I have a bunch of friends that might not be the greatest people, but they're friends. I usually try to make plans to hang out with them when I know I'm going to be waiting for my girlfriend to get off work. She absolutely hates it %26amp; starts arguments with me all the time about them %26amp; how I get to hang out with my friends at least %26amp; all she does is work. I try desperately not to argue with her, but she always ends up making some personal attack that sets me off.
She commonly complains that we both work too much %26amp; we never get to ';spend quality time with each other'; if you catch my drift. Two nights ago we got home late but I stayed up way past the time I should have gone to sleep to make sure we ';spent some quality time together';. I ended up getting four hours of sleep. She got off work yesterday at 6:15 and we had planned to spend the night together, quiet, no parties or anything. When I picked her up from work she told me that she had told her cousin she was going to stop by later. I figured it wouldn't be too late, so we did our thing, went home, I took a shower, we headed back out to her cousins house (also 30 mins away from where we live) and spent the rest of the night there, till about midnight. She knew I wanted to go to bed early to catch up on sleep and completely disregarded my requests. Now I'm at work feeling guilty because for some reason she was mad at me this morning for saying nasty things to her last night (probably something like ';I'm going to feel like sh*t in the morning'; or ';why do we always have to stay out so late';, but to be honest I really don't remember what happened past 11:30), half awake, hungry, tired, irritable, can't concentrate... Do I have a right to be mad? She does these things to me all the time. I told her that I only hang with friends while she's at work and within a reasonable time frame unless it's the weekend. I told her that if she wanted to hang out with friends while I'M at work, she'd have to wake up sometime before 2 PM and actually do something with her day. I don't want to leave her, but this lifestyle is driving me into the ground %26amp; when I explain it to my parents or anybody else they tell me they think I party too much.
Help?Can I have some relationship advice?
Eddy as I only have your side of the story it sounds like she isn't understanding and doesn't really care what you think or feel. You chauffeur her everywhere she needs to go and wait around for her and all she can do is complain about it and start arguments. That's pretty immature on her part.
I have a fresh idea check and see if you have public transportation from your home to where she works. If the bus goes by get her a bus pass for a month and let her take the bus to work and to see family and friends. I bet after a month of this she will see your point and chill out a bit.
Has she considered working during the hours you work? I know you said it's 30 minutes away but could you take her to work in before you go and pick her up afterwords?
Record one of your arguments and let her listen to it later then she wont be able to turn your words around. Also let her family listen to it chances are she's making you look like the bad guy when in fact your not at all.Can I have some relationship advice?
Man, that blows....
Have you tried talking to her about the situation that your in or how you feel about everything?
If this is reallybothering you, you two should take a break for a bit and see if it get's any better.
Well you can't keep killing your self for a few hr.s of some ok fun times. You need to decide what is more impotent in your live right now. I hope all works out for you.
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