Need some serious intimate relationship advice please?

I have been seeing this guy for 6 months, friend of mine for many years. We are having an issue in the intimacy department and I'm desperately hoping for some advice.


He is in his 30s and is still a virgin... when it comes down to it all is good during foreplay but he looses 'concentration'. He's terribly depressed and I'm trying so hard to find a solution. Was even thinking about pheromone perfumes. I'm a very open person, if anyone ever had this problem or has even the slightest clue or suggestion I'd be grateful for any advice.Need some serious intimate relationship advice please?
Sounds like he had some bad upbringing there. Something to make him feel sex was not nice. I might suggest an eye mask or make him put a soft pillow over his face so he can pretend he's not in control of what is happening. Or you can just tell him before the ';act'; that you don't think it's a good idea, and you really shouldn't be doing this and maybe he can put it in just a little and then take yourself away and tease him that way. A few times of that and he should be able to fulfill. Nice soft music helps and very dim light. ??????Need some serious intimate relationship advice please?
There are no definite answers and there is lots you can do but it will what you can tolerate and what makes you comfortable. the fact that he has chosen to keep his virginity was his choice alone, he could thinking of what it will mean when he does lose it, maybe he finds that foreplay is not to his satisfaction and maybe wants more but wants to wait. you could talk to him about this situation and let him know you feelings and ask him to share his ideas and thoughts with you, because it is not just about you or him, it is about you both, He surely will compromise with you, but he is not a mind reader which makes it more important for you to communicate with him.
Do you mean he gets limp? Or he just gives up?





Edit: Sounds like its an anxiety/psychological thing, especially since you said he's an older virgin. But first he should have a check-up with a doctor and make sure to rule out some sort of medical or physical problem like high blood pressure. After he's deemed healthy, then tackle the issue in another way.
ok so im going to assume that since he is a virgin, he is nervous so massage him to relax him and tell him not to be nervous because you already know that he is a virgin and you understand how he feels. Then try to get his wildest fantasy out of him and when he least expects it, do it. for example when he is coming out of the shower, or when he gets home from work. If that doesn't work here are more ideas....


-dirty talk to him so he knows that your truly as naughty as he is.


-dance sexually for him.


-say ';im going to pleasure my self, anytime you wish to jump in please do so.'; and then carry on from there


-ask him what gets him going and do that. for example nibbling ear lobe.





I hope it works out!
i have no idea - obviosuly keep trying things - lingerie, toys, games, etc... if all else fails, talk to him about it in a supportive way and maybe you should visit the doctor TOGETHER about it.
Maybe try an Aphrodisiac? Here's some info on it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aphrodisiac
The question is have you talk with him about this issue , maybe he is having phyical problems with p----. and is embaress to talk about it.
just let him know that its okay since its his first


dont put him down or make fun of him in any way


laugh and play around, besides its supposed to be fun!


have a romantic date before


and just you lead
How old are you is my first question? And also do you know why he is depressed? When you answer those two things I can surely re-answer this with a good answer!
uhh try doing something relaxing and after foreplay dont just jump right into it, go very very sloww and make sure you keep his attention with alot of kissing and rubbing
Try Viagra, or assume he is unsuccessfully fighting his inner gay-ness.
you should go down on him so he'll be like super turned on and when he least expects it get on top of him and you do him :)
talk to him about it, or find out what turns him on EXACTLY and do that.
talk to him it and if you have done this already then take control yourself in teh bedroom dont' let him loose focus.
run for the door
Wear something sexy. Put on your best lingerie and be posed and waiting for him when he comes home. This should be an instant turn on. Slowly undress him using only your teeth. Men love when women use their mouths because it is so sexual in nature.





Give your boyfriend a sexy massage. Have them lay face down on the bed naked. Lather sexy massage oil all over his body. Take off your clothes. Straddle him. Begin massaging his body, allowing your body to touch his. Let your boobs and pelvis work into his body. This will be an instant turn on. After you've massaged his back side have him flip over. Seeing you touch him and work on him will get him going for sure.





Tease him with a strip show. Put on some sultry music and put on a show. Give him a lap dance and treat him like a client in a strip club. Tell him there's a no touching policy. This will make him want to touch you more. If he does touch you give him a warning or a punishment if you want. Make yourself seem irresistible and you will be. Your guy will be begging to touch you. Have fun.





watch porn together, bondage?