Anyone have good relationship advice??

I have been w my bf for 4 yrs %26amp; we cant seem to make it work. He cant respect my space %26amp; has people over all the time. I am a shy person %26amp; am not comfortable with that. He recentley told his guy friend he could stay with us til september %26amp; didnt even talk to me first. Other times hes so considerate but it seems like the negatives out weigh the positives in our relationship. I told him im moving out because this was the last straw. I love him alot %26amp; i dont know if im going to make a mistake by leaving? I also want to know anyones advice about having a baby with him- i was pregnant with his baby a few years ago %26amp; decided i wasnt ready at the time %26amp; think that reason may be why we have drifted apart. Do u think if i stayed and we had a baby it would make things better %26amp; bring us closer?? Im so confused!Anyone have good relationship advice??
I';ve been married for four years so I know relationships can be tough..have you let all this be known to your man? He's not a mind reader,but at the same time should've run the idea of a house guest by you too..who's place is it originally? was it his or was it yours? did you get it together? i don't think moving out is such a bad idea..maybe you two need to start from square one again to regroup and see if this relationship is worth fixing...then again if he just blatantly doesn't consider you at all then..you may want to consider just leaving altogether....





Trust me..children as much of a blessing they are won't make a straying couple closer together..in some cases may cause more problems..i wouldn't want to put a child through that...Anyone have good relationship advice??
No it wouldn't make things better. It could temporarily but it would only delay the inevitable. I don't understand how people think babies can make a relationship better. Please don't bring another life in this world for such a selfish reason.





You have to accept the fact that this relationship is not working out. You said yourself that he is inconsiderate and the negatives outweigh the positives. Why would you want to bring a child aboard a sinking ship?
Everything happens for a reason. Don't worry about the past. Work on your relationship right now. Talk to him about his buddy leaving and try counseling if talking it out isnt working.
Don't have a baby. My gf and I just split up last week and it's b/c of a problem that has come up time and time again in our relationship. Every 8 months or so, she says that she doesn't feel a spark, it's come back every time, but I can't do it anymore, b/c I don't feel like she is fighting for me, just for heself. I noticed it a lot of times when she would start doing things that were really inconsiderate and sometimes even hurtful, finally, I pushed the issue and now we are taking space so she can reevaluate her life and whether or not she wants me in it. That is the only thing that is keeping me strong, is realizing that I will only go back into our relationship if I know that she wants, not needs me.





Base your decisions on his wants and needs and what in the long run, without emotions, will make you happy.
having a baby doesn't always bring people closer together. it's usually a test of a relationship and people either become closer or more distant, and rarely something in between. A lot of couples get animals, because you both have to take care of an animal, but it's not as much responsiblity as a child. Don't blame yourself. You shouldn't have to add another person (baby) to your relationship to make it work





I've only been with my boyfriend for a year and I know after 4 years, it's hard to let a relationship go, but you might want to consider it. There is someone out there for everyone but rarely do we find them because we're commited for the wrong person.





good luck
If he wants to be a responsible father, than that could bring you closer, but It's not going to improve the general situation of your relationship (at least in your best interest. It could, but the majority of times it's not). If he's not respecting your input as an individual, than yeah he obviously thinks he can be independent. Take some time away from him first, leaving him alone for a while and have him come back to you. You need to find a way to make him question himself. Probably right now he thinks he's not doing anything wrong since you moved out, that you're ';just trippin';.





If anything, question the essence of your relationship to him. Ask each other, what made you guys fall in love? Or if he ever loved you at all.
The one thing you need to remember is - NEVER have a baby to try and patch up a relationship, 1) it'll be harder for you to have a baby and have a relationship that you don't find works and 2) it's cruel to bring a baby into an unstable relationship. It sounds like you are having big doubts about this, and if the bad things are weighing out the good things, then you obviously aren't happy. You said he can't respect your space, well have you told him this? If you have and he STILL isn't respecting your space, then you need to either have firmer words or end the relationship. Love is meant to make you happy. (: