Girlfriend Help (Attention and Relationship Advice Please)?

I met this girl at the start of the year at college.





Anyhow, we instantly clicked. We started hanging out, and making out a bit at college events. After a month or so we became exclusive.





However this girl is so much different to any girl I have been with before. Her aim was to not have a boyfriend freshman year, ( and neither was it my aim to get a gf) however with time I really grew attached. As did she, and as of last friday we officially started going out.





The thing is though, shes just really odd with seeing me. Like for example (we live in the same building) unless I ask her to visit me, or I visit her she acts as though I am not alive. She is never the one to text me. It always has to be me visting her. When we are together it is perfect, however, as soon as we are apart it feels like she doesnt care.





I have talked to her and told her I really hate it when she doesnt give me attention, and she just says that she is new to all this and she never visits people.





I want to know if this is normal? And do I just put up with it, or do I try to get her to change?





Both me and my girlfriend are 18.Girlfriend Help (Attention and Relationship Advice Please)?
In all honesty, it sounds to me as if she's simply too busy to bother with the sort of relationship yours has become. I was in a similar situation when I was about her/your age. I had so much on my plate that adding a relationship into the mix felt more like a responsibility than anything else. Eventually, the relationship failed, which was, sad as this may be to admit, a bit of a relief rather than a source of emotional pain.





I have no idea whether or not the way that I felt was normal, nor do I know what's normal for her, but what I do know is that you can't change someone. Maybe she'll have time to take a more aggressive role in your relationship when her life becomes less hectic. Maybe that sort of thing simply isn't in her nature. Maybe a relationship simply isn't a priority in her book. Regardless, if you choose to be romantically involved with her, you'll have to learn to tolerate her behavior.





If you try to get someone to change, all you're going to do is cause stress, tension and melodrama within the relationship. Essentially, it's like telling them that they're not the right person for you, but they could be if they just pretended to be someone they're not. That's not fair to anyone. If anything, it's selfish because all we're truly doing is trying to make ourselves more comfortable by making those around us uncomfortable.





Of course, it also sounds to me as if you aren't happy with the current situation. I'm not trying to tell you that your happiness isn't important. It is. Simply put, if she isn't the right person for you, perhaps your time would be better spent looking for the right person rather than trying to change (and/or becoming hopelessly frustrated with) the wrong one. Granted, it's still a little early in your relationship to tell, but if you're already unhappy, that's probably not a good sign.





Whatever you choose to do, I wish you the best of luck.