In need of relationship advice?

I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him to bits, but I have constant doubts about him. We started going out September 2008, and in May I found out he had partly cheated on me for about a week at the end of october- begining of november. He didnt sleep with the girl, he just kissed her and flirted with her and told her how much he wants to sleep with her, but nomore than kissing happended. The second time happened in January, when he went on a work course, one of the girls from his work had meant to have given him a bj, however he strongly denies it happened, bt had been straight about the other girl, so Ive never actually known what happend with her in jan. Since this, he has switched stores, and to me has been friendly with another girl, but everyones says its innocent, but I cant help but question it.


However, when I got with him I knew he was a player and always got up to mischief, but he says hes older now and has grown out of it and tht im the love of his life, hes even told me he wants to propose to me and take me away this november for a weekend.


However, theres constant things he does to annoy me, like, he works upto 50 hours a week, and then hes too tired to see me or to see me for too long, and hed rather play on his xbox 360 - However I know hes on there cuz hes on the live thing and plays with my brother, so i know its true. But also, hes nearly always got an excuse not to sleep with me, likes hes too tired, or he doesnt wanna wear himself out before work, or his moms in etc.


He's also on about goin on a lads holiday in feb with his mates, but I dont know if I can trust him to behave, as he will be getting drunk everyday and I dont like the way he behaves when drunk and im scared he will cheat on me.


But when hes with me, hes really loving, and he buys me presents, and he always cuddles me and tells me he loves me and when we are out in public, he holds my hand and kisses me etc, and even infront of all his mates his does.


Im ever so confused what to do. Can someone please give me some advice. Ask me questions if you like, im happy to answer them if it will help me out.





Thanks.In need of relationship advice?
I only read a bit....but it was enough for me to say this......life is actually very short! imagine looking back and thinking you had wasted time on someone who didn't return your love! everyone deserves the best for themselves, and you shouldn't stop until you find it. He doesn't appreciate what he has, but maybe he's not ready to commit? you need to find someone else, good luck, and lots of love


xIn need of relationship advice?
he will forever cheat on you Tell tale signs are there so leave.
I'm sorry but I only had to read the first four lines before i made up my mind what i was going to write back. He sounds like such a sleaze!! Break up with him before he hurts you anymore girl. You deserve someone so much better, he obviously doesn't care about you much if he's cheating on you. and flirting is not harmless fun, flirting is flirting and kissing isn't partly cheating. It's cheating. Get someone you deserve cos you seem like a lovely person :)
Well I hate to say it but if you have doubts... and you know he has flirted with girls in the past... it really doesnt matter whether or not hes loving while he is with you... in my eyes at least... because you will always be thinking these things when he is out... is he cheating on me... is he with a girl...does he think shes hott? all these questions will be running through your mind... and youll drive yourself insane with these thoughts... its happened to me...and im a guy... lol... well my best advice if you want to stay with him is this... make sure you can trust him... sit down and talk to him about how you feel... communicate... its very important... and if you dont feel safe... please dont be afraid to leave... a guy being tired of having sex.... come on... thats no excuse... lol... and playing games to the extent of what he is probably playing them... shows a very immature side... Well if i was you i would weigh my options... list the pros and the cons of your relationship... how you feel... what makes you upset and sad... then from that list... decide... if the cons out weigh the pros.... i would find yourself a new boyfriend... its not healthy worrying and stressing over someone that has the potential to cheat... Please contact me for more advice any time... send me a email or anything... relationship_doctor@yahoo.com ttyl!
A relationships is built on trust if there is no trust then whats the point? you'd be much better off without him. Imagine if you two got married and he went out for a lads night just 6 months after you two hitched and he cheated on you? you should stay away... Get away from him you deserve someone much better than him hun!
Well, I'm really sorry to say it, but in my experience a guy that is a player when you start dating him will be a player until he loses you because of it. I'm a guy, and I've got a few friends who act like that, and it doesn't necessarily mean they're bad guys, it just means that they... want to have their cake and eat it too, if that makes any sense.





I'm sure he wants to be with you, he obviously cares about you a lot, but, because he is a guy, he also wants to get with every cute girls he sees. For us, there is always the challenge of ';could I get with her?'; and it's very hard to leave that question unanswered. So he wants both of those things (which is natural for guys). What is WRONG of him to do is not respect you enough to realize he has to have one or the other. His experience has led him to believe that he can have you AND mess around a little bit (or a lot) with another girl. If you don't stand up for yourself, and seriously drop him if he keeps it up, he will continue to believe that it's okay for him to have both. And just remember, if you caught him doing it once, think of how many times he did it and you didn't find out.





And I don't understand how a guy can be too tired to have sex, or not want to wear himself out for work, especially if it's happening more than once. Something doesn't add up there.

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