well it started almost 5 years ago. I met an Indian boy online.. I've met many people online before and I only ever talked to them a few times.. but something was different about this guy.. we talked everyday for months and one day he told me he thought he was falling in love with me.. My reaction: I was angry.. (sound weird?) well I believed what everyone has always said about online dating.. that's its for weirdos and nerds which neither of us are... I told him it was impossible for him to have feelings for someone he's never met... but he insisted he was being honest.... well I wasn't the nicest person to him for a while.. it took me a LONG TIME to feel like I could trust him.. and then one day I realized I loved him too... now everyday my love grows stronger and stronger... never once has he doubted his love for me but I'm not as strong of a person as he is... anyway to make a very long story short.. My boyfriend and I are stuck... like I said earlier its been 5 years and I've not met him yet... i feel like we can't grow and move on as a couple.. i haven't even touched him or kissed him... seems so weird because I feel like I have in some ways... anyway many things hold us back from each other.. his job is very time consuming and requires a lot from him... and I'm working two jobs and neither of us have time for one another.. and i miss him so much.. I miss my best friend.... i can't tell u all the times I felt like I'd have a emotional break down... most of the time I feel like I can't go on... i'm so frustrated not having him here.... he hopes his job will give him enough experience to make it in another country... he's very intelligent i know he can go far... but there's just so much stopping us from getting to each other... has ANYONE OUT THERE EVER DEALT WITH THIS!? what do I do? how do I go on each day without him? How long were u separated from your loved one? Please I need some help... i feel like no one understands what I'm going through... thanks ~M.K.Long distance relationship advice please.. dating an Indian and I'm an American?
I know exactly how you feel. I met my boyfriend online and we have a long distance relationship also. He lives in Florida, me in England. We didn't really expect much to go on at first, we just flirted and talked for months on end and then realised at some point we were falling in love. Even though we had never met each other, we knew each other inside out, we talked almost every night, and when we didn't we hated it. We shared everything with each other, all our feelings, childhood stories etc. We've known each other for 2 years now, and are inseparable. At some point we realised that what we had couldn't go on unless we had at least met each other in person. We knew we loved one another, but it was just sense to at least meet each other before we went any further. Why go along, putting your life on hold, when you don't know for certain (and by that I mean 100%) that it's real what you both share? Me and my boyfriend met just 3 weeks ago actually. He flew over to me, and the week we had together was the best we've ever had. We just belonged together, and we knew that once we met. But watching him go back home at the airport, was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I've never been so sad in all my life, I cried for days on end, but I knew for certain I was in love and that I'd do everything I could so we could end up together. We're both at college/university at the moment, studying. I'm currently looking up programs/courses to take up in Florida so I can study there either next year or the year after. In the meantime, we'll visit each other once or twice a year. It's hard, but we know once we're together we'll be happy.
Even though it works out for some people, and who's to say it could still go wrong for me (hope not), it doesn't work out for a lot more. Before you really do anything else, you should be certain you love each other. Then, make your choices in meeting one another. Smartly of course, when you meet make sure it's the usual safety matters..public place, take a friend/family member etc. Just in case, you never know. But, that one visit can determine your future. I think it's worth finding out if you belong with one another, for both your sakes.
And remember, if you really love each other, you will find a way to be together. Long distance relationship advice please.. dating an Indian and I'm an American?
ill be honest, ive done this with a girl who moved a couple states away. and honestly, it doesnt work out. its hard enough keeping a relationship together when people are near. im sure you love him, but dont torture yourself
Why do you trust him? Has he ever put himself in danger for you or done some important sacrifice just for you with no hope of return? Did you conside that he might have dozens of women he is talking to like this? You have no way of knowing anyting about this man except to meet with him, and then live with him for a while. Otherwise your life will turn into a giant hallucination. WAKE UP!
why havent you tried to meet in 5 years? but, yeah i do understand.
i give up. i think i already had my nervous breakdown recently. but my relationship was much different than yours and he wont come here. and wouldnt meet me when i tried in the past. you dont know, maybe these guys are really married already and just mess with you cuz youre online while their at work. then go home to their wives or girlfriends. but, hey. good luck to you.
I believed i was in love with someone i, too, had never met. We went on for a while believing it was love... and it really was. He lived in northern florida and i in southern. it seems a lot father then you think. well now that we have met it is faded. we are as if we were married for many years. we have a strength in our relationship that has grown over the ages. when a long distance relationship finds its way to your front door... and suddenly it turns into a short one you will see if it was meant to be. But as for now when it comes down too it... if you really love him... really really love him... then you need to find that strength... and you also need to use it too hold on. For the people who say that you cant be in love with someone you never met i say that love is unpredictable. it comes when you least expect it... and under these hard conditions you face it is true that love will hold strong if love is there. Keep believing until believing fails... then once you firmly believe it is not working... and your heart has given out and there is not more strength to be strong with... let it go. and not for anything but yourself.
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