And it probaby wouldn't hurt to mention that we never have sex anymore. According to him, he's just not that sexual of a guy. I know these things are common in relationships, but we are mid 20s....shouldn't things be more exciting and active?
Any advice/words of wisdom?I need some relationship advice!!?
I'm sure everyone will tell you to leave him and move on. But I was in a very similar situation when I was your age. And let me tell you, if this is someone you really love and want a future with, you have to work hard at the relationship. It's totally salvageable. The biggest thing you have do is communicate. Don't make accusatory statements or try to guess what the other person is thinking. Just state what you feel and why so you %26amp; he can work out your issues.I need some relationship advice!!?
Yes I'd assume by this age you'd be all about sex and parties but for most people their relationship leans towards the romantic side, but that still doesn't mean there's no sex.
Your relationship lacks both sex and romance,
there's no passion and to be honest there's no way to change it as long as you're with him.
If you want to do things he doesn't, but don't want to break up with him just do these things with someone else (Not a guy, obviously), if he doesn't want to it's not a crime. Let him be.
Good luck!
My best friend is in this same situation. Unfortunately, they broke up because all he like to do is stay home, eat and watch movies, and whenever she asked to go out and do something fun, he'd get mad, and sometimes even jealous and overprotective. I would say keep asking him to do these outdoor activities with you, tell him how much you love him and how you're trying to make your relationship more fun and exciting.
I think the ';lack of sex interest'; is due to his inactivity... if you stay inside and do nothing, you will do nothing.. you need to talk to him.. if you are an active person and he isn't, you either need to break up and move on or you do your stuff and he does his.. you don't always have to be together... it is OK to have ';your lives';... maybe get his input on the vacation plans.. have him there when plans are made..
It's time to move on. He isn't going to do the things you want to, it will only get worse and create unnecessary fights.
no sex, come on, sorry to say, but he just doesn't sound into it. I did this once and the relationship was more conveinance than anything.
Save yourself now, get out and find someone you are more compatible with.
Well, it sounds like you may be in a slump. But I agree that you should be having a lot of fun and especially having sex. I would talk to him about it because usually what you see is what you get and do you want to spend the rest of your life not having fun or sex?
My advice to you would be to tell your husband all of this! Let him know you feel restless and want to get out more! Maybe he has things he would like as well. Communication is key in a good, healthy relationship. Talk to him and make sure he knows that you want to do more, he might be clueless. Good luck with everything!!
20's?
He should be banging you like a screen door in a hurricane.
Marriage does NOT ';make things better.'; Neither does having a baby.
People's flaws and bad habits only get worse in marriage since people tend to think ';i'm married, now i can relax.';
it's a him problem.
find someone who rocks your socks off in all the areas YOU find important.
That's not the way relationship are or should be everyone has to compromise he needs to do things you want sometimes like vacations and go out on occasion just like you have been staying home with him because he is a homebody talk to him and try to get him to compromise.
You are young and you don't need this. I would seriously think about your future and think about if you want to invest any more time with this guy. Think about it hard...you don't need to be unhappy and unfulfilled in the bedroom (if you know what I mean). I know it may seem scary but really give it some thought.
It is your choice,it sounds like your in your 50's not 20's.You only get one life, either live with it or go out and do stuff yourself and either he come along or you find someone else who will.You will only regret not doing so latter when it is to late.
You are young and as an older woman I am telling you it will only get worse. You are not made for each other. You will be sooooo bored with your life and believe me you have many many years to go. You may love him but is he ';THE ONE'; for you. Something to think about....
you should try and tell him that your upset because other couples do stuff together and that you feel that he doesnt want to co-operate and that he thinks that there are better things to do than spend time with you.
They should,well if you haven't sexed it's not something weird,I am not a sexual guy too!But,lived one year or not,if you don't love him break up.If you love him,how he is boring?
ok this is wat u need to do tell him that i can't stay stuck in side as u said and so he wants to well may be u can go for a walk and then yall can just talk about things. well yall need to talk
You should be having the time of your life right now. Ask yourself...Would I be better off with him or without him? Go from there.
hells yes he should jumping on you every day and taking you out doors and jumping on you there too.
Your question should read ';My best friend and I ...'; He does love you, not as a woman, tho.
I think that about explains it, huh?
things should be more exciting. when you've been with someone for a long time it does dwindle from how it used to be. ask youself this--%26gt;can you see yourself without him? if you can picture yourself living life and he's not in view then i think you know what to do. if you can't imagine a day without him then find out his schedule and plan things together (i hear white water rafting is a lot of fun! just an idea). sit down and talk to him. it sounds like he might be bored (because he's boring!)...once he bucks up the sex might be looking up too....
I am 23 and my girlfriend is 19,we always are planning and discussing holidays,daytrips,meals out and activities.Like you I am very active and at your age things should be exciting and want to be able and enjoy your free time to do things that are different and fulfilling.I would suggest you just say you are feeling restless staying in constantly and you want to get out and enjoy more things with him, it will also keep the relationship strong.Say its getting repetitive,show him holidays online and try to tell him all the exciting things you could whilst awiay or days out,if you are enthusiastic it may start to rub off.If he doesnt start to come round to these idea's then maybe thats the way he is going to stay and do you want to regret not doing things you desire to do?Dont let him stop you and I hope you can drum into him theres more to life then work and television.As for the sex, well that is unusal,if I dont have sex for more then two days I get frustrated!Try spicing it up,read up on it and try and do new things.Best of luck and hope he gets more up and go:)
It should be more exciting and more active. Have you offered your boyfriend to get out and have some alone time and do something that he likes doing. This could help if you spend alot of time together. It could be that he is not very sexually active. This is rare but men face this sometimes, even young men. He could also be having some trouble in this area and that is very senstive for men to talk about, which is why some claim to just not be very sexually inclined. I would talk to him and tell him that you want time with him and that you feel you are drifting apart and ask him suggestions of things that he would like the two of you to do together to try and spark things up a bit.
hi i understand where your coming from but im a little younger than you and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years also. He is also very lazy and never wants to do anything, i just sat down and we kind of talked it out and we both decided to make changes so that we can compromise on things that one or the other wants to do. Just like you I love the outdoors but all he does is want to just sit and lay around . We had to change our ways to benifit for the both of us ! Just talk it out ! hope i helped!
Wow he does not sound like the one for you.. How frustrating it must be for you he is def not the one for you! Imagine if there is no fun and no sex now what it would be like if you actually married this guy.. sounds like another ex couple to add to the divorce rate.. You need to move on and find someone with similar interest trust me. My sister in law is going through a divorce after being married 1 year simply because shes active hes lazy and she wants sex and he says hes not a sexual type person and so on.. leave now before you regret staying
While reading your question I noticed how you never mentioned what he likes to do. Ask him what he likes to do as a hobby or just becuase he's still young and needs to get out of the house. and about the sex life, you can't always just expect him to start, lead him on, foreplay. You may not know this, well I got it from Cosmo mag that your cell phone is the ultimate sex toy. You can send a steamy video to him while at work or with the gang and moan etc. And text him dirty thoughts, this will get him excited, but to keep it going make him wait. That will help him last longer. Maybe hes the type of guy who likes to chill and watch movies, this gives you extra girl time too. Sometimes you gotta get him up and out and make him expierence it and see if he likes it. Even trick him!
Tell him your taking him some where he goes and likes and instead plan a ride in a hot air balloon and a bike ride or walk, whatever you like to do. But dont over push him and make him angry.
Good luck
- Cait
I was in the same situation as your going thru and I thank everyone for there help and advice while I was going thru it. I found a song that really gave me strength to hold on. It took one year and now my prayers have been answered. I feel like a newlywed again.
These are words from THIRD DAY(Wherever You Are) that really touched my life. Go to there site and listen to these songs. May God give you strength and I will be praying for you.
I won't pretend to know what you're thinking
I won't begin to know what you're going through
I won't deny the paint that you're feeling
But I'm gonna try and give a little hope to you.
Just remember what I've told you
There's so much you're living for
There's a light at the end of this tunnel
There's a light at the end of ths tunnel
For you, for you
There's a light at the end of this tunnel
Shinin bright at end of this tunnel
for you, for you
So keep holdin on
You've got your disappointments and sorrows
You ought to share the weight of that load with me
Then you will find that the light of tomorrow
Brings a new lite for your eyes to see
CRY OUT TO JESUS
To everyone who's lost someone they love
Long before it was their time
You feel like the days you had were not enough
when you said goodbye
And to all of the people with burdens and pains
Keeping you back from your life
You believe that there's nothing and there is no one
Who can make it right
There is hope for the helpless
Rest for the weary
Love for the broken heart
There is grace and forgiveness
Mercy and healing
He'll meet you wherever you are
Cry out to Jesus, Cry out to Jesus
For the marriage that's struggling just to hang on
They鈥檝e lost all of their faith in love
They've done all they can to make it right again
Still it's not enough
For the ones who can't break the addictions and chains
You try to give up but you come back again
Just remember that you're not alone in your shame
And your suffering
When your lonely
And it feels like the whole world is falling on you
You just reach out, you just cry out to Jesus
Cry to Jesus
To the widow who suffers from being alone
Wiping the tears from her eyes
For the children around the world without a home
Say a prayer tonight
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