matter if your BF is physically violent or not. He is being mentally hurtful and controlling. Being called names, making you believe that you are ';mental'; by trying to convince you that you need to commit yourself. The controlling issues of food, his questions, even though he is ';joking'; and demeaning your self worth is very abusive. I lived through this type of torture and did not realize what this type of behavior was and mistook this attention for ';love'; above all things, but mine was also physical in nature. I would suggest you find a friend or family member to go to for safety. If he has not hurt you physically yet, it might come to that. Whatever he does now, it is not worth you losing more of your self-esteem. Please, please do this for yourself. I am sure you are a very worthy, smart and beautiful person entitled to so much more that this world has to offer you. Please believe me when I say that his ';joking'; is NOT JOKING AT ALL!!!!
Why are you dating something that has crawled out from under a rock? There are better quality men out there. This guy knows he's a loser and the only way someone as fantastic as you will stay with him is if he grinds your self-esteem into the dirt. Now, girlfriend, tell me you haven't fallen for his BS, now have you?
Edit: He isn't going to kill himself if you leave. That's just pure emotional manipulation to make you stay. So, leave. If he does kill himself (very unlikely) it's nothing to do with you. He'll probably make a pretend attempt at it so you'll feel sorry for him, anyway. Avoid falling for that one.
It sounds like he's verbally/emotionally abusive. There is a very helpful book I strongly suggest you read: ';The Verbally Abusive Relationship'; by Patricia Evans. She goes into detail, with examples, of the different types of verbal abuse, how to recognize it, how to try to put a stop to it, and if all else fails, how to leave him without blaming yourself. Good luck!
Whoever said, ';sticks %26amp; stones may brake ur bones, but words never hurt';...LIED!!! I don't believe it's a matter of being too sensitive. It's just plain old disrespectful. Your boyfriend needs to grow up. And based on what you've said, I believe he's the one hurting. People who talk down to others or knowingly hurt their feelings, is just trying to build themselves up as their self-esteem is low. No relationship should be stressful. You've only lost 2 years. Head for the hills ASAP. Save yourself before matters get worse.
My ex husband used to ridicule me and when I called him on it, he would insist that it was a joke. I said to him, ';ok, it's only me and you here... and I have told you for years that I do NOT think it's funny, so WHO are you telling this ';joke'; to?
He had no answer. He was a miserable person that found pleasure in making others feel bad.
Sounds like that's what you have.
Whenever I was ready to leave, oh geez, he would insist that he loved me and couldn't live without me. When we did separate, he kissed my *** like a whipped dog until I took him back and then within 6 months would return to the emotional abuse.
Read ';The Emotionally Abusive Relationship';
BY Patricia Evans
What to do in this relationship???!!! ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE!!?
Okay, so this may be somewhat long. I first want to say, I truly need honest advice, so please no pointless responses. If you can relate or have been in this situation please share your advice. THANKS! So here goes... I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. The first 2 months were perfect. He seemed to always be nice and we had no problems. Now, I've discovered the ';real'; him. I'm going to discuss this by saying what hurts me and makes me want out of this relationship. He has a very short temper, I can ask the simplest question, and he will snap on me. I honestly tread on eggshells in constant fear that I will upset him.. Like I wake up scared to call him bc I don't know what mood he will be in. That is the biggest problem, he gets so mad at me for nothing and is just so mean. And when I say I'm unhappy and threaten to end it, he says that that is not what he wants but whatever, just end it. He makes it seem like he doesnt care; however, i know if i walked out, he would care. He also never devotes his time to me, I'm always the one coming to see him and whatnot, he never comes to see me. He focuses mostly on his time and I just seem to fit into his schedule. We do see each other a lot and spend a lot of time together but that is ONLY bc I make it happen. His selfishness with time and his terrible temper are the only things that make me want out. Now to the reason, I don't know if i can end it. When we are getting along, and he's trying to be sweet(aka. The GUY I fell in love with to start with), I'm the happiest girl in the world. He makes me feel like I never have. He shows me the most affection I've ever been shown. I've honestly never had anyone make me any happier. I love him more than I ever thought I could love anyone. He is the first guy I can say I'm honestly scared I will LOSE. So it's basically a relationship of mixed emotions. I have never had someone that can hurt me so bad but also make me so happy. I don't know if I could ever be happy without him, but I know that I can't deal with being this unhappy this often with him. If anyone has any advice about what I should do, please share it with me. I'm at the end of my rope and do not know what to do. Please HELP! thanksWhat to do in this relationship???!!! ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE!!?
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You should post your question here:
http://relationshipadviceandconfessions.鈥?/a>
You can email your questions to a relationship expert and they will reply with an answer. You can also post relationship confessions. It's cool and they really helped me with a problem I had tonight. I don't think you deserve to be so unhappy!
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